khanitthakay

Hello,

I like to think about sexy girls when I play alone in my room, but actually I have an husband and I love him, so I don't know if I should go further with these sexy girls I'm thinking about ?

My husband is ok to go further with me and any sexy girl as the same time... Wink

Have you tried this kind of experience? Does your husband/boyfriend still loves you after that?!

Thanks.

Aladdin Sane

Sounds like sexy fun, but unless you two have been married for awhile I don't recommend a threesome. It could be very disruptive to a young marriage.
How long have you been married? Have you ever had a threesome before? Have you ever had sex with another woman before?

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Cynthetiq

elaborate more on what your insecurities or issues that are holding you back so that people here can address them.

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highthief

If you are both strong, secure people with a great bond and mutually wish to explore the idea, go for it.

If there is any insecurity, however, keep it in the realm of fantasy.

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Rubyee

I feel the same as you do- something I am inticed to try.

But, I also feel that it could harm more than pleasure, so I am going to wait a long while before giving it any more thought.

You really need to talk to your hubby about it, though. Get his thoughts. You might be surprised at his reactions. I don't think that my SO would even want something like that.

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cellophanedeity

Well, my love and I have tried it. It turned out fine really. We talked a lot about it both before and after the fact, and we're still good.

Infact, we're going to try it again sometime with one of our male friends...

cellophanedeity

Well, my love and I have tried it. It turned out fine really. We talked a lot about it both before and after the fact, and we're still good. Infact, we're going to try it again sometime with one of our male friends.

I think that as long as you communicate enough, don't get too jealous, and trust eachother deeply, then things can go well, and sometimes even better.

skier

Totally agree with this one. If you're going to have a threesome, you'll have to be extremely honest with yourself on how you feel about it- before, during, and after the act. You'll also need to have a safeword you can use during the threesome that'll stop everything immediately if you feel uncomfortable or troubled about something.

Are you worried about being jealous? Unwanted/undesirable? Having your husband think you don't desire him? Unloved? etc. Lots of things to think about before you decide on acting out your fantasy.

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smooth

Some lower-key alternatives to try might be to try a 1 on 1 with another woman or, if your hubby isn't that open-minded about it or you want to share the experience with him (I'm actually the catalyst for my wife and her partners--it's not a question of faithfulness for us, but what she derives the most pleasure from), then you might consider a 1 on 1 with him only watching.

Depending on your relationship, full swap between another woman and your husband might not turn out in ways either of you thought it would be when it's actually implemented. You might try and indulge in some fantasy role-playing first with him in the room (phantom girlfriend, for example) then move on to female to female contact while your husband pleasures you.

New Year's is coming up, so a lil kissy kissy to a woman you find attractive is an innocuous way to get the ball rolling on the stroke of midnight

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Ustwo

Having had my share of 3'somes they do work out but the real question is this.

How do you feel about watching your husband nail some girl you just met? Almost every man has a FMF fantasy, but ask those same guys to do an MFM and you will see a different reaction (and I'm not talking about bisexuality but just giving their woman another man to play with).

So if your marriage is VERY strong, as in you really love each other deeply and you don't mind seeing him have sex with other women, go for it, its a blast. If you are not 100% soild in your marriage or you are not happy to think of him with another woman, it could destroy what you have.

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WillyPete

I'd read a few scenarios into this.

Ask him what he wants and discuss what you want/expect from this.

Guys (me) can see a FFM in one of two ways.
1: There's now 2 times the girl for me to pleasure myself on. (I'm not a big-headed enough to think I could please more than one. )
2: There's another girl and my wife is getting off on her and I'm happy to watch, participating if necessary.

Some questions to ask yourself:
Do you want this for you or him?
Does he want this for you or him?
(Asked already) Are you okay if the girl wants him?
Is he okay with that too?
Are you okay if he becomes the subject of attention?
What if the girl wants you both to focus on her?


Maybe watch some porn and point out which 3-somes scenes appeal to you and put them on your 'wish list' for the event?

xrayvision2

it'l be ok for a while but jealousy will tear you apart. uless either one of you is the jealous type