Bi-curious girls. Where are they?
 

Is it me? or am i the only bi-curious girl? I've been looking everywhere for a 'friend' to help me with my growing frustration.

I've had moments, but i long for the touch of a girl.

Even though i'm married and get plenty of attetion at work from some lovely guys, it's just never enough?

Is there any one else that feels the same or am i just a freak?

'Scuse me if this is out of line, but where does your husband fit into all this?

I've got no issue with experimenting and such with something that by definition you don't have in a marriage (ie. being married to a man and interested in women) but it sounds to me like maybe you're not getting what you need from your husband if you're still looking for attention from guys at work.

And just for the record, I know there are plenty of bi-curious girls around, I'm married to one. :)

Hmmm... I wouldn't exactly say I'm even at the level of "bi-curious" but I do have an interest in women at some level (whatever it is).

First of all, you're not a freak. Honestly, it's very acceptable for you to be interested in other women. No one's going to look at you differently. However, perhaps you should talk to him about this "longing" of yours and see what he thinks. Hell, he might even be delighted that you're interested in other women. :D

As Meatwad says, "I ain't no bi-curious!"

Actually, until fairly recently I was, and then I realized I really do like women...there's no curiousity about it :)

They do give you something men don't, and you're definitely not a freak for being interested. However, as emotional suggested, communication is key--your spouse needs to know about your curiousity. There are a lot of other bi/bicurious women on this board, and so I know you'll get a lot of support and help if you ask for it.

When I lived in Ohio, there were too many to count. Just sit back and wait, you'll notice a few before you know it.

And personally as said above, you get attention from guys at work and yet you are married? That brings up a bigger issue with me. But hey.... thats why it is your life, you don't have to listen to me.

You wish.

There's barely any up here, at least, not that I've noticed ;)

Well in swinger circles there's seems to be a lot of bi-curious/bisexual girls. I have a few girlfriends that I chat with regularly and play with on occaision. I've really been initially introduced to bi-sexuality only about 3 years ago and have grown to enjoy it quite a bit. I would say about 1/3 of the swinger girls I meet are bi-curious at least.

1) they're more plentiful than you think. as i mentioned in another thread, all the girls i've been in relationships with have been at least bi-curious, if not officlally bi.
2) like it was already mentioned, hope you have the ok from the husband before you act on anything, nobody likes a cheater.

Seriously, dude, where aren't they? Almost every single woman I know well enough to talk about sex is at least bi-curious. Out of all my female friends, I know ONE who's not.

Hmm. I think something is fishy here. Just an instinct.

-Mikey

I did a study on this for a class on the psych of sexuality. Bi-curiosity in both sexes is perfectly normal. Social stigmas have repressed most mens feelings about this, as well as many womens.

For women, they realize that there are places and things to be done which a man won't always do. Because women know their own bodies so well and what feels good, they tend to know what to do to eachother. When they are together there isn't a rush to penetration the way there can be with men. It can be a more emotional experience. Not to say that all women feel this way, that isn't true, or to say that all men are inept with women, I'm sure that all of the guys on this board know exactly how to please a woman after sneaking peeks into the ladies lounge ;) .

I'm not bi-curious, but I think that's cause my family is so open about sex and stuff, so I don't feel a need to go out and experiment (which I think curiousity is).
Depending on where you live, there may be some lesbian/gay bars where you can meet other women. I mean, does the other woman have to be into guys too?

They are located on every college campus across these great United States. Go and find one.

*raising hand* I was bi-curious for several years but did nothing about it. Afraid? Didn't know where to start? At times I have literally ached for a woman's touch. My partner-in-life and I talked about it though, and he said that if I ever had the opportunity to be with a woman he would never see it as cheating (whatta great guy I have, and not just for this reason!) I do not believe for a second that a curiosity about being with a woman is a sign of something lacking in a marriage.

By now I hope you are no longer feeling freakish about it. As mentioned before, our culture treats same-sex interests as a taboo, but how dumb is that? My personal philosophy about marriage has evolved -- a lot -- over the years. My love and I are deeply committed to our marriage and each other. Exploring my curiosities and interests has brought us even closer as a couple. Your husband may not be interested in helping you explore this part of your sexuality . . . or he may very well get into it! The only way to know is to talk with him.

Is there a swinger's club in your area? This may be an excellent place to "break the ice," so to speak (did wonders for me!) From what I've seen, it's mostly couples at the club I have visited a couple of times. I understand there are some good online groups, like on Yahoo (I have not yet explored this though).

Please feel free to PM me if you wanna talk more ;)

A long time ago I thought I was bi-curious, then for a while I identified as bisexual, but that was really just a bridge to being able to admit I was homosexual. If there are any gay/lesbian clubs or bars in your area, you're not going to find it difficult to find another woman who's interested in helping you explore your curiosity. Some lesbians do find bi-curious girls distasteful, but some don't care if you're also into guys.

Your op sounds like you may only be interested in other bi-girls, which is fine, but maybe a little harder to seek out.

My first experience with another woman was with a bi-curious girl. She satisfiedy her curiosity and went back to guys, but I think enjoyed the experience quite a bit.

Good luck. I hope you find someone. I would, however, advise that you not sneak around behind your husband's back. Some men find this sexy, while others find it a betrayal. Don't be dishonest with your lifemate.

I'd say in swingers circles its closer to 3/4ths if not a bit higher.

I only know one who isn't personally.