Fucking or love-making?

I would typically prefer the lustful, acrobatic, aerobic, wrestling fucking. However, I do enjoy making love on occassion. I think there are distinctions, in how it feels psychologically and physically. Will I have a better orgasm if we fuck? Most definitely yes. That's simple A+B=C algebra that even my dumb jarhead brain can comprehend. Making love, however, is entirely different animal. It's hard to describe how I feel making love. I do feel emotionally closer, but I also feel like I'm strengthening my relationship with that person. The eye contact that I don't care about (or even actively avoid) while fucking becomes unbelievably important during love-making. Hard to describe, but both have their purpose.

 

It's all one big ball of yummie, for me. No distinctions made here. Actually, I feel that "making love" is a 1970's term that gently allowed the notion of fucking into the mainstream. The girls who were reared to fear the "F", due to its naughty disgusting nature, were given a little bit more allowance to enjoy this softened version of it. As long as it was framed in a romanticized context, it became okay to like it.

Quite frankly, I am turned off by the invitation to "Make love". Tell me you want bang me and we have got a deal!

 

Score one for the married guy.

 

We've got this sort of hybrid, crossover kinda thing going. It tends to be hot & heavy, hard & fast, but there's an emotional connection along with it. The rule does slide on the scale, though. Sometimes it's more gentle and romantic; sometimes it's sweaty and guttural and we need to remind ourselves what the safeword is.

 

Women need a reason. Men just need a place. Here and now usually works just fine....

 

A little of both. Sometimes i just wonna fuck and others i like making love. I guess it depends on the mood im in.

 

Well, I hate to bicker with you in the midst of a light conversation, but men have reasons, too.
And sometimes women have the same reasons.

 

I don't think it's bickering really; just an interchange of viewpoints. Of course, this is coming from one who sometimes thinks I invest more emotion in sex than she does.

 

I don't consider expressing a different viewpoint bickering. And yes, men do have reasons, I was just being a smartass.

sometimes i like the intimacy of lovemaking, but I don't do intimacy very well. Sometimes I just want to have fun. And sometimes fun turns to intimacy and vice versa.

 

I don't really get the distinction. Isn't enthusiasm the key?

 

making love for me is hand holding and him touching my hair and face and kissing, and then fucking is just like all down and dirty,
pulling hair and slapping that ass and talking dirty and just getting all down to business, and I could always go for either ,
my last time there was both elements and it was great , when he touched my face it got me all worked up which is weird but then again makes sense to me .

 

Trying to figure out how best to explain this.

For me to "make love", I need to feel perfectly safe with my partner-- in all ways.

Part of that safety is knowing that I'm with someone who can dominate me-- in all ways.

Sexually speaking, I need my partner to be able to overwhelm me in bed, with pain, with domination, with sensation. When we're done, I need to be shaking because:

a. Too much pleasure-sensory overload
b. Too much resistance-based activity leading to muscle fatigue
c. Too much pain

One of those. A combination of those. All of those.

If he can't do this, if he can't get in my head, can't intensely strip me away with intensity and brutality... my lizard brain says he's not safe. He can't protect me. I can dominate him.

If I don't feel safe, my brain can't let go, can't get into the moment, can't lower emotional defenses.

Therefore, we can't "make love".

 

Its all in the eye of the beholder. There are times when its down and dirty and times when you take your time.

 

I don't mind gentle foreplay and stroking and licking and all the soft things that can come from actually wanting the person in the bed/car/hotel/beer garden to know that I care for them and want them to feel that through my expressions.
But to actually make me buzz, to get me off, it's raw hard fucking everytime. I want to see sweat, I want my muscles to ache for a month, I want to pant like I have just run 200 yds at a full on sprint.
So yeah.....it's fucking for me

 

I usually find starting out with "making love" ends up "fucking" lo The rougher the better I say!