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Can't wake the fuck up

Discussion in 'General Discussions' started by ralphie250, Sep 16, 2013.

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  1. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    I hate the sleep study....
     
    ralphie250, Sep 21, 2013
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  2. snowy

    snowy so kawaii Staff Member

    I thought of you last week, ralphie250. We received a generous donation to our program from a woman whose husband had recently passed. She's friends with my mentor, and as we were talking about the donation, my mentor revealed that the lady's husband had been in many ways just like my mentor--a big guy with sleep apnea. This guy died from untreated apnea. He knew he had it, but chose not to use a CPAP. My mentor said it made him all the more grateful for his CPAP.

    So bear that in mind, please. This guy left behind a wife and kids.
     
    snowy, Oct 12, 2013
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  3. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    I know, I need to go. I keep finding reasons not to
     
    ralphie250, Oct 12, 2013
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  4. MSD

    MSD Very Tilted

    Location:
    CT
    Go. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for your wife. You've told us and shown us how much you love her, if you can't do it for yourself, do it for her. What would she say if you asked her "what would you do if I didn't wake up tomorrow morning?" She would be devastated, she would blame herself for not pushing you earlier to do it, and when you're gone she would have to go on without you. Are the reasons you keep finding so compelling that they make it worth it to risk that every night when you go to bed?
     
    MSD, Oct 13, 2013
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  5. Craven Morehead

    Craven Morehead Very Tilted

    Location:
    third rock from the sun
    ralphie250 tonight at dinner look around the table and try to find reasons not to.
     
    Craven Morehead, Oct 13, 2013
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  6. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    I know. I will make an appointment tomorrow.
     
    ralphie250, Oct 13, 2013
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  7. Baraka_Guru

    Baraka_Guru Möderätor Staff Member

    Location:
    Toronto
    At the risk of sounding sentimental or all mushy, mushy, just let me say this: Probably the biggest barrier to loving others, such as family, is a lack of self-love. You know you have a condition that needs treatment. You know that this condition can cause problems that could otherwise be avoided. Why not help yourself get better? If this were your daughter's condition, wouldn't you give her the care she needed? Why not care for yourself as well?

    Bear this in mind: To be the most helpful to others in life, you must ensure that you focus on taking care of yourself. It might seem like a paradox, and much of Western society would think this is selfish, but think of it logically. If you are at your healthiest and your strongest, this puts you in a place to be at your healthiest and your strongest to help others.

    I imagine you want to be with your family as much as you can to help them, to protect them, to care for them, to provide for them, to simply love them, in the best way possible to your greatest capacity.

    These, my friend, are all very good reasons to go (and I cannot think of better reasons to not go), and now you're on your way.
     
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    Baraka_Guru, Oct 13, 2013
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  8. Xerxes

    Xerxes Bulking.

    Airplane. Crash. Baby. Mask. Analogy goes here. BG is better at it than I am.
     
    Xerxes, Oct 13, 2013
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  9. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member

    ralphie250 , I hope when you read this thread, the advice given, and especially the last several posts that it makes you realize something. Not that you need to go get your apnea treated, I know you already knew that was what was best.

    What you should realize from reading all of this is that you have a whole bunch of complete strangers from all over the world who think you seem to be a pretty cool guy, and we enjoy having you around. We want you to take care of yourself because we like you. Hopefully that makes you feel pretty awesome, because it is. But all of our concern and care combined doesn't begin to touch on the impact this has, and will have, on your family. I know you value your family because it is obvious to anyone who reads your posts. You work hard, change careers, and stress over work stuff because you want to provide for them materially. You travel halfway across the country repeatedly to try to ensure your dad has the best care, and help with his problems, even though he causes a bunch of his own grief. You do it because you care. It is obvious as well that you love your wife, think she is sexy, and you are proud of her. That is awesome and something a lot of people don't have. But what I notice most is how you talk about your daughter, and the pictures you post of her, or with you together. I've seen you talk about taking her hunting and fishing and how much fun it is. I hunt, and I can only imagine how difficult it is to keep a small child quiet and still to actually give you a chance to hunt with them in the stand with you. Except I finally figured out that you aren't taking her out there right now so you can get a deer, you are taking her out there because you love spending time with her and want to be with her even if it means you sacrificing your hunting time. I'm also sure by the smiles she always has in the pics with you that she loves spending time with you as well. So think about the smiles (and scares!) you'll have teaching her how to drive, watching her graduate HS, sending her to college, walking her down the aisle, and holding her children. Sadly, with untreated sleep apnea you are statistically almost twice as likely to pass away at a young age (46% more likely to be exact), usually from heart disease. That risk goes up even further for smokers. So getting your apnea treated gives you twice the chance of being there when she needs you to teach her to drive, wants you in her picture in her cap and gown, needs you to load up the car for her drive away to school, asks you to hold her arm and give her away at her wedding, or needs you to hold your grandson or granddaughter. Take care of yourself, because I want to see those pictures too.
     
    Borla, Oct 13, 2013
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  10. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    Borla you're gonna make me cry.

    Everyone is right. After reading the last couple of replies makes me wonder... so I will call and make an appt tomorrow. Not sure if I have to have a referral but I will get it taken care of.
    I love you folks...
     
    ralphie250, Oct 13, 2013
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  11. Fangirl

    Fangirl Very Tilted

    Location:
    Arizona
    We :heart: you, too!
    Sometimes, I really identify with you--especially the physical ailments and deep love of family. I know you had a heart attack-- and you are still young. I went into heart failure at a weirdly young age (30's) which caused irreparable damage. My biggest fear at the time, the thing that would bring me to tears was thinking that I might not live to see my little boy grow up.
    Anyway, sleep studies are a frickin' pain. Who gets any decent sleep with all the crap they hook you up to? But, it's just one night and they'll get loads of diagnostic info that otherwise they wouldn't get. Like you, I smoked even after being diagnosed (with cardiomyopathy). Smoking anything is bad for your blood pressure. I knew that and you know it, too. I recently stopped after we couldn't get my BP down to (low) normal. It was past time for me to give up smoking or admit to myself and my Dr. that I was digging my own grave. I guess fear of getting yelled at won out because I quit smoking (weed) and at my next appt. my BP was lower than it's been in 10 years.
    So, ralphie250, you gotta be strong and take this first step (treatment for sleep probs.) towards having a long and healthy life. You'll have the sleep study done and take it step by step from there. I know you can do this.
     
    Fangirl, Oct 13, 2013
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  12. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    Fangirl thanks :) weed is a seldom thing for me but smoking is something that is REAL hard for me to give up. My wife and daughter want me to quit and I know it would be good for me. But I'm taking things one step at a time.
     
    ralphie250, Oct 13, 2013
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  13. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    Ok.... I have an appt this afternoon at 330 to get the Dr to refer me for a sleep study.
     
    ralphie250, Oct 14, 2013
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  14. GeneticShift

    GeneticShift Show me your everything is okay face.

    Location:
    The land of drugs, violence, and 8 Mile Road
    Yay!

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    GeneticShift, Oct 14, 2013
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  15. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    Been here a fucking hour and still in waiting room...
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    ralphie250, Oct 14, 2013
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  16. Borla

    Borla Moderator Staff Member



    Think of all the extra hours you stand to gain from waiting. ;)


    I'm glad you went ralphie250 . :cool:
     
    Borla, Oct 14, 2013
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  17. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    True... :p
     
    ralphie250, Oct 14, 2013
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  18. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    Well after 2 hrs at the Dr. I got my 2 refferals. One for an orthopaedic surgeon for my siatiac nerve and one for a sleep study. They will call me tomorrow yo schedule it.
    Oh and I got a flu shot.
     
    ralphie250, Oct 14, 2013
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  19. highjinx

    highjinx "My phobia drowned while i was gettin' down."

    Location:
    venice beach
    good job, ralphie. i too have apnea and it was so bad i fell asleep at work and in a 3 car line at a stop sign in my car once when it was at it's worst. you don't realize how bad the fatigue builds up over time and it's dangerous for your health and your job and you could hurt someone on top of that.

    anyway i did the study and now have had a machine for ~3 years. i noticed the benefits of it right away and haven't looked back. if you pay attention you can really notice the difference in how intense your dreams are and just how high the quality saturation is of time slept. i swear sometimes i wake up still feeling my eyes rolling up like a slot machine from the r.e.m's. it sounds weird but it feels really good.

    i'm not gonna sugar coat it; it was bunk at first and it took a week or two of really experimenting with my position so that i got a balance of the mask staying put and me getting comfortable sleep without waking up w/ a crick in my neck or back, but even in that adjustment period i noticed my focus and energy spike. 2 hours on it is like 10 hours of apnea sleep; it's that dramatic.

    i can't say how much it was related for sure, but in the few years since, i've ratcheted up a lot of stuff health wise that i had let go through a lot of my 30's and am now pretty happy with my health, eating habits and self moderation. i don't know that i would have had the energy to get through the changes and withdrawls without the extra mojo i got from the machine.
     
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    highjinx, Oct 14, 2013
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  20. ralphie250

    ralphie250 Fully Erect

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    Ok, let's just say that it's gotten worse. I went to the Dr last week and got a referal to have a sleep study. They called me yesterday to set it up and then informed me that I have to pay my deductible on that night cause I haven't met it yet. I mean WTF I can pay half but not all and apparently that's unacceptable. So maybe next month. All I want to,do,is get better and it seems that the almighty health care is not wanting to cooperate
     
    ralphie250, Feb 23, 2016
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