so....it's been a while....
i'm a relatively young guy (28) and i've been divorced for about 2 years. that's how long it's been since i've had any sort of intimate/physical contact as well.
i'm not ready for a relationship right now. i know that for sure. however, i really, really miss physical contact with women. of course, i miss the actual sex, but i really miss the foreplay, cuddling, and everything else leading up to sex. i've been to a strip club once with some friends, in the last 2 years. instead of just mashing the girl's boobs around, i enjoyed the closeness of her most. running my hands up and down her back and through her hair felt amazing. of course, her boobies were nice :p, but her "closeness" was something that turned me on more. has anyone been in the same situation? am i SOL until i find a relationship? |
well it depends. the short answer is yes, you may be sol. The long answer involves random women, whom you may pay for. Its a natural thing to want to be close to a woman, to want her touch more than you may want to get off sexually with her. Everyone I know likes affection in one way or another. Its natural, its ego boosting, and its comforting.
Just remember that the harder you chase it the more elusive it becomes. |
I've been separated since last fall - the horny thing is there - sometimes urgent and sometimes so far into the background I am quite unaware of it. I do find that quite often though I wish I was just sitting hip to hip with a lady, or walking down the street holding hands. This more often, actually, then the Rawr feelings. Would that be a function of middle age? I don't think that would be entirely correct. Simple contact with a lady I find attractive is the number 1 thing I miss.
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I'm female but from a similar perspective.. It's been three years and counting (and not looking good this year either) since my last relationship-esque thing.. I don't miss being someone's girlfriend... I never quite liked being chattel, or having to take someone else's schedule into consideration when I want to do something (yes, I am selfish)
What I do miss, is intimacy, and while it' sbeen three years for sex too, sex and intimacy are two different things... I miss talking to someone til dawn... or just having my hair played with because it was there... or rubbing someone's shoulders because my hands needed something to do... I miss the closeness to someone... I'd agree with Kramus, it's the simple contact that I miss... |
yeah, the above mentioned is pretty much what i mean. now is there any way you guys/gals satiate those desires/feelings without the commitment of a relationship?
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don't i wish...
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not yet bud - and maybe not for a while longer either :(
Being in limbo land sucks. |
My friends and I were discussing relationships and we came to the same conclusions. While sex is great and I would like to have it all the time it is the non-sexual intimate intamacy that I miss the most.
It appears however that society has created a lot of barriers to touching someone and it no going to sexual touch. I am currently exploring a way to achieve touch without it being sexual. I will report back if I have any findings. |
Co-ed wrestling?
Seriously, you can't date them if you didn't meet them. And you won't be a more attractive a prospect as a sit-at-home net-head than you would if you have a fit body and interesting hobbies. Take up a sport - something low impact like Fencing is cool, or a mixed sport like badminton or bowling (european or 10 pin) you get to meet women, you get to chat and be friends, and if things work out you never know how things might develop. |
I can't believe how true this is... :(
I've been single for 1 year, 7 months, 1 day.... :lol: In the first few months, I was just plain horny. But after time went on, I became the same way. Sometime within the first year, I found myself at a strip club too... I paid for a lap dance, but just ended up talking to the girl and giving her a 30 minute back massage while she was sitting in my lap. ;) One of my strangest strip club experiences ever. It's amazing how much I get out of a simple hug or snuggling on the couch watching tv now.... all the things that drove me nuts when I was in a relationship. And it's true what they say about being desparate for attention - it drives any interest in the other party away. |
Maybe you're not ready for a relationship, but what about casual dating? Does anyone do that anymore? See people, go on dates, without being "boyfriend and girlfriend"?
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Isn't it funny (in a "not-so-funny" way) that we all crave sex, yet ultimately it is the companionship that we miss the most.
At least, that is true with me. I miss (heart-wrenchingly) the man that used to make me purr like a kitten for I miss the sex every single bloody day. But eventually (unfortunately) you get used to that. Now I find that as much as I crave the sexual end of it, I miss much more having someone to talk to. Sex is easy to find and/or get - the hard part is finding someone who you also actually want to wake up with. |
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