Originally Posted by willravel

bullgoose, it's time to get out. I assume you work (congrats), but you can't work ALL the time. Take time every day (if not every day, at least twice a week) to go to very public spots with friends. Grab some freinds you're comfortable with and go to the beach, the lake, the outdoor adult mall, social clubs, and group dates.
Oh...I forgot...are you in good shape? If yes, then you are the freaking man. If not, don't worry, you're average. It's not to late to get in shape; not by a long shot. This will play a big role in what and how many women approach you or want to be approached by you.
So to summerize my questions:
Do you work?
How often do you have free time?
How often do your friends share free time with you?
Would they be willing to go have fun with you?
Are you in good shape? (overweight, underweight, flabby, lean, muscular)
How comfortable are you with women?

Originally Posted by bullgoose

Yes, I do work, but I'm transitioning to a new job.

Originally Posted by bullgoose

I don't have any long-term friends that live nearby, but when I do see my old friends we spend a good deal of time catching up.

Originally Posted by bullgoose

As far as 'Good shape' goes, I'm 6'5", 245#, fairly muscular (for an old fart), full head of brown hair, blue eyes.

Originally Posted by bullgoose

I'm quite comfortable around women, it's just really hard to find one to be comfortable with.

Originally Posted by bullgoose

BTW, there was a pic of me in the" post your picture" thread; it's about five years old, though

Originally Posted by willravel

Good! Women look for men who aren't boring and redundant. Is this going to be a job that you will enjoy? If yes, then even better.

What about your 'medium-term' friends that are local and thart might have more available time? I'm sure they have people to introduce you to and they can just go hang out on friday nights or weekends.

You're not old yet. And this is coming from (gasp) a 21 year old! If you're in good shape you are lightyears ahead of the rest of your competition. If you work at health, you can appear to look younger (I say that because you call yourself an old fart, which means you might have insecurities about your age, something that effects over 80% of people over 55). If you have the time and money, join a gym. I've never met so many available women anywhere as I have at local gyms. I'm sure it will help with maintenence.

¿You're only comfortable around some women? That's normal, too. You have to put yourself out there in order to find the gems. You'll finjd a lot of fools gold out there, but the more you look, the more likely you are to strike 24 karat. I kept track of my own history. It turns out I dated over 560 women before I met my wife. That's a lot! That's also far above average (didn't want to scare you).

Um, okay.
Best of luck.

Edit: saw the pic. In case you haven't already: lose the facial hair, please. Also, you might want to cut your hair short, a la Eric Clapton, who is also 58 years young.