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wikkachik · 11-09-2005, 09:44 PM

ok, so I met this guy through this website that my school has. I asked him over for a movie, and at the end of the date i made the move to kiss him on the cheek. I didn't see him for a couple of days, but when halloween started to creep up, i asked him to go see the rocky horror picture show at a local theater. he said yes, but the night he was supposed to call to tell me where to meet him he sent me this email saying that he really liked me, but he didn't think we should go any further. he said that he had been seeing this other girl a week or two before i contacted him. i still thought he was a cool guy, and i appreciated that he was at least honest, but he has since told me a couple of times that he still likes me, and that he wishes that we had met a little sooner. I feel like I'm getting some mixed messages from him, but I really can't tell. What do you guys think? Ok, quick update: I'm not even sure that he is still seeing this girl, so would it be too foward of me to ask him if he is? I still really like him, and I don't want to scare him off if there still may be a chance.
Thanks a bunch

ruggerp11 · 11-09-2005, 10:06 PM

keep looking. If he really liked you he would date you. IMO hes keeping you along incase the other one doesn't work out.

My suggestion is to cut your losses, chances are you're worth a lot more than that anyways.

Dragonknight · 11-10-2005, 12:38 AM

I agree with ruggerp11, he's just dragging you along as a back up plan. If it was nothing serious or worth keeping with this other girl then he would have dropped her in fast. Tell him if he really wants a relationship with you then he has to leave the other girl or the current relationship is going to go no where.

little_tippler · 11-10-2005, 05:03 AM

stringing you along is not a nice thing to do. From my previous experience, run. He's not worth it and will probably cause you heartache.

Samalie · 11-10-2005, 07:59 AM

Aye, agree with the above. You're a fall-back, a back-up if it doesn't work out with this other girl.

Continue on, enjoy life, and find the right guy

Sammy

ibis · 11-10-2005, 09:52 AM

If you're single, date around. It's fine to go out with more than one personat a time - as longas you make it clear to the other person you are doing so.

There are only benefits to this: 1. youhave more fun. 2. you get to experience whats out there better. 3. you are moreappealing to other guys because they know you're in demand.

Tell him, it's ok to see other people, I encourage it... It's not like we're married or any thing.

rlynnm · 11-30-2005, 05:16 PM

Don't go on what he says, go on how he acts. I guess that's as simple as it can be put...

Siege · 11-30-2005, 07:39 PM

Go out with me instead.

But really, it depends on whether or not you like playing second string. If that's your kind of thing, then have fun. If it isn't, run, don't walk away.

william · 12-09-2005, 02:41 PM

If he really liked you that much, he would have dumped her (or the prospect of) to be w/you. Might as well step away now, instead of investing anymore time into it.

xrayvision2 · 12-14-2005, 06:38 AM

he likes you, and he keeps telling you that so you'll still be avail when the other relationship takes a crap

rlynnm · 12-14-2005, 10:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xrayvision2

he likes you, and he keeps telling you that so you'll still be avail when the other relationship takes a crap

brief and blunt. that's awesome.

Seaver · 12-14-2005, 10:18 AM

He does like you, he just likes the other girl. And atm he has his cake and eats your as well (wasn't intended as a pun.. I promise).

Simply tell him you like him, however you wont be his play thing. Tell him to drop his other girl to be with you or just dont bother. His decision might not be what you want it to be, but you'll cease being the girl on the side and can find someone who truely appreciates you.

11-09-2005, 09:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
wikkachik Upright	does he want to date or not? ok, so I met this guy through this website that my school has. I asked him over for a movie, and at the end of the date i made the move to kiss him on the cheek. I didn't see him for a couple of days, but when halloween started to creep up, i asked him to go see the rocky horror picture show at a local theater. he said yes, but the night he was supposed to call to tell me where to meet him he sent me this email saying that he really liked me, but he didn't think we should go any further. he said that he had been seeing this other girl a week or two before i contacted him. i still thought he was a cool guy, and i appreciated that he was at least honest, but he has since told me a couple of times that he still likes me, and that he wishes that we had met a little sooner. I feel like I'm getting some mixed messages from him, but I really can't tell. What do you guys think? Ok, quick update: I'm not even sure that he is still seeing this girl, so would it be too foward of me to ask him if he is? I still really like him, and I don't want to scare him off if there still may be a chance. Thanks a bunch Last edited by wikkachik; 11-10-2005 at 07:30 AM..

11-09-2005, 10:06 PM	#2 (permalink)
ruggerp11 Cautiously soaring Location: exploring my new home in SF	keep looking. If he really liked you he would date you. IMO hes keeping you along incase the other one doesn't work out. My suggestion is to cut your losses, chances are you're worth a lot more than that anyways. __________________ Patriotism means being loyal to your country all the time and to its government when it deserves it. --Mark Twain Do What makes you happy --Me BUT! "Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness" - Chuang-Tzu

11-10-2005, 12:38 AM	#3 (permalink)
Dragonknight Insane Location: Hawaii	I agree with ruggerp11, he's just dragging you along as a back up plan. If it was nothing serious or worth keeping with this other girl then he would have dropped her in fast. Tell him if he really wants a relationship with you then he has to leave the other girl or the current relationship is going to go no where. __________________ Freedom is NOT Free.

11-10-2005, 05:03 AM	#4 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	stringing you along is not a nice thing to do. From my previous experience, run. He's not worth it and will probably cause you heartache. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

11-30-2005, 05:16 PM	#7 (permalink)
rlynnm Psycho Location: so cal	Don't go on what he says, go on how he acts. I guess that's as simple as it can be put... __________________ The hardest thing is to be honest with yourself, especially if that means completely redefining the world you've come to know. Don't look too hard, I'm right in front of you.

11-10-2005, 07:59 AM	#5 (permalink)
Samalie Tilted Location: Edmonton, Canada	Aye, agree with the above. You're a fall-back, a back-up if it doesn't work out with this other girl. Continue on, enjoy life, and find the right guy Sammy

11-10-2005, 09:52 AM	#6 (permalink)
ibis PIKE!	If you're single, date around. It's fine to go out with more than one personat a time - as longas you make it clear to the other person you are doing so. There are only benefits to this: 1. youhave more fun. 2. you get to experience whats out there better. 3. you are moreappealing to other guys because they know you're in demand. Tell him, it's ok to see other people, I encourage it... It's not like we're married or any thing.

11-30-2005, 07:39 PM	#8 (permalink)
Siege is a tiger Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada	Go out with me instead. But really, it depends on whether or not you like playing second string. If that's your kind of thing, then have fun. If it isn't, run, don't walk away. __________________ "Your name's Geek? Do you know the origin of the term? A geek is someone who bites the heads off chickens at a circus. I would never let you suck my dick with a name like Geek" --Kevin Smith This part just makes my posts easier to find

12-09-2005, 02:41 PM	#9 (permalink)
william Psycho	If he really liked you that much, he would have dumped her (or the prospect of) to be w/you. Might as well step away now, instead of investing anymore time into it.

12-14-2005, 06:38 AM	#10 (permalink)
xrayvision2 Upright	he likes you, and he keeps telling you that so you'll still be avail when the other relationship takes a crap

12-14-2005, 10:18 AM	#12 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	He does like you, he just likes the other girl. And atm he has his cake and eats your as well (wasn't intended as a pun.. I promise). Simply tell him you like him, however you wont be his play thing. Tell him to drop his other girl to be with you or just dont bother. His decision might not be what you want it to be, but you'll cease being the girl on the side and can find someone who truely appreciates you.