RCR

I am sorry, i dont where to ask this, but i feel that TFP sexuality(i cant find tfp relationships anywere(?) ) is the best place to shoot this question?

WHAT is everyones take on going to the toilet, most notably no.2's. I am in a really rather solid relationship, but my girlie is really embarrassed about this. I live in a nice room at uni but it has an en-suite and it is quite obvious what one is doing....

Obviously she is a lady and it is embarassing for. How do i elliviate her fears, in the terms that i dont give a shit(no pun intended)

How does one broach this subject, and any thoughts or advice? Thank you kindly in advance,

cheers,

noodle

Great book...Everyone Poops
Can really lighten up the discussion. Put it on the back of the toilet tank or the reading materials. Also great for annoying your friends who are parents of small children... But that's off topic.

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Jackebear

Well, I went through this before. My SO refused to take a dump at my place for the longest time. She felt that if she farted when she went #2 and I heard it, she could never live it down. At first, I would actually leave...tell her I was going to the store to buy some milk or something. Later, moved on to playing the stereo or watching the TV...a little louder than normal.

Now, we have a house with 2 bathrooms....it's the only way to go.

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dlish

i still refuse to think that my mrs does a #2.. been married 4 years now... sigh... aint it grand living in wonderland

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Sho Nuff

My lady was once the same way, now its a good day if she bothers to close the door!

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abaya

yep, that's pretty much the way ktspktsp and I have been, though all the way from the beginning we were never shy! Then again, if it's serious #2, we know to leave each other alone to whatever reading material is present. It's not that we are embarassed about the noises...(though I am in public bathrooms, ha!) ... hell, I'm flatulent as hell around him, with little shame . But I think we just like our privacy for #2, to read or just sit and let loose. (sorry).

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Psycho Dad

My wife I guess never had a problem with it. Two days after we were married she came in and threw one down whilst I was shaving.

But I digress... I don't think you can use your girlfirend's reluctance to pound one out in your person as any yardstick of how comfotable she is with you. But the day she does feel OK with it...

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JustJess

Women are often shy at first. We have a lot of bullshit (again no pun intended) drilled into us about how we're supposed to be ladylike, and that doesn't include poops and farts.

She'll get over it eventually, once she figures out you'll still think she's hot/beautiful/sexy even if she's got to poo once in a while.

I have one work friend who used to never poo at work - if she went too soon after a shower, she'd get back in the shower!! This isn't so bad, trust me.

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Charlatan

I can always tell when my wife has used the facilities... there is either the smell of matches or this god awful (offal?) body spray that someone gave her. Smells like Final Net hairspray (I mocked her use of it the other day and now she no longer uses it).

I like to keep the door closed and prefer when she does as well. Could care less about having a pee but I really don't want to see or hear her (or vice versa) grunting away. I just don't.

Besides, in a small crowded house like the one I live in, it is one of the few times I get to be alone.

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Carno

I prefer to think girls don't poop. Or fart. Like dlishsguy, I prefer to live in a fantasy land

I never fart in front of women, and I pray to God that one never farts in front of me. Well, I won't really care when I'm married or in a serious relationship, but right now I don't think I could take it.

My roommate and I always shit with the doors open and usually carry on conversations whilst pooping, but I don't think I could ever do that with a girl. I always hold it in until all females leave my apartment before I shit. And if for some reason I can't hold it, that door will be shut and locked.

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Cimarron29414

This is a pretty common issue with relationships and it usually centers around "attactiveness". I think we all get more comfortable over time and this behavior will probably subside. If this is something you want her to feel okay with, then reassurance will help. Giving her a way of masking sounds and scents in the toilet is also helpful.

The poor girl is going to cause herself health problems if she tries to bind herself up. Be good to your colon!

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leftyderek

Hm, I would sometimes tell her that I'm going to take a poop and let her know I don't really care if she knows I'm doing that- by that she could probably sense that you don't mind it that much when she does that.

Or you can simply tell her that she doesn't have to be embarassed about that. Being honest any open up yourself up first always works . For example you can just tell her something (half-jokingly) like, 'you know what darling? Someone kids wrote that true love means you can brush your teeth while your g/bf is taking a poop in the bathroom behind you. And you know what? I think I trully love you.'

(When I told my gf that she was like 'EWwwwww' and then laughed her ass off.)

But I also think it's just a matter of time. After a while more trust and security is built between you two and you probably wouldn't mind anymore.

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Sage

At the beginning of being with Martel, I was mortiallly embarrassed at the thought of farting in front of him. Fortunately, we've gotten over that one

As for the pooping, well... I'll sum it up as one of my hallmates in boarding school said:

"I don't want my man coming in when I'm brushing my teeth and being all 'Well, honey, how was your.......*grunt*.....day?"


Just open up to your GF- that's what the best relationships are built on- communication

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RCR

Thanks guys, really appreciated

She is such a cute funny little thing, and i find it quite amusing to be honest.

cheers again, its nice to hear that it happens to a lot of relationships,

best,

Willravel

I know my wife has a digestive system, and I know that she often completes the digestive process. I do not want to associate her with that smell. Likewise, I don't want her associating me with any unpleasant smells. That's also why I bathe.

yabobo

Dudes and chicks have a tough time with it because......

We put our faces down there and tounges

Can't think that such a wonderful funzone could have such nasty things
come out of it!

When looking to rent or buy on thing to look for is a big noisy bathroom
exhaust fan. Then no more problem!

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lurkette

We've been married for 10 years and we still let each other poop in privacy. Peeing is not a problem, and farts will merit an "excuse me!" but for some reason, pooing is still a solitary affair, and we both like it that way.

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snow wombat

Tell her to flush the toilet... This way it will cover any sound she could make!

tspikes51

Put a stereo in the john. My house is situated like so:



So you can see the difficulties that arise from having people hearing you shit. We have a boombox in there for the ladies (and whenever we feel like jammin to a good shit).

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xxSquirtxx

After 19 years together, I still refuse to go #2 with him anywhere near me. Nor do I want to be around him when he's doing it. No way, no how.

World's King

Oddly, for some strange but not dangerous medical reason my girlfriend only shits twice a week.

When I have to, which is at least once a day, I tell her I got some buisness to take care of and she just laughs and tells me to stay clean. As for farting, she likes to sit on my lap when she has to fart.

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