Drunken makeout etiquette - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

FrellingSmeg · 07-02-2005, 03:21 PM

I've recently discovered myself in a social situation I never thought I would encounter. It would appear that, at least while drunk, one of my neighbors thinks I'm hot. She finally clued me in on this fact last night right before she started kissing me. I know enough about her to realize that she doesn't really want a long term relationship, which if fine by me because right now I don't really want one either. With any luck, I'm going to be joining the Coast Guard in a few months and didn't really want to start a relationship just to end it. However, a fling like this would be a great way to pass the next couple of months.

The point of this post is to see if anyone has any experience on how to handle post drunken makeout sessions. I talked to her today, and she didn't seem embarased to talk to me, so I'm taking that as a good sign. However, I am by no means "In there" as of yet.

I've pretty much decided that for the time being, I have to let her initiate things. I thought about going over today to hang out, but decided that space probably needs to be my guiding line in this matter. I think the only time I get to visit the land of make out is going to be when she has had a few to drink (at least for the time being).

If it happens again, I've wondered about a few things.

1) Is this taking advantage of her? She was drunk, but not totally gone. She did seem to remember most of it this morning.

2) How much can I let my hands roam? She has a nice ass, ever since I've met her, I would like to get my hands on it. Is it off limits till we expand the peramiters of our relationship?

3) Am I allowed to buy her a beer now and again? Or is that kind of creepy?

So lets hear it TPers, let us know about the time you and a coworker got drunk and went at it like a couple who's plane was about to go down. Let me know how you managed to turn a one time event into a long time thing. Or let me know how making out with a neighbor screwed up your life.

pinkie · 07-02-2005, 03:45 PM

Wow, the fact that you have put so much thought into the matter gives me the impression that you are a very rational guy, who genuinely cares about doing the right thing.

That being said, I'd say the sky's the limit unless you hear the word "no."

My husband and I had sex the first night we met and now, 4 years down the road we're married and happy as two bugs in a rug.

toxic515 · 07-02-2005, 04:01 PM

during a make-out, whether drunk or not, ass is certainly fair game unless she objects. If she is kissing you, she's not likely going to mind. As for being drunk, there may be different schools of thought on that, but frankly, each individual is responsible for their own actions. Drunk is not an excuse for ANYTHING. If you (or she, or me or whatever) cannot hold your sauce and your thoughts, don't drink, or be prepared for the consequences. It's been my experience that if a girl starts kissing someone, she rather expects some kind of response. She's tired of waiting on you to make the first move, and has placed the ball in your court, so to speak.

Druidess · 07-02-2005, 04:54 PM

Just remember she may not remember this later.

AquaFox · 07-02-2005, 07:21 PM

being with someone drunk can lead to some pleasureable stuff for you, but don't let her do anything that you would think she would regret when sober

i had an experience with a girl who wanted some action while she was drunk, and ended up turning it down

twinkle · 07-02-2005, 07:31 PM

If she seems fine with it, she probably is.

Just be careful. Drunk people have much lowered inhibitions --- lowered inhibitions that they may later become ashamed of.

gentlesoul43 · 07-02-2005, 08:40 PM

In a drunken state, the lowered inhibitions also allow people to express themselves in ways they would not have had the courage to do while sober. So go ahead and express yourself.

Daoust · 07-04-2005, 10:34 AM

If she wants you to tap her while she's sober, take that opportunity. Find out if that's a possibility. If she only seems to be feeling you when she's had a few, take that oppourtunity. Speaking as a man who rarely got any or gets any, I think I am an expert on the matter.

martinguerre · 07-04-2005, 01:32 PM

i think this is all solid advice...my addition is to be rather careful about consent.

if she says no, take that seriously. but if alcohol is involved, be on the lookout for signs of refusal or the inability to consent...

you sound like you're really trying to do the right thing...so no worries and best of luck.

guthmund · 07-05-2005, 05:23 AM

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1) Is this taking advantage of her? She was drunk, but not totally gone. She did seem to remember most of it this morning.

Obviously she's into you. And it's not like she's passed out drunk on the sofa and has no expectation about what might happen to her. She's getting a little tipsy and she wants to have a good time, who are you to argue? To be perfectly honest, it sounds like maybe she's using the alcohol as an excuse to get her hands on you. I don't mean to say that she's getting liquored up so she can plausibly deny the gropefest (or whatever may happen...), but rather she's having a few drinks to loosen up. Later on she'll use it as an excuse for getting physical with you. "Well, normally I don't do those sort of things, but....there was some beer there and I did get a bit tipsy."

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2) How much can I let my hands roam? She has a nice ass, ever since I've met her, I would like to get my hands on it. Is it off limits till we expand the peramiters of our relationship?

What parameters of what relationship? There doesn't seem to be a relationship as far as I can tell...so, no parameters to follow and no rules of etiquette to abide by. It seems to me that once she initiates and until she says otherwise, the ass is fair game.

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3) Am I allowed to buy her a beer now and again? Or is that kind of creepy?

Buy a couple beers. Do a little dance. Get down tonight. Get down tonight.

kangaeru · 07-05-2005, 10:24 AM

Hmm...

as long as you prime the proper areas, nothing will be off limits, probably. You don't want to try getting your hand down her pants off the bat...but nothing says you cant rub her inner though and grab around that area, making her so hot that she WANTS your hand down her pants, and maybe the rest of you.

It's just a matter of turning them on without going for one of the hot spots...once she's turned on she'll rip YOUR shirt off.

FrellingSmeg · 07-05-2005, 06:28 PM

I must say, the advice from everyone in this post has been really good. When it comes to my friends, I'm blazing the trail here, so I haven't been able to go to them.

Just an update, we did a little talking last night after the fireworks. I think at the very least, I have someone I can make out with after a night of drinking. Which is kind of nice, because that tends to be when I want to do that sort of thing the most.

sapituca · 07-05-2005, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by FrellingSmeg

The point of this post is to see if anyone has any experience on how to handle post drunken makeout sessions.

STAY DRUNK

07-02-2005, 03:21 PM	#1 (permalink)
FrellingSmeg Upright	Drunken makeout etiquette I've recently discovered myself in a social situation I never thought I would encounter. It would appear that, at least while drunk, one of my neighbors thinks I'm hot. She finally clued me in on this fact last night right before she started kissing me. I know enough about her to realize that she doesn't really want a long term relationship, which if fine by me because right now I don't really want one either. With any luck, I'm going to be joining the Coast Guard in a few months and didn't really want to start a relationship just to end it. However, a fling like this would be a great way to pass the next couple of months. The point of this post is to see if anyone has any experience on how to handle post drunken makeout sessions. I talked to her today, and she didn't seem embarased to talk to me, so I'm taking that as a good sign. However, I am by no means "In there" as of yet. I've pretty much decided that for the time being, I have to let her initiate things. I thought about going over today to hang out, but decided that space probably needs to be my guiding line in this matter. I think the only time I get to visit the land of make out is going to be when she has had a few to drink (at least for the time being). If it happens again, I've wondered about a few things. 1) Is this taking advantage of her? She was drunk, but not totally gone. She did seem to remember most of it this morning. 2) How much can I let my hands roam? She has a nice ass, ever since I've met her, I would like to get my hands on it. Is it off limits till we expand the peramiters of our relationship? 3) Am I allowed to buy her a beer now and again? Or is that kind of creepy? So lets hear it TPers, let us know about the time you and a coworker got drunk and went at it like a couple who's plane was about to go down. Let me know how you managed to turn a one time event into a long time thing. Or let me know how making out with a neighbor screwed up your life.

07-02-2005, 04:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
toxic515 Addict Location: Texas	during a make-out, whether drunk or not, ass is certainly fair game unless she objects. If she is kissing you, she's not likely going to mind. As for being drunk, there may be different schools of thought on that, but frankly, each individual is responsible for their own actions. Drunk is not an excuse for ANYTHING. If you (or she, or me or whatever) cannot hold your sauce and your thoughts, don't drink, or be prepared for the consequences. It's been my experience that if a girl starts kissing someone, she rather expects some kind of response. She's tired of waiting on you to make the first move, and has placed the ball in your court, so to speak. __________________ Time flies like an arrow, fruit flies like a banana.

07-02-2005, 04:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
Druidess Upright Location: The Edges of Twilight	Just remember she may not remember this later. __________________ Around the pyre, cirlce of 13... Throughout these woods, ecstatic screams... I look deeply into your eyes... I smell your hair, caress your thighs...

07-02-2005, 07:21 PM	#5 (permalink)
AquaFox WaterDog	being with someone drunk can lead to some pleasureable stuff for you, but don't let her do anything that you would think she would regret when sober i had an experience with a girl who wanted some action while she was drunk, and ended up turning it down __________________ ...AquaFox...

07-04-2005, 10:34 AM	#8 (permalink)
Daoust "I'm sorry. What was the question?" Location: Paradise Regained	If she wants you to tap her while she's sober, take that opportunity. Find out if that's a possibility. If she only seems to be feeling you when she's had a few, take that oppourtunity. Speaking as a man who rarely got any or gets any, I think I am an expert on the matter. __________________ I have faith in a few things - divinity and grace But even when I'm on my knees I know the devil preys

07-02-2005, 03:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	Wow, the fact that you have put so much thought into the matter gives me the impression that you are a very rational guy, who genuinely cares about doing the right thing. That being said, I'd say the sky's the limit unless you hear the word "no." My husband and I had sex the first night we met and now, 4 years down the road we're married and happy as two bugs in a rug.

07-02-2005, 07:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
twinkle Upright	If she seems fine with it, she probably is. Just be careful. Drunk people have much lowered inhibitions --- lowered inhibitions that they may later become ashamed of.

07-02-2005, 08:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
gentlesoul43 Tilted	In a drunken state, the lowered inhibitions also allow people to express themselves in ways they would not have had the courage to do while sober. So go ahead and express yourself.

07-04-2005, 01:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
martinguerre whosoever Location: New England	i think this is all solid advice...my addition is to be rather careful about consent. if she says no, take that seriously. but if alcohol is involved, be on the lookout for signs of refusal or the inability to consent... you sound like you're really trying to do the right thing...so no worries and best of luck. __________________ For God so loved creation, that God sent God's only Son that whosoever believed should not perish, but have everlasting life. -John 3:16

07-05-2005, 10:24 AM	#11 (permalink)
kangaeru Crazy Location: on the road to where I want to be...	Hmm... as long as you prime the proper areas, nothing will be off limits, probably. You don't want to try getting your hand down her pants off the bat...but nothing says you cant rub her inner though and grab around that area, making her so hot that she WANTS your hand down her pants, and maybe the rest of you. It's just a matter of turning them on without going for one of the hot spots...once she's turned on she'll rip YOUR shirt off. __________________ Dont be afraid to change who you are for what you could become

07-05-2005, 06:28 PM	#12 (permalink)
FrellingSmeg Upright	I must say, the advice from everyone in this post has been really good. When it comes to my friends, I'm blazing the trail here, so I haven't been able to go to them. Just an update, we did a little talking last night after the fireworks. I think at the very least, I have someone I can make out with after a night of drinking. Which is kind of nice, because that tends to be when I want to do that sort of thing the most.