Age difference in a real relationship

Talk to her.
Explain your thoughts and concerns.
Ask straightforward questions.
See what happens.

 

@omega...if I couldn't deal with pushback then I shouldn't have opened the topic and sure shouldn't entertain doing anything cause I'm sure there would be more and in face to face situation.

Funny you mention Iggy Pop because I did happen to point at Iggy as a body type I envy or aspire just because what you said as well as lean is always more attractive than fat in men.
I wouldn't want the shot leg or bent spine...but you get it. I can't maintain that low of a body fat ratio. But at 15-17% or so I'm doin ok.

Also remember she's in Canada and Americans can't go there due to the virus at this time. So every day she may meet me right up there.

I have seen, at a previous workplace the kind of may December toxic relationship your thinking of, in my face at work daily. 61yo man and 25 yo girl. She an abandoned child and (*_*). The mother of his nephews kid.
After a few months, business crashed, the old man was divorced (from the wife he was cheating on) and then he had a heart attack..
Girl, her baby the nephew...who knows.

So...yeah. I know it could be a shit show or one of those odd poetic things that do happen.

I don't feel pushed strongly by either side of the arguments yet, other than to say I'm open to rolling that dice if we meet again and are both unattached.

I'm still real curious about the gal at the hardware store with the batchlors degree in the arts too.

I looked in my pic folder and decided to upload a couple, mind you there's a filter ran on them to bump the contrast, accentuating age lines but I'm also dirty, haven't trimmed the edges of the beard etc.
It also shows my work which is really a huge part of who I am. That's a sculpture the shop I was at contracted to build. Same shop with creepy boss and the girl playing grab ass (yeah he gave her a job too) all day.

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@omega...if I couldn't deal with pushback then I shouldn't have opened the topic and sure shouldn't entertain doing anything cause I'm sure there would be more and in face to face situation.

Funny you mention Iggy Pop because I did happen to point at Iggy as a body type I envy or aspire just because what you said as well as lean is always more attractive than fat in men.
I wouldn't want the shot leg or bent spine...but you get it. I can't maintain that low of a body fat ratio. But at 15-17% or so I'm doin ok.

Also remember she's in Canada and Americans can't go there due to the virus at this time. So every day she may meet me right up there.

I have seen, at a previous workplace the kind of may December toxic relationship your thinking of, in my face at work daily. 61yo man and 25 yo girl. She an abandoned child and (*_*). The mother of his nephews kid.
After a few months, business crashed, the old man was divorced (from the wife he was cheating on) and then he had a heart attack..
Girl, her baby the nephew...who knows.

So...yeah. I know it could be a shit show or one of those odd poetic things that do happen.

I don't feel pushed strongly by either side of the arguments yet, other than to say I'm open to rolling that dice if we meet again and are both unattached.

I'm still real curious about the gal at the hardware store with the batchlors degree in the arts too.

I looked in my pic folder and decided to upload a couple, mind you there's a filter ran on them to bump the contrast, accentuating age lines but I'm also dirty, haven't trimmed the edges of the beard etc.
It also shows my work which is really a huge part of who I am. That's a sculpture the shop I was at contracted to build. Same shop with creepy boss and the girl playing grab ass (yeah he gave her a job too) all day.

So, I can look a lot better cleaned up.

 

This I can understand, because it's much more of a transactional relationship. But yeah, if two people are feeling things out in starting a relationship, is once supposed to bow out because they didn't expect to catch feelings? If it's a possibility and you know it"s not a good idea, then why set up a doomed relationship?

 

then why set up a doomed relationship?

Because we are irrational humans.

Another take on relationships I like

View: https://youtu.be/QcxWxNO8idc

 

Yes yes, I'm the Mr Spock to your Captain Kirk. James Tiberius was never too subtle. And he cut a rakish path across the galaxy.

 

Jadzia was 10 years younger than me.
It never really made any difference.
But then she was very mature and I'm a tad immature.

 

When I was a kid I wanted to trim off ear lobe and make pointed Spock ears. Back then body mod wasn't a thing though.
I'm pretty on board with Spock's POV there.

 

my wife and i are the same age, and im a tad bit immature, so i dont think age has anything to do with that. I think its just being a male

 

View: https://youtu.be/5Gi_C0png4E

 

Well...
This gal just sent me an invite to vote for her to be a cover girl for Maxim magazine.
Of course I will.
But I'm left with...gee is there a subtext in there somewhere ?
Rather than wonder...I just sent her an honest message.
Short virsion, you have a lot more than just beauty and sexy to bring the world.
That said, if I knew lifting and eating focused on getting lean and and more visibly fit/muscular could get me 4-6 oldster/silver fox modeling jobs a year I would have a go at it too. Also saying to her, I'm not sure if she just wants my vote or is trying to generate some feelin's in me personally.
I expect she's purely after more votes to with the 25k modeling job.

 

While I would be fine with any girl younger than me, and I have a "show up and you got the job, with almost no risk of ever getting fired" approach to relationships. It is finding a woman who feels the same way about me that is hard. Knowing how to build a good relationship with a teenager might be really challenging too. My problem is that a lot of females that are half my age still have more knowledge and experience about relationships than I do.

 

That's funny ASU but yeah it can be true often.
Exceptionally attractive women get more more opertunity to say yes or no to applicants.

I guess I like that she talks to me occasionally but I kinda feel like a person who's willing to be the focal center of pictures that depict women as goals of possession, like cars and man jewelry like fancy watches or whatever...status symbols...I mean it's a false narrative. Women don't squat in playground equipment in one piece net underwear and 4 in heels in real life.
Since I know her personally it feel extra weird seeing her that way.

This gal is 1/2 black and I was just looking at the history of slavery in America and...
Black people were slaves in america for 246 years and have been free for 156.
So modeling as a status goal like I would guess a magazine like Maxim would do, like hot cars of 2021 or like I said, watches or bikes or home entertainment gear is just not the overt or subtext I feel like should be pushed out there. I feel like Maxim is sort of making this pov look sophisticated and ligament by not going full scale with it.
I mean with sidebar text about her (I assume there would be that) that nobody reads with the underwear and heels pics it feels like you can pretend it's not porn but it still is but in a sneaky sort of way as opposed to images that clearly state, "look at my body and wank, disregard who I am" as you might see in an un diluted porn photo shoot, which may be more raunchy but it seems also more honest somehow.
Whatever...she's chasing some paper and I hope she gets it. I know she'll make good use of it and hope she doesn't get drawn into a preditory situation.
I would never have gotten into these conversations if she hadn't initiated them. The more we go along the less viable it is...in fact it's not viable to me now.

 

@rougue49
I appreciate that, but from some further chats on fb and a couple phone calls I'm not sure it's worth the gamble. I don't want to drive up to Canada regularly and she doesn't drive. Not being close enough to talk in person I can't tell how much interest there really is.
It feel like too much work and too little serendipitous "things just seemed to happen"
If she said hey I gust got a job in Seattle and I'm moving to rent a room with my brother in west seattle then maybe that would be different but as it is I can't picture this happening.

 

Sure.

 

We appreciate Boink's sense of humor.

He's actually more like Brad Pitts's more manly and better looking younger brother .

Edit: I was about query the outcome, but I noticed Boink posted he no longer considered the possibility viable.

 

Brad Pitt? I'm showing my age, & the fact I'm not a movie person.

How about instead:
Jason Momoa's manlier & better looking older brother.

 

Yeah the outcome of this is, she continued to lean on my for advice until she got the phone bill. I didn't want to install messenger for free calls (who calls these days ?!?) And at some point asked my age and was shocked that I was whatever age I was when she asked (61 now)
so communication has stopped. Fine by me as I don't care for the curiosity stress going on. No stated end to the friendship...but no further conversation for a few months now.