questone

A person who loves you would never do that to you. If she has a problem, it's no longer yours.

bloodychill

Staying with this girl is going to destructive to your self-confidence and it's not going to get you anywhere and after you've married and divorced her, you're going to regret all the time, energy, and love you wasted. Move on. If that means going to see a therapist, just do it. Your school probably has some decent councilers.

motdakasha

1) This is why you're supposed to avoid burning bridges and making things messier than they were originally when dumping someone. You generally can't cut people out of your life 100%, try to place nice. We're all in the same sandbox.

2) It's not complicated. Don't continue having sex with her because you'll start up the cycle again. Stop it and stop it now. You can continue to provide emotional support for her family issues, but cut the sex and potential-future-re-romance because neither has worked for you in the past and that's not going to change.

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kel

No it can't. RUN AWAY... NOW... stop reading.... RUN... Never let it go this far again. You need to do everything you can to make sure this "sort" of person isn't a part of your life again. Look for the early warning signs young padwan, they are always there.

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rlynnm

Objectively, all your suggestions seem to be ideal, but you seem to forget that we're dealing with a relationship here where nothing is ever really so cutthroat and definitive. So, in a sense, yes it is complicated. relationships that have any significance usually are. If things were that easy, we'd all be moving on like rabbits.

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motdakasha

Well in this case, I'm not talking about all of us. Given the history with this woman, from an objective outsider's perspective, it seems pretty black and white. While I didn't say it would be easy, my suggestion seems apparent based on my perspective and experience I have had personally and among my friends. That is my advice to him and I'm sticking to it.

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Cynthetiq

based on this...

we're dealing with a relationship here where nothing is ever really so cutthroat and definitive.

To me that speaks volumes...

yes there is. If someone beats the crap out of the other person, disrespects the other person, never respects the other, continues to hurt the other person, lies and cheats continually... shall I go on? there's LOTS of reasons in a relationship to be cutthroat and definitive.

edit: To the OP grown some balls and a spine.

you WANT to stay with her, no matter the cost, issue, etc. so why continue to pretend that you want real advice? your mind is already made up...

As I say to many of my friends who stay with people who are bad or have wronged them severely....

the pussy must be the most amazing pussy ever because what I see on the surface is not worth it at all.

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