HoneyPot

I've been stuck in a rut lately on finding a man. I'm so picky, but on the other hand I really haven't met anyone new in about 6 mos. Is there something wrong with me or am I looking in the wrong places? What if I haven't been even looking, because I haven't? Whats going on? I guess I'm just missing a companion. Someone to hang out with....Any suggestions where my next rendevous might 'come up'?

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Daniel_

I always feel that friendship is a good first step for more interesting relationships.

You cant date guys you never met - so meet guys in a non threateningnon sexual manner.

I'd say figure out the sort of guy you fancy and then join an organisation that caters to that "type". If you like jocks, join a sports club - if you like brainy guys join a chess club....

If you like geeky spotty teenagers, join a chatroom.

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Suave

There's one right here. But honestly, they're around. I doubt you have to look all that hard. Just do what you do and you'll find some.

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Val_1

Perhaps if you define what you mean by "REAL", it might help. I assume you mean more than "not fictitous".

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World's King

If you're looking for a "real" man I would think your best bet would be where ever lumberjacks hangout.

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ngdawg

*Pays attention to King's pointless comments




feel better now?

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maleficent

/me looks at honeypot's location....

/me always thought that cowboys rode the open plains in Montana...

Here's a trick i learned (shhhh don't tell anyone this, it's a secret)... to meet people, you actually have to go to that outside place...

what are you looking for? relationship, friendship, a quickie that lasts 4 hours....

find a club to join, a volunteer opportunity, anything that gets you out and mingling with people... and you migh have some fun yourself

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spincycle0

Stop trying so hard. It always seems to me that when i meet someone, a woman in my case, its when i'm not looking and not trying. I think when you're not looking it just takes the pressure off of things and lets your real personality come through, which in turn makes you more attractive to other people.

Jesus Pimp

Why don't you join an improv group? It's a great way of meeting people.

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Johnny Pyro

I agree. You can't go wrong with flannels, beards, and flapjacks!

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Elphaba

Ignore these men. Lumberjacks are underemployed and they have been replaced by big tree picking machines. Seek out the owner of the tree picking machines or the local baker. I love fresh bread.

Seriously, look where you haven't looked before.

denim

"I'm a lumberjack and I'm OKAY.
I sleep all night and I work all day."

Johnny Rotten

I'd say a grocery store. The best place for meeting a "real" man is anybody's guess, but a man (or woman) at a grocery store, buying things like fresh produce and cooking ingredients, means he's probably got his shit together. Whether he's shopping for himself or has an SO and is buying cookery for them, it's a good sign.

Speaking as a guy, there's a whole world of us out there who buy a list of pre-packaged junk, and this can indicate laziness, poor hygeine, little exercise, and bad time management. There's sure to be some great folks who do this as well, but if you want to cut out a lot chaff, stick to the cookers.

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Johnny Pyro

Oh my God! Thats definetly me.

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justjt

Oh yes the age ole question..."Where to meet the right person?"

Sometimes the right person may be right in front of your face in your everyday life.
I have found (and by no means am I an expert) that if you go looking alot of times you end up wanting more.
Finding the right person usually works out best when it just works out on it's own. Of course that does nothing for instant satisfaction
There is nothing wrong with being picky and waiting for what you really want..but sometimes you have to lower your guard a little to actually see some of what a person might actually have to offer (have that problem myself)..but by no means am I saying settle for less.

But hey what do I know...I am still single also only allowing the occassional visitor into my life.

So...uh I'll pick you up 7:00pm?

noodle

I love the grocery store! And coffee houses. But not the Laundromat. Never, ever want someone checking me out while I fold my underwear. Unless I wore the good ones that week. I usually end up attracting the gentlemen that are significantly older than myself and enjoy talking about things like wild boar hunting.

Coffee houses are more fun. Especially if you're a people watcher. Grab your favorite book and kick back, while observing people's reaction to what you're reading or noticing what they're reading/researching/studying. I met some crazy-fun guys while reading "The Iron Heel" at Starbucks. Intelligent men who brush their teeth and wear deodorant. And rarely want to discuss slaughtering wild animals for fun. (Not that there's anything wrong with that!)

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Nimetic

Dunno. You could try a gym. Lots of guys work out. Speaking for myself - I do this even more if I'm single.

Eliminate from your list guys that seem to start converstations with all women that stray near them.

Now... eliminate from your list those guys that seem to put excessive stock in their appearance, clothing etc. Some use of mirrors is fine - but extended posing is bad.

Once you've made your mind up, just make sure you have a reasonably friendly or approachable look. Maybe smile as you pass your chosen candidate. You can probably strike up a small conversation or say something in the cardio area. As a bonus.. he might introduce you to more people (assuming that you don't hit it off).

Siege

I don't have any of the above problems. I just don't know how to cook!

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777

Psycho-analizing the contents of a guy's shopping cart as well as their social and grooming habits are fine and all, but what ever happened with enjoying being single and independent?

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noodle

All well and good, but being single and independent can get old. Don't get me wrong, I love it most of the time. Sometimes it's like exercizing your imagination skills to attempt to figure out what might being going on in the head of someone based on their grocery cart contents. I love testing my Powers of Psychoanalyzation.

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kel

46 Auburn st.
Waltham, MA 02155
Look for the Harley.

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HoneyPot

I totally know how that is. I think thats where I'm at right now, bored out of my freakin mind. I haven't had someone to hang out with in a few months. Its not like I can't be independent, its just fun to have someone there to hang and just be yourself. ya know?

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HoneyPot

7:00pm sounds great, where we going? Whatta ya got in your grocery cart?

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qweds

2263 N kedzie blvd
chicago il

sorry kel it was a good idea, had to steal it.

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tecoyah

I would recommend a bookstore.....and the coffee shop inside. Keep an eye on the section of books that interest you and watch who goes in there. I myself find most of the people who spend more than ten minutes in a barnes and noble pretty cool ....and generally a bit more interesting than the bar crowd. As far as Real men....heh.....good freakin luck, there are only eleven of us in the U.S.....and nine are married.

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justjt

"HoneyPot"
We will be starting the night off at a great little Italian restaurant called "il Farro".........

Oh in my kart.........(lastest list)

gallon of 2% milk
loaf of multi-grain bread
peanut butter (life would cease without it)
honey
box of Tide laundry soap
box of Bounce dryer sheets
2 boxes of Honey Bunches of Oats
bananas (still trying to eat them all before one of them turns brown )
apples (yellow)
a couple potatoes
a couple tomatoes
a couple of limes
lunch meat/turky and roast beef (from the deli...the whole pre-packaged thing freaks me out...like to see it cut in-front of me )
swiss cheese (also sliced at the deli......I mean I'm already standing there getting the lunchmeat)
jar of Miracle Whip
jar of pickles/sweet kind
couple cans of tuna
salsa (mild cause I am a light weight in the "holy hell that's hot" dept. )
tortilla chips
chicken breasts
couple of steaks
can of shaving cream
Q-tips
advil
1 role of paper towels
dozen eggs
12 pack of Diet Coke
6 pack of Coronas
oh.....and damn it I forgot the toilet paper

HoneyPot

Wheres the fresh flowers jt? But hey you had me at '6 pack of Coronas'!!!
I was wonderin what the limes were for..... hehe

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noodle

^^Man, I hate choking on what I'm drinking... but that's hilarious, you two! It always cracks me up to see guys buying detergent and shaving cream at the grocery store where the prices are usually high. I'm just a cheap-skate... I hit SuperTarget and get everything low priced.

And, HoneyPot, I completely miss just even hanging out with with a guy these days. It's frustrating lately to find someone to have an intelligent conversation with, much less spend a whole evening together. But I've not given up hope. Just hopped outside my box... The park/dog walk is fun, too. I find that the person with the funniest looking dog is often the most interesting person hanging about. (And go for a living plant, cut flowers die)

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MSD

And I live across the country. The other single one may choose to reveal himself, but we are sworn to protect the identities of the others until they make themselves known.

(Sorry Tec, but I was going to make almost the same joke and therefore I deserve to be in on it.)

Conspiracies aside, if you want to find a real man, carry around DNA Chromatography equipment and check for a Y chromosome.

Berrum

if you go for the grocery thing, just camp the rye flakes. real men eat rye porridge for breakfast :P