Bf is on the small side, will sexual intercourse suck?

Chelle,

I really do believe you overthink a lot of things. Indeed, you may be a bit of a worry-wart. Sucking at kissing, long distance, lack of touching. Just relax and go with it. If it sucks, you may have a problem, if you don't, well great.

Chances are you wont, so relax and enjoy it. Seriously.

 

Yes, I know I'm a worry-wart. lol but he doesn't suck at kissing ne more it was just nerves I guess...cuz it really turned me on the other night lol. But hey this is different, size isn't something you can't fix. Grrr, I hope it feels satisfying. I don't want to have to go through that awkward moment of faking how good it feels when I feel nothing

 

Hi Chelle, everyone else seems to have given oodles of advice already but here goes anyhow. I have only been with one partner and I honestly have no clue whether he is small average or huge, I suck at estimation. Despite this by the time we come to intercourse I can't actually tell how big/small he is as I am so turned on it's 'electric' and I have no idea what's what! I get such pleasure out of his smile and seeing how much he is enjoying himself. I think its far more important for each of you to be ready and want to please the other and of course communicate! If I want to try something/ not do something, I say so makes it so much better and of course its a continual learning process. Just get plenty of practice, 8 years later and I'm still learning new tricks!

 

You know what? I've been with a woman who has had 3 kids, and I've been with a woman who was only a year past giving her virginity to a guy. The difference between the two was negligible. I for one don't worry about the hotdog hallway syndrome because I don't think it's an issue as much as guys make it out to be.

 

This might be a big concern, if you were only interested in the feelings between your legs. Sex is a mind event, that should render the sizes of most things pretty insignificant. Don’t forget that the most important parts of sex itself do not even include penetration. If you are able to focus on and appreciate the fumbling build-up, the heated fleshiness and the blood-pumping stir, dick size should not even cross your mind. Love is about acceptance - focusing on your partner’s attributes instead of their shortcomings.

To awnser your question: Big dicks feel good, but good chemistry feels better.

 

Someone may have already suggested the obvious (haven't read every post). Why don't you just have intercourse with him and find out if it's satisfying?
When you say 4.5 inches without much girth, you are describing his penis during an erection, right? Just checking.

For the record, I'm 57 years old, still sexually active and lord knows I'm still very enthusiastic. I've had a number of sexual partners over the years and found it doesn't matter if they're big, small, wide, thin, bent or straight. I generally find intercourse as a means of obtaining orgasm to be unreliable and derive more pleasure from what is mutually performed outside of actual intercourse. I think you're wasting time worrying about it. Do it and find out. If intercourse is the only way you want to experience orgasm and he can't provide you with one then, I suppose you'll have a decision to make.

There's plenty of men out there with above average penis size. What there aren't enough of is men who believe the sex act is more than just intercourse. I'd say you found a winner. I'd keep him if he had a thumb-sized dick.

 

So Chelle, you guys do it yet or what?

 

Yeah, is it in yet?

 

She may be wondering that exact thing right this very moment!

 

Jesus, do I have to put a drum crash on everything, Flipper?

Stop being such a blowhole.

 

I think you may need to stick a finger in to Flipper's blowhole

 

I'm sorry, Chelle. If you're reading this, please know that the TFP is all about people having hot-hot carnal action. I hope things worked out well.

 

Updates Chelle!

Our updates too often come in the form of your next dilemma.

 

Yeah, if we don't have updates, this thread will take the derail train into Threadjackville; Population 1 1/2 (Plan9er with his finger inside Flipper's blowhole). Then PETA gets all, "No Raping cute animals, only the ugly ones we don't care about!" Then we can't have pets for 3-5 years, depending on what state it is in.

 

I'm not really the best person for this since I'm a dick owner, not user, but having been with a number of women, I think I can postulate that size doesn't matter, to an extent. As was already mentioned, a 12" behemoth with the girth of a bendy straw isn't going to do much.

I'm not particularly well endowed (~6") and I've never had a girl noticeably displeased. I wouldn't say I'm especially wide, just average, and I typically keep ladies around pretty easily.

Now, with that being said, and coming from a male perspective, I don't think the sex should suck. It's really just a matter of whether or not he knows how to use it. He sounds super, and that kind of personality (as far as I understand it) will certainly factor into the enjoyment.

In the end, you have to do it if you're going to stay in the relationship, so I say go for it. If the sex is bad then it's best you know sooner rather than later.

 

We're sitting on pins and needles here, Chelle (no pun intended). What's the verdict?

 

You know, the 8 inches just sunk in. I'm thinking, if it were me, I might need to wean myself off of that slowly, maybe cut down to about 6 or so first.

For the 1st time since I originally read your post, I can sort of understand your concerns. Hope it all works out.

 

Yeaaah, 8 inches and girth like a Coke can. That's the ticket. It's what every guys wants. Unless 10 is an option. Or 19. Fuck it, I want my schlong to go from baby carrot to an ICBM when I get a hankerin' to give a spankerin'. I want a dick so big that no woman will accept the Great American Challenge. Something that hurts people lucky enough to have a vagina (something we never measure) just to think about.

Women, of course, will tell you that it's all about how you use it. Kinda like how you can kill an African elephant with a .22 pistol if you shoot it enough times. Persistence. Perhaps this is why all my relationships have failed. If you're fat, you can exercise and lose weight. If you're stupid, you can watch Discovery and hit up a community college. If you've got a flat chest, you can get implants. But nothing can fix a tiny dick. So, yeah, every time this topic is brought up I find myself so very glad that I remain unencumbered by the endless worries associated with sporting male genitalia.

It seems that it would be far better to paint the ceiling of your bedroom with a fine mist from your frontal lobe than have a sub-6" cock.

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Or we could just try things out instead of making superficial judgments on size like everybody that owns a Hummer H2 or Taurus Judge.

 

Was it satisfying?
I need closure.

 

I agree with a lot of what has been said.
My mind when somewhere a little different:

You said he was good at fingering - how does his fingers feel inside you? Do he make it feel like they fit? Are how happy are you when he does finger you?

I ask this, because I can't help but think, if he can 'do it right' with his fingers, he should be able to 'do it right' with his penis (assuming his dick is the close to the same size and thickness as the number of fingers he uses.)