blizzak

In looking through this forum, I constantly hope to see more and more and more threads daily to read. This time, instead of trying to wait it out, I'll post a thread of my own in the hopes that others will follow the example. So here it goes.

My girlfriend of 6 and a half months and I are doing great. We're both very in tune with eachother and have great communication in everything. She's also been my first in terms of sex, and the sex is still great. However, I certainly would like to explore it more with her. For christmas, she gave me these coupons to redeem for various things (ex. massage, standard driving lessons, candlelight dinner) and one of them is redeemable for a day of whatever I want to do.

Now me being a guy, but also having the sense to know that our relationship isn't purely about sex, would love to redeem this for a day of pure togetherness with lots of sex involved. Positions we haven't tried before, places we haven't tried before, blindfolds, food perhaps, trying to get her interested in oral maybe(performing oral on her at least once...I've been dying to try on a girl and I believe her last relationship may have turned her off it both ways), and overall just fun stuff. So I need suggestions.

How do I go about suggesting it to her? I'm sure she'd be totally into it but right now i'm trying to contemplate how to bring up the invitation.
Does anyone have any particular things which could make the evening very enjoyable? I've already got some positions and places in mind but y'all usually have very good ideas. And food?

I'll be monitoring this thread a lot if anyone needs any more info. Thanks guys n' gals.

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gh0ti

Have you used any of the other coupons yet? My ex did something similar, and I made the classic guy mistake of using the sex one(s) right off the bat and forgetting about the other ones. She brought this up a few times during arguments. If you haven’t already done so, I would use a coupon or two that are geared towards her (like the candle light dinner) before jumping into the all day romp fest.

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That'd be the first question that would pop into my head...

It's been almost 6 months since christmas - have any of the coupons been redeemed yet?

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Communication man. I'm guessing you're pretty young (I may be wrong) but the important thing that I have learned is to communicate whatever your feeling and/or wondering about. If you want to go down on her talk to her about it. Tell her that you really want to experience it with her. You can go so far as to say that everything so far has been really really awesome and you can't wait to see what else you can explore together.

First though use some other coupons. lol

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eMOTIONal20

I agree that communication is very important. If I gave my SO coupons like that, I'd want him to appreciate all of them, not the just the ones for sexual favors. So, perhaps use the candlelit dinner one first.

As for your "day of whatever you want to do," I suggest telling her first some of what you would like to do. Ask her if she is turned off by oral. If not, since you are new to it, maybe ask her how she likes it. In my experiences, sex has never been that great unless it can be talked about. Do this first, then we'll talk about food. Just kidding... I haven't used any food products besides whipped cream, and if things are hot and heavy like they're supposed to be, the whipped cream just gets warm, and in my opinion, warm whipped cream isn't tastey... could be just me though.

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tooth

Have you given any thought as to whether she might have been thinking of non-sexual activities for that coupon? Perhaps, doing some activity you really enjoy, like going golfing, or seeing a football game or something(just examples, I have no idea what you like to do in your spare time)?

Did she say that the coupons were for intimate and sexual things? I noticed that one was for driving lessons, so its not a stretch that she wasn't thinking strictly romance when she made these coupons out.

I would think that asking for a day of sexual experimentation might be reading a bit much into that coupon.

Locke00000

Cant agree more about the focus on using some of the other coupons. Assuming you do go for the sex-fest..try something different. Perhaps have you and her sit down together and write out a bunch of different things that you both want to try (positions etc...). Randomly draw them and have fun. Don't get too caught up in the game (I mean, if she is suddenly in the mood to let you go down on her then go for it)...but this way you can get to do a lot of different things, including things she specifically wants to do. That way your "all day sex fest" doesnt seem so me-oriented.

blizzak

Ah, good points people
well, i've used my standard driving coupon and my massage coupon. So now, with the last 3 coupons, we can either:
1. Have a candlelit dinner
2. Dance under the stars
3. Do whatever I want in a day

Perhaps i'll use the dance under the stars coupon next. I have to use them before our first anniversary as a couple which comes in like 5 months. It's not like she hasn't been willing in terms of sexual experimentation, and most of the stuff I was thinking of can pretty much be done after the dance also

And i'll try to think of something more broad for our day together. Thanks folks

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Maybe I'm just a cheesy romantic, but dance under the stars sounds like the best of the bunch (and now my inner gearhead insists that I clarify that I only said that because I can already drive stick.)

It also seems to me that she gave you some coupons that would let her arrange stuff that she really wants to do with you. Perhaps for your anniversary it would be advisable to pick an activity that she seems to really like and arrange it for her as a surprise.