xim

This is for my Human Sexuality class. Me and a group will do a presentation on "Having Game". We are doing surveys about it so I thought I would include you guys

This is to get peoples opinion so dont ask what I mean by "having game", the question is what do YOU mean by "having game". The questions are kept general for this reason. Elaborate to your hearts desire.


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What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.

Why bother to have game? What is the point?

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?

Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?



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skinnymofo

ill help you out on this one as best i can
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Age 19

Sex:M

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.
game is the ability to pick up others of the opposite, or in some cases the same sex.
Using the right words and flirting right to take the other to your bedroom, car etc or a date setting
Why bother to have game? What is the point?to get some and or start a relationship
Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
I always considered "game" to be a male thing since most females can walk up to a guy and get whatever they want. A guy isnt going to slap a girl for hitting on him
What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?in high school setting i would say people would label a person a player, but then thats if you only use it to get laid by a different person often. if its used seldem to just get a relationship there isnt any.
Also STDs are often a negative thing, atleast in my book
Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?id say both
Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
everywhere movies->life

Redlemon

Age (optional but preferred): 36
Sex: M

Everything from this point on, I have no idea what you are talking about. I hope that's a useful data point for you.

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ShaniFaye

I have to 2nd Redlemon on his comment.....

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MageB420666

Age: 20

Sex: Yes, please.(male)

I have no idea what "game" actually is. As far as I know, playing the "game" is going out to various hot spots bars, clubs, etc. and hitting on complete and total strangers to try and get them to have sex with you. I have never heard of someone having "game" in terms of a relationship.

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Redlemon

That's funny, I could have sworn that you were female...

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tenchi069

Age (optional but preferred): 27

Sex: M

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.
Game is street slang for "Charisma," "that special something" It is usually meant only for purposes of physical intimacy, but can technically apply to anything where Charisma would come into play.
Ex. One person can use his/her "game" to get someone they want, to have sex with them. Yet someone else can use "game" to sell a car or close a huge merger.

Why bother to have game? What is the point?
Game boils down to people skills. For some it comes naturally ( Charisma ) for some it is learned. Either way it helps you to interrelate with other people confidently and positively

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
From what little I've been in the bar scene, I would say it is split. Yes it is easy for a woman to get laid, it is the same for a guy. They just have to keep lowering their standards for a one nighter until someone says yes.

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?
As already said in previous posts, misuse and carelessness in the dating scene can lead to STD, children, being seen as a player and therefore lowering your chances of finding a serious mate in your "hunting ground." In the business world, too much can make you come across as fake.

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?
Game/Charisma/People Skills, all have a place at any point in the relationship. You don't ( or at least shouldn't ) go too much above and beyond at the beginning of a relationship. I give my wife the same attention now as I did when we first met, and I will continue to do so.

Where did you learn you(r) ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
All of the above, plus school ( pyschology ), and people watching.

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little_tippler

Age (optional but preferred): 24

Sex: Female

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.

Game...I play them? To have game...for dinner?

Why bother to have game? What is the point?

I don't like it much myself.

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?

You mean furs? I'd say women do.

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?

killing animals

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?

I don't think it has any use at all!



Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?

ermmm....lol

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skier

Age (optional but preferred): 19

Sex: M

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.

I don't think it's so much having game, but more about your ability to play the game. The "game" is where both the girl and the guy want the same thing, but each need to show the other they have good qualities.

So if you're not really good at speaking, you can still have alright game if you're really hot. But if you're a good speaker (have charisma) it'll make up for looks and much more.

Why bother to have game? What is the point?

The point is to have fun! Enjoy sharing something special with someone(s) else.

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?

In the majority, women have WAY more game than guys. They're just better at it. A girl can read body cues, expressions, etc. much easier than a guy.

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?

I don't think so. It brings a deeper understanding into conversation and relationships. Someone with good game doesn't have to focus on what they are saying and can focus on the subtext of the conversation as well as the general mood, and use that information to lead the conversation where they want.

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?

I'm not sure it's something you can turn on or off. But if you're just "using game" to get a girl attracted to you then going back to your true self, she will be disillusioned. ("this isn't the same guy I started dating!")

Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?

Life and books. My parents have a belief about wealth being an important factor in attraction, a lot of supplicating ideas. Same with a lot of my friends.

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the_marq

Age (optional but preferred): 33

Sex: Male

What is game?
Any type of wild animal (not domesticated, for example a duck is a "game" bird.
What does it mean to have game?
A bird in the hand.
Give an example.
Charlie and I went hunting on Thursday, he got 2 game birds and I got none. Charlie has more game than me.


Why bother to have game?
It proves you are a good hunter.
What is the point?
A dude's gotta eat.

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
Typically men are better hunters, not to mention that most women I know do not like to kill little furry animals.


What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?
Some anti-gun nuts and groups like PETA see game hunting as being detrimental to the fabric of society. Think they're fucking stupid.

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?
I guess if your SO enjoys eating the game you bring home, that would be a good deal.

Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
Mostly my Dad. He taught me to hunt game when I was about 13

Is this the sexuality forum?

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muttonglutton

Have YOU got game?

I'm actually suprised so few people understand the term 'got game'.

--Survey--

Age:
21

Sex:
Male

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.
Someone has got game when they are not only able to pick up the people they want, but also when they become the person that other people want. "Damn, look at her dance, she's got game!"

Why bother to have game? What is the point?
Game is sexy. Game is enticing. Game is confident. There is no reason to not want game. Having game is a point in and of itself.

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
It goes both ways. As a man, women's game is much more notciable (Read: "Damn, look at her dance, she's got game!"), but I can't deny that men, players, boys, have got some game too. Women likely notice men's game better than men themselves do.

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?
Player, cheat, slut, etc. All the negative aspects of promiscuity. But it's a part of the Game.

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?
Just at the beginning. Game is how attractive you are, or how attractive you make yourself seem. Late in a relationship when both partners know each other well, having game is unimportant.

Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
From the Game of Life, baby. Spin the wheel, inherit your uncle's skunk farm, PAYDAY!

--/Survey--

Not that I practice said game anywhere, or even that I have such game.

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Suave

Age: 20

Sex: The one with a penis.

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.
Game is the ability to sell one's self to the opposite sex (or the same sex if that's how you swing), not necessarily based on one's actual personality traits, but on what they know/think the other person wants to hear/see/perceive. It is also confidence and a quasi-predatory outlook on persons with whom one is interested in sexually/romantically. No examples off-hand.

Why bother to have game? What is the point?
The point of having game, when one is consciously focusing on having it (rather than coming by it naturally and possibly being unaware of it), is generally to engage in sexual relations, as well as to increase one's status among his peers. (I'm focusing on guys because I won't even pretend to know the reasons for women).

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
Neither. It depends on the individual.

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?
Most of the time, it's fake. There are some people who are just genuinely really likeable by a large portion of the opposite sex, but they're pretty rare. I don't like facades.

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?
It can be used throughout. If it's required at the beginning, and is a facade, then the relationship will likely end if the person with game decides to stop using it.

Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
Learned mostly from talking to my peers, and probably from popular entertainment (through music, television, and film).

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doncalypso

Age (optional but preferred): 23


Sex:Male


What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.
Based on my observations having "game" means having all the right words and moves to seduce individuals of the opposite gender without much effort. People who have game are very successful in getting sex from various different individuals.


Why bother to have game? What is the point?
You need "game" in order to get laid and attract the interest of the opposite sex.


Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
It would seem to me that men are the ones who need "game" because women naturally attract men. Unless a woman is unbelievably ugly and has a very crappy attitude she doesn't have to do much for guys to want to be with her (sexually and romantically).
In contrast, a guy needs to have "game" in order to attract women because having good looks and a good enough personality isn't enough. In order to keep a woman interested a guy has to be a challenge to a woman---he must have not only the good looks and personality, but he must have money and must be the desired prize catch all other women want. A man who lacks in either of these category must have "game" in order to attract women and eventually make then interested enough to desire a relationship.


What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?
Having "game" means that you're not being truly who you are and that you constantly have to put on a mask. It requires constant vigilence because all it takes is one slip-up for the mask to momentarily fall off (or for the "game" to be a bit weak) and the woman goes off to find some other guy.


Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?
A man needs to have some amount of "game" even in a relationship to keep the woman on her toes so she doesn't take him for granted. The moment he stops being a challenge her interest levels take a nose-dive and she'll leave him for the next guy with good looks and an even better-looking pocketbook.


Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
I personally don't have "game" and doubt I have the aptitude for it, but I have been taking classes at life's University of Hard Knocks.

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Grasshopper Green

LMAO

Another here who isn't quite sure what "game" is.

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Acetylene

Age (optional but preferred): 20

Sex: Female

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.
Game is the ability to hit everything right--similar to being in the zone, only for social purposes. Although you could "have your game on" for other things, it would have to be something requiring skill, and having your game on would mean you were doing exceptionally well, and you would be using the term for humor because normally you get your game on with the opposite sex.

Why bother to have game? What is the point?
Having game means you are doing everything just right with the opposite sex. Of course everyone wants that!

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
Women don't need game as much because men are horny, so they don't worry about it as much. Ironically, women are also more inclined to have game because they tend to "get" social subtleties better. However, a man who has game will garner respect from his collegues, whereas a woman who has game and can get any man she wants is just a whore.

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?
See above; women with game look like sluts to their own gender.

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?
You still need to get your game on during sex, at least if you want it to be special. But the urgency is gone; it's ok to miss your game because you love each other anyway.

Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
Movies (for the word) and observation (for what it means)

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MooseMan3000

Age: 19

Sex: male

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.
"Game" is the term given for people who feel the need to demonstrate how good they are with the opposite sex. It refers to people who are insecure with their sexuality, and therefore make a point of flaunting it all the time. People with game often go home with different people every night, for the same reason.

Why bother to have game? What is the point?
Well, as you may have guessed from my previous response, I don't bother. I take care of myself, I'm happy with the way I am, and I don't feel the need to objectify women by making an effort to sleep with every one I see. Call me crazy.

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?
They exhibit it in similar amounts; it just manifests itself differently. In the more stereotypical sense of the word, men would exhibit more game, but using my definition above, I think it's fair to say both men and women do it.

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?
The need to have it. It becomes an addiction.

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?
It doesn't have any place in a good relationship. Having game is equivalent to putting on a show all the time - not a good way to start a relationship. If you lie about who you are in the beginning, the only place to go is down.

Where did you learn your ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?
Life. Watching people. Existing.

Redlemon

Looks like there's a comprehension barrier set up at 30 years regarding this term.

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doncalypso

I would agree with you on that one.

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xim

This is great! thanks so much guys, this is a HUGE help

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Suave

Word yo. Ya statemizzle be off da hizzle.

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Redlemon

Could you report back after you complete your report? That would be cool.

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doncalypso

Could somebody translate that for me, please?

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xxSquirtxx

Age (optional but preferred): 37

Sex: F

What is game? What does it mean to have game? Give an example.

Well, I was under the impression that "having game" means doing well at anything - be it your job, sports, hitting on people. LOL All those things. After reading the rest of the questions, I guess I know what it truly means now, and I can't answer the rest because now I'm clueless.



Why bother to have game? What is the point?

Do men or women tend to exhibit more game?

What if any do you think are negative aspects of having game?

Does game have use far into a relationship or just at the beginning?

Where did you learn you ideas about this? Friends, parents, books, life?

xim

Im organizing responses from here and my groupmates serveys (those losers had to actually talk to people. Ill be more than happy to post the finished product

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Gilda

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Age: 28

Sex: Female

I have no idea what "having game" means, but I asked my sister (19), and apparently she and Grace (24) "have game" and I'm so far from "having game" that I could't buy it if I won the lottery. I'm guessing that it must have to do with being introverted or extroverted, or self-confidence. I had assumed in meant something similar to "playing games" but the wording seems strange for that.

Gilda