Bigger penis.

I don't know. Maybe it is. I think in my case it might be in direct correlation with the head, like the heads are connected somehow.

(You should ask me about my homunculus/humongulous theory sometime.)

 

The first time I saw you, I could just tell, y'know?

 

Sorry, I don't think so...because there are sites out there that are specifically for finding men of a certain size.
You can imply it, describe it in detail, post it and more.
The result is still the same.
It does not get you any more...sorry.

I don't know about men, because I'm not looking for them.
But women...they are particular. VERY particular.
But what seems to attract and get their attention more than anything else...is the ability and confidence in simply contacting them.
A good approach.
A good banter.
A good follow-through.

Now this I'm inconsistent with...it's like my art. I have to be in a good mood. A certain mood.
Because when I'm on, I'm ON. But when I'm not...it just doesn't happen.
And I know men who have this aspect to them.
That certain, something.
It's not looks...oh, looks & build help definitely, but it's really not the deciding factor.
Money and possessions, may help too...but not quite. ('ware the female douchebag here...)
It's really how smooth you are.

Now, I know many ladies will protest this...and they've gone for non-smooth dudes. And this is true.
But it's not the volume of the encounters that are out there. Its more the exception than the rule...for the volume of time you're trying as a guy.

So Looks, eh, Body, eh, Money, eh...Dick, eh (but you'll only know that after the "close".)
You just have to be willing to put yourself out there. Again & again...
Have your game on.
And close the deal. (kind of like the player in Crazy Stupid Love)

However, this only gets you in...it does not guarantee you love. Not even close.
Love is that certain something you have to let go for. (and hopefully be yourself too)

I hate to say it...there's a reason why men use lines.
Not only does it give something "interesting" to say...but it works. (don't say it doesn't...because it does, it just has to be good...at the right time)
Dating is a volume game, both on the receiving end and the approaching end.

And sorry ladies...as much as you "say" you approach men. You really don't. (**at least on the volume that others do to women)
I've been at this for WAY too long. And heard TOO many stories from other guys. (and from other girls too, who are looking for girls)
It's up to us to make the first move for the most part.
And be decent doing it. (WHATEVER catches your fancy at that time)

Now, you "may" have a big dick.
But you're not going to be sticking that thing out first hand. (unless you want to be slapped, thrown out or arrested)
Nor are you going to believed or highly thought of, if you say anything about it. (It is RARE if you get the girl who takes you up on this approach)

Boys, just deal with it.
Just get your act together as much as possible.
And get confident in your game.
And get skilled in your play.
Then try, try again.
C'est la vie.

 

What is this "approaching" concept? I've never "approached" a woman.

(For serious.)

 

I didn't know what word to use...
- Email/message someone.
- Meet, greet, talk and ask out.
- See someone you like and "approach" (hopefully politely...) to get to know and hope for further.
- Glance at each other, smile, then allow yourself to be closer, start a conversation...and hope for further.
- Happen to know...but then you need to ask out.
And so on...

I don't know? What do you do?

 

Pfft, a man like you doesn't need to approach a woman.

You're just too tempting for a Type A female. There's something about guys like you that calls to women like me.

(I'm totally serious, by the way. That's what made my husband so alluring--I made the first move.)

 

That is the one thing I learned through my college misadventures. I like the shy, quiet ones, and that requires blunt, obvious tactics, as in, "Hey, I'm enjoying this conversation. Let's go get a drink somewhere else and continue it" or "Hey, you're really fucking attractive. Wanna fuck?"

It took me a long time to realize that it was rare for a guy to say no to that, and if a guy said no, he typically had his own issues (seriously).

 

I've totally done that.

 

Shit, let me tell you.

I spent many years in ignorance due to something I won't get into.

I now look at things in hindsight, and I suspect that @snowy is onto something.

I think back to some of the interactions I've had with certain women. In hindsight, I realize these women were the type-A kind. They were intelligent and more often than not in a position of authority. These were interactions that mostly occurred in the workplace, which was, for the most part, how I'd even get to interact with women in the first place. With these particular women, at the time, I'd think, "Oh, they're nice," or "Oh, good; they like me," and then it would get to "Wow, they really like me." This was a boost to my persistently low self-esteem, and I'd just take it at face value.

But now? Now I'm wondering how much of it was their prowling me. (They all knew I was in a relationship.)

I now look back and wonder how it may have been different if I were single. (They were all single.)

 

If I were you, I'd go with the funny stuff.
You've got a great sense of humor...sarcasm, wit, funny observations, weird faces and voices.
Many ladies like a funny guy. (no guarantees of forever, but it may get you a date and a fun night...)
...just be yourself, tell grand stories

 

So good, you can't have just one...