Going Gray

I think i have grey hairs but it's hard to tell w. my hair color. Nor do i care, really.

 

several years ago I use to fantasize me with gray hair! I associated being a complete man when I turn gray - with my parents, wife, children, job, house, car, with some accomplishments, etc.
Now I am almost 40 and turning gray. While everyone around me thinks I am very accomplished; internally I feel very immature, incomplete, sad and deprived. So I don't adore my gray.

But I don't hate it. Just disappointed that I did not do justice to it.
No I wont dye it.

 

What was the question?
I've never permanent coloured my own hair. Did some henna stuff long ago. For 10 -12 years now my gf, who is my stylist of 25 years, has coloured and highlighted my hair (something is done every 5 weeks in addition to trimming it). I have very thick, slightly wavy hair, which like my mom's, started to gray in my 20's. Since 'M' has been caring for it, I love it. It is so worth $12 a week!

 

I am fortunate. My father's family ages oddly, and I take after that side of the family. I look today very nearly identical to the way I did when I was 14. It's as if when the switch flipped and I moved into physical adulthood - I took on my adult height and "look". Of course - it's no fun looking 30 when you're 14, but its HELLA fun looking 30 when you're about to turn 41 (now). My father's OLDER sister - by 6 years - looks like she's a couple years older than I am when she dyes her hair its orig. color. It's intensely creepy when she and I go out together. For me, I'm JUST starting to get some grey - and it looks as if, if it keeps going the way it is, I will have one wide streak of sparkly happy silvery diamond color for a while. I had my surviving child when I was only 19, so to have a child about to turn 21 and so many people I went to high school with have toddlers is just bizarre, and I've run into people that were part of my graduating class that look about 50-55... nearly all grey hair... wrinkles..Carting around toddlers and diaper bags... Needless to say they are NOT happy to see me looking like I did the last time they saw me back in high school, with a nearly 21 year old daughter...

Yeah.. Anyway.. You have to walk around wearing it - it's your head - you want it grey - rock on - you want to dye it - go for it. If people don't like it - tell them they can control what you do with your hair when they are wearing your head for a hat, but until then, to buzz off.

 

Really fond of the patch of white hair on the sides that this picture does not show, one of the main reasons I do not want to shave the beard.

 

Been grey as long as I can remember. I'm lucky that it's an even silver all over. I have no issue with it at all.

 

I have couple of silver in my mush and I trim them at their base (confession )
This will stop once I have few more
But no not going to die not at all

 

I found out a great thing about gray hair when I grew older - gray hair + hair color = body! I had relatively flat hair growing up. Curling irons & perms solved it temporarily. I have wavy hair now because gray has a different texture, and color changes it even further. I'll post a picture of each in my blog if I find on one my computer. It's a big difference.

 

I'm more concerned with the hair growing from my ears and my nostrils really

 

I've had sprinklings of grey thoughout my hair for a few years now, but the other day, I noticed a lone grey hair in my barely-there mustache. smdh
I can't catch a break. Now even *I* won't be able to see my mustache.

 

No ear hair yet, but the nostril hairs, whatever color, get plucked at least twice a week.

 

Grey is fine. I'm happy to have hair, of whatever color. On my head.
Elsewhere, it doesn't seem to be in deficit, and the color is varied. At least it makes life interesting.

 

Interestingly enough I have had the opposite view and the past 18 years have generally had a low tolerance for hair on the top of my head. Sheer laziness or more recently business is the reason I let the afro get beyond the lowest settings on the clippers.

 

Needs repeating. If laser treatment was cheaper...

 

100% with you
Even with clean shaven head someone could be very youthful if he/she is fit agile and curious