Girl at work..
 

There is this chick at work (part time, I am a senior, and she is also in High school, Sophmore or junior I think...) any way. Been trying to figure out how to ask her out without sounding like a dumbass and fuckin shit up you know?

It's kinda cool right now, just see her at work and laugh and have a good time. It's easy.

Anyway, you think inviting her to go to a party with me is a good, fairly nanchalant(sp) way to go? It is a party with kids from a differant school, so I wont know many more kids then her.

What do you think?

cue the chorus of "just be yourself"

Just gotta learn to curb those nerves mate :)

and as Halx says.. be yourself :)

yea...Problem being "myself" prolly wouldnt ever ask....you know? But is the party a cool thing? I mean I figured it might be the most comforable for two reasons...Limited one on one time, and I will be tanked...

'wanna go fuck?'

I say... just ask her if she'd like to see a movie. (pick one beforehand) if she declines, play it off and eventually ask about a second movie totally different from choice #1. if she declines that, then leave it alone.

i am a coward. its easy for me to offer advice.

If you ask this girl out, and she accepts-Don't Get Tanked. As you say this is a chance for some limited one on one time. Don't ruin that. As has been mentioned, be yourself. Don't get worked up over anyone else's expectations. It will work or it won't. No harm no foul. If I might dig deep into my bag of tripe listen to the paraphrased words of En Vogue: "Free your mind, and her ass will follow" Anyway, something like that. Good Luck

Well it all depends. I mean if she is a party girl then yea. If she is a girl who has never been to a party in her life and dosn't intend to go to one soon then know. I must echo whats allready said about just be yourself and add my own thing of first find out what she likes to do then find something you would both like to do and run with it from there.

so no party?

No, go to the party, if that is what you both want to do. If that isn't what she is into, find an alternative. You must have some imagination-Hell, you're here. Something will feel right.

Yea, I was just thinking a party is easy to go to without any real uncomforableness. Ill see what happens, the party isnt for 3 weeks, so I have a bit of time to think about it. That could be good or bad...

Imagination..Yea, Initiative/Balls....Maybe not so much...hence me asking people on here what the fuck I am supposed to do, haha

Its funny because its true. Advice online is much easier then actually doing something in real life.

You have to ask yourself 'what's the worst thing that can happen'. If you get along well with her at work, but she doesn't want to go to a party, chances are she's not going to shoot you down in a real embarrassing way. It's not like you'll have to be ashamed to ever talk to her again if she says no.

Just be cool and mention it casually like you're telling her about the party and 'Hey, you think you'd wanna go?' as if it just occurred to you to ask her.

Or you could just say "Do you do anal?".

Thats about right. I mean go to the party if that is what she wants to do. ASK HER. But leave it open to alternatives.

And yes its alot easier to say then to do.

Really..?

I have to get over this sweaty palms thing that happens as soon as I start typing my adive out then.. :p

Ask her krwlz, if you don't, you'll be asking her in your mind for the next bloody two weeks.

What's the worst that can happen? She says no... oh well, you probably wouldn't have been a chance anyway.

The thing is, she's not going to say no. Requests like that don't happen everyday. Plus, you sound like a pretty cool guy so just get your minerals together and just ask her man.

Let us know how you go...

You know what I always like? Opening with how uncertain and nervous you are and how you're afraid you're going to blow it.

What could <i>be</i> more yourself, right? And girls think it's cute that you're all screwed up about them.

Of course, you can't do this as a trick or "line", she'll smell you coming a mile away. Won't work at all unless it's the truth. In which case, you might be too nervous and uncertain to do it....

If you take her to a party, don't be surprised if she ends up talking to other guys.

Sounds like your relationship with her is hazy at this point. She might feel that you're just friends and she can go off with whomever she wants.

Only saying it 'cause it's happened to me.

Good luck!

look... Halx is right... just be yourself... nerves and all...

you'll never know whether or not she likes YOU , or whoever you are presenting yourself as ... not to mention the fact that you'll more than likely have a difficult time enjoying yourself with her if you are always worrying about "who" to be and how to act...

if she's worth it... she'll like you for you... period.

good luck... *soft smile*

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ALRIGHT! Someone thinks I sound like a cool guy! Haha.

Yea, I think she is a partier, so that sounds good. It is my cousins party, and he goes to a different school, so while I know many people there, not all. And chances are she won't know any of 'em.

But in the end, even if she isn't interested with me, Parties are fun, and fun is good right?



Oh, and yea, Hung out at work again (not a big deal...working with her for about a year now), and it was good...I think at the least I will get a cool friend out of the deal...

Just take her out with you and some friends...maybe bowling or something. Parties can be overwhelming if you only know one person.

i wouldn't go the party route. tell her how much you enjoy her company and that you'd like to spend some time with her away from work. Ask her what she'd think would be fun.

i'd go with something besides the party route since if you do go.. some other guy may scoop up this hottie.

take her someplace that the two of you can do something together, movies, walking the city, driving the countryside, going to one of those tourist traps as a goof.... someplace that you can experience something together and then have something to talk about.

I think the easiest thing with a coworker is to ask her to lunch. You can do the "Hey, I'm going to go grab some lunch, want to come along" thing. Lunch is light and it doesn't have to be a big deal. If it goes well, you can say "Hey, this was fun, would you be interested in <insert other activity here>?" Dinner, a movie, a party, whatever. That way the whole thing isn't heavy with importance and tension.

Yea, I am thinking the party scene may not be best as I think about it. For a couple reaosns, as you mentioned, it could be rough knowing only one person...also a differant cousin is coming, and may be bringing one of her friends....and I don't think sje has any friends that are not hot....

Also, from the way she was talking, it smells like a set up for me from a mile off....nothing wrong with that right?

By the way, Thanks for all the advice!

party thrown by a relative of yours may not be too tempting. try to make a more neutral area. otherwise, you'll know somebody (cousin), and have someone to introduce people to you... she'll only have your nervous ass.

one on one time, no deadlines or strings, and get to know her. she'll feel much more comfortable going to a party with you if she knows you and trusts you.