abaya

My bf and I got together over the weekend (after a 2 week separation, since we live 3 hours apart). On our 2nd or 3rd time having sex, I noticed that as soon as he entered me, things started to hurt... it felt like he had steel wool wrapped around his dick, as it felt very abrasive inside. He's a very gentle person and wasn't doing anything out of the ordinary, and we've had many times in the past where we had lots of sex in a short period of time... so I can't figure it out. I was well-lubed (both my own wetness and some Astroglide), his condom was lubed, and yet it hurt with every thrust.

I thought maybe I was just not relaxed enough, but it didn't go away even after a long time (and other attempts at sex over the weekend). I had used a vibe on myself the night before, and things felt fine then, too... maybe we were just being too vigorous after a long abstinence??

Does anyone have experience with this type of thing, either yourself or your gf? The only other time I felt a bit like this was when I had a yeast infection, but it's too cold for that right now and nothing's itchy down there, either. I'd appreciate any insight that some of you might have. Thanks!

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doncalypso

After my girlfriend and I hadn't seen each other for two months her pussy felt really tight around my dick, but she didn't complain of any pain though.

I would've understood if you had gone straight into sex without any foreplay or lubrication, but if you're in pain despite the fact that he uses lube then it may indicate a problem. Either you are allergic to the condom or the lube (or a combination thereof) or else you have a condition that needs immediate medical attention.

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degrawj

the only thing that i can think of, doncalypso already said. perhaps you are allergic to the condom. i wouldn't necessarily say that you might need immediate medical attention, but if this is something that continues to occur in the future, you should definitely see your doctor about it. in my past experience, the only times when the woman i was with got sore was after a long session of being continuously pounded. so next time, try a different condom, and if it still hurts, then make an appointment with your doctor.

ShaniFaye

are you using latex condoms? You might try polyurethane ones.......with me latex one cause REALLY bad burning sensations for hours afterwards.....kinda like getting icy hot (or other similar muscle cream) all over AND inside me (and yes I know what that feels like....have accidentally gotten it in that area before)

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abaya

Hmm, thanks all for the suggestions, but I doubt it's the condoms. That's because my bf and I use condoms every time we have sex (Lifestyle Ultra-Thin lubricated) and it hasn't been a problem before. So I don't think I'm allergic to them...

However, we just had a look-see down there, and it seems that there is a small vertical cut (like a paper cut, OW!) right at the bottom of the "V" of my vaginal opening. This area has been sore maybe once or twice before, but again I always attributed it to yeast infections. I don't know how I could get a cut there, and it wasn't like our sex was super vigorous. Now I don't want to wait for it to heal... but I wonder if I should, and if so, is there some kind of cream I can put on there? Hell, even Neosporin??

Thanks again..

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Ilow

no, no. no neosporin. I'd say give your girl a little break and it will heal pretty quickly as it recieves a lot of blood flow.

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veruca

I get a sandpaper feel when I have a yeast infection. If you have never had a problem before, that is probably the culprit. I get them sometimes without itching or discharge and I don't notice till we try to have sex.

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cowgirl02

No girl, it is like that with me all the time when i go to see my bf or he comes to see me. We live 3 hrs away from eachother as well, but this happens to me EVERYTIME that we have sex after not seeing eachother for a while. We can do it about 2-3 times then after that it is so sore. Its normal you just have not gotten any in a bit and it need to "be streched out again" as my bf would say. But that is always the case for me, so dont stress it. When we would do it everyday when we still lived close, i never hurt it just seems like it happened when we have not been together for a while.

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little_tippler

sounds like a yeast infection, and that cut is probably a fissure caused by it. Yeast infections don't always itch and give that sore feel when you have sex. An appointment with the doctor is the best way of treating it properly.

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abaya

Damn, I hope it's not a yeast infection. Usually when I get those, I buy the generic-brand of Monistat 3-day treatment and we abstain for 3 days... but this week I'm on spring break visiting my bf and I don't want to stop having sex for half of the week! I guess it's necessary, though... I just want to be sure it's the yeastie beasties first before abstaining.

cowgirl02, that's what I thought... until my bf took a look and saw the cut at the bottom of the vaginal opening... so maybe it's not just getting stretched out?

little_tippler, what did you mean by a fissure? How does a yeast infection cause one of those? I thought I might just have gotten a tear from having too much sex too soon, and perhaps not enough lube (though really I thought there was plenty)... won't it heal on its own?

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analog

I can appreciate you want to get it on 24/7, and I can tell that's pretty much your aim- considering you take a 3-day yeast treatment and want to fuck on day 4...

Let the cut heal. Your health is more important than your libido... I can hardly believe i'm even saying it, because i'm a sexaholic as well, but just hold your horses a bit, hmm?

1. If you're getting constant yeast infections, you should see your doctor, that's not really normal.

2. One thing you should start doing (if you're not already) is urinating immediately after having sex. This will help against infection.

3. Take care of your body and let the sex wait a bit. Let the cut heal, make sure when you're having sex that there's plenty of lubrication- many people need to add additional lubrication to what their body produces- it's not necessarily the sign of a problem or anything odd. Have you switched types of condoms? Did one have a spermicide and the other didn't? Some girls are very allergic to nonoxynol9, a spericidal agent found in spermicidal condoms. Check and see what you're using and go from there.

lindseylatch

So, I have this problem also, except that it's EVERY time I have sex. I've been treated for a bladder infection, a yeast infection...the yeast infection was actually causing a break down of the tissues around my vagina, and so it would tear a little during sex. So, that may be YOUR culprit.
I've used non-latex condoms, and those were worse, because they are grainier than Trojan. We use a LOT of lube, high quality, recomended by a couple people.
I have no idea what wrong with me. It's been about 8 months. The first time was horribly painful, and actually was sort of stretched over three or four days. Every time we start I have to stretch myself a little bit, like the first three or four strokes.
I've seen 2 nurses with gyno experience at my college's health center (one of which found the bladder infection), my mom (the doctor) checked me out right when we started (and broke some more of my hymen with the "duck lips"), and an NP at my mom's office (found the yeast infection).
I'm tired of people looking at my vagina and not figuring out the problem...

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alec

are you doing any serious foreplay before sex?

i had the LD thing going for a while too, and if we cut straight to the chase things seemed to be more difficult, but with like 10 or 20 minutes of gentle fingering, things were always ready for business (is that the right kind of metaphor for this situation?)

and as a girlfriend of mine said, 'you dont have to always stick the whole thing in'

abaya

Wow, Lindsey, that's pretty intense... I'm sorry about all that, as I definitely know how it feels to have your own body turn against you. Sometimes I really envy the fact that guys have their stuff on the outside, where it can't get infected or affected by birth control and hormonal changes every month, etc etc. Seems like having a dark, wet place with lots of sensitive tissue is just a evolutionarily bad idea... why women?! Anyway. Maybe I should add this to the thread on lucky/jealous stuff about the other gender...

To answer some random questions: I decided it was a yeast infection because of the cuts/fissures, which apparently are common with yeast. (There's another thread I started in the Ladies Lounge on this topic.) So I started Monistat 3-day... today's the 3rd day so I'm gonna see what happened when we try to have sex. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't... I've tried Diflucan but it hasn't always worked, same with Monistat (generic)

And yes, I do LOTS of foreplay before sex, and usually pee immediately after sex... Analog, the peeing stuff has to do with clearing the urinary tract in order to prevent UTI's, but that's not as related to yeast infections (as far as I know). The doctor knows about my recurring infections and chalks it up to the birth control, as the hormones wreak havoc with other chemicals in the body, etc.

I LOVE BEING FEMALE. Really, I do. (Gaaaah!)

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ironmaiden7o7

Dear, you can get a yeast infection whether it's cold or not. That feeling isn't normal down there, especially since women are automatically lubed. Get it checked out if you haven't already.

abaya

Iron, thanks... I guess whenever I got infections in the past, the dr. always said "it's the humid weather" (during the summer), and I never got them in the winter until now.

We tried sex on the 4th day of monistat 3-day and things still didn't feel too good... this is what happened last time I tried it. I could get a diflucan pill at the dr. and try that... but it didn't work so well last time, either. Curses!

The only good thing is that my pussy doesn't seem to mind the vibrator... but with my bf's lovely big dick (which I really do love), it throws a fit o' pain. Hoping our 1-week break will help things heal? (We live 3 hours apart.)

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