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Sirhc · 05-27-2005, 07:45 PM

OK, I feel kind of strange asking this. I just am not sure what is wrong with me. My wife and I just had our 2nd child (3 months old). We had sex a few days ago and I just never could complete. I am not sure if, it is the 20 lbs she still has to lose or if I am just mentaly tired from all the late night feedings.

I am planning a night alone for us over the holiday. I am just worried that the same same might happen again. Her and I both get tired and I had to quit. Is something I can do to help myself out?

Martian · 05-27-2005, 08:48 PM

Alright, here's how it works. Us guys have an easier job than women orgasming, mostly because we're a lot more comfortable with it. But if you're tired and stressed out, such as you might be with a newborn child in the house it's very possible that you just won't be able to.

If your wife's extra weight is bothering you that much, you might try being proactive about it (assuming you're not already). Try asking her to go for walks with you, work out together. You'll feel better, she'll feel better, you'll get to spend time together and the weight doesn't need to be a big deal - you don't even need to bring it up (I'd recommend against it, really).

Time alone will help you both relax and being relaxed will lead to better sex. Even so, I'd say try talking to your wife about it. Let her know that it's not her fault and that you still enjoy sex.

And do that, too. Enjoy sex and don't think about orgasming. It's not the destination, it's the journey!

05-27-2005, 07:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sirhc Upright	Need some advice OK, I feel kind of strange asking this. I just am not sure what is wrong with me. My wife and I just had our 2nd child (3 months old). We had sex a few days ago and I just never could complete. I am not sure if, it is the 20 lbs she still has to lose or if I am just mentaly tired from all the late night feedings. I am planning a night alone for us over the holiday. I am just worried that the same same might happen again. Her and I both get tired and I had to quit. Is something I can do to help myself out?

05-27-2005, 08:48 PM	#2 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	Alright, here's how it works. Us guys have an easier job than women orgasming, mostly because we're a lot more comfortable with it. But if you're tired and stressed out, such as you might be with a newborn child in the house it's very possible that you just won't be able to. If your wife's extra weight is bothering you that much, you might try being proactive about it (assuming you're not already). Try asking her to go for walks with you, work out together. You'll feel better, she'll feel better, you'll get to spend time together and the weight doesn't need to be a big deal - you don't even need to bring it up (I'd recommend against it, really). Time alone will help you both relax and being relaxed will lead to better sex. Even so, I'd say try talking to your wife about it. Let her know that it's not her fault and that you still enjoy sex. And do that, too. Enjoy sex and don't think about orgasming. It's not the destination, it's the journey!