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doncalypso · 03-18-2005, 12:46 PM

I'm curious about something... Besides myself, has anyone here on TFP ever gone without sex and masturbation for more than two months? If so what were the circumstances of your dry spell? How did you handle it? Could you endure it again?

Cynthetiq · 03-18-2005, 02:14 PM

been there done that...

did it for 3.5 years because i was hanging out in clubs and bars. I didn't want to wake up in the future with a phone call about having a child or some STD, my goal was for 5 years.

Suave · 03-18-2005, 08:15 PM

I'm single right now, and I'm also what some might call "lazy" (actually, what some HAVE called lazy) in the getting laid area. I find that I can go for weeks without an urge to even masturbate, although once I do get it, why fight it? No harm, and everything is within arm's reach. If, for some reason, I decided there were a cause great enough to refrain from any sort of sexual gratification indefinitely, I'm quite sure I could do it. I believe I've had a couple of periods where I didn't even think about masturbating for multiple months at a time. The thing that normally brings me back to it is watching porn, or some sort of sexually explicit real life occurance.

xepherys · 03-19-2005, 02:31 PM

*boggle*

None of the above... but frankly I'd never do it on purpose. If I had too much going on, and nobody in bed at night with me, I guess it might HAPPEN... though I still think I'd jack off. Why would you purposefully do this to yourself... :-p

nulltype · 03-20-2005, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by doncalypso

I have never had the luck and privilege to enjoy a casual sexual relationship and I wouldn't have the slightest clue as to where to begin to achieve one. All the women I know (except my girlfriend, of course) either run away because they find I'm too desperately craving female attention and sex or else they put me in the "friend" category. Once a woman considers you a "friend" it means that 99.99999999999% of the time you stant no chance of ever getting laid with her.

If you don't believe my last statement check out the Ladder Theory and then reflect upon it to see if it's not true.

Ladder Theory is mostly a joke. Do not let your mind be bound by such inaccurate models of relationships.

nulltype · 03-20-2005, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by doncalypso

My past experience has shown me that women get turned off and wanna run away from me because they can sense how desperately I crave female attention and sex. Given that I'll be single again I'll desperately will be craving sex since I've never been a woman magnet. The few women I may be lucky enough to meet when I'm not too busy in class or studying will probably be able to smell the horniness from miles away and will run for the nearest hill as soon as I'm in any close proximity to to them.

I do not want to write off my sexuality for the next six years... but given that history tends to repeat itself it is safe to say that I won't fare any better than I did when I first came to college.

Well besides the fact that women, in general, like a positive guy with confidence, and you appear to lack both, I do not think that all women could be turned off by the horniness, especially ones that are also horny. Any horny wo/men want to comment?

guthmund · 03-20-2005, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by doncalypso

I'm curious about something... Besides myself, has anyone here on TFP ever gone without sex and masturbation for more than two months? If so what were the circumstances of your dry spell? How did you handle it? Could you endure it again?

In high school I didn't date much, but those that I did....well.. She was a hardcore Christian. I mean, really hardcore. She always wore her hair down and refused to cut it. Wore long sleeve shirts all the time and ankle length skirts. She was nice enough, was really good looking and wasn't asking me to help her cheat on her tests, so, I asked her out. She agreed, but I knew right off the bat I wasn't going anywhere with her sexually. She was very open about discussing sex, but quite adamant about not having sex. So we could talk about pornography, petting, masturbation and sex. Just couldn't practice any of it.

Anyway, long story short, I stopped jerking off. After the first couple of days, I was stark raving mad and a stiff breeze up the shorts would get me going, but I held on. Then the dirty dreams started (all of which I can still remember quite vividly) and then I started waking up while I was jerking off. It only happened a couple of times and I immediately stopped. I even started wearing more clothes to bed. It's an odd, odd feeling to wake up and realize that you've been masturbating, while for all intents and purposes, you've been unconscious. It's like the left side and the right side of your brain completely disagree and have stopped talking to each other. After three months of this crap, I just decided to deal with it. She broke up with me when I confessed to her about it, but, hell, I didn't care.

Now I've gone fairly long stints without having sex, but that's the longest I've ever been without sex and masturbation.

Prince · 03-21-2005, 06:53 AM

At least jack off, man, for Christ's sake.

View Poll Results: Could you handle abstaining from sex and masturbation indefinitely?
Yes I think I could handle that with relative ease	16	13.01%
I may be able to give up sex but I couldn't give up masturbation	62	50.41%
There's no way I could give up sex... I could give up masturbation but I have to have me some sex	41	33.33%
I could give up sex and masturbation... but I could never give up pornography	4	3.25%
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03-18-2005, 12:46 PM	#42 (permalink)
doncalypso TFP Mad Scientist Location: Philadelphia, PA	I'm curious about something... Besides myself, has anyone here on TFP ever gone without sex and masturbation for more than two months? If so what were the circumstances of your dry spell? How did you handle it? Could you endure it again? __________________ Doncalypso... the one and only Haitian Sensation

03-18-2005, 02:14 PM	#43 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	been there done that... did it for 3.5 years because i was hanging out in clubs and bars. I didn't want to wake up in the future with a phone call about having a child or some STD, my goal was for 5 years. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

03-18-2005, 08:15 PM	#44 (permalink)
Suave Twitterpated Location: My own little world (also Canada)	I'm single right now, and I'm also what some might call "lazy" (actually, what some HAVE called lazy) in the getting laid area. I find that I can go for weeks without an urge to even masturbate, although once I do get it, why fight it? No harm, and everything is within arm's reach. If, for some reason, I decided there were a cause great enough to refrain from any sort of sexual gratification indefinitely, I'm quite sure I could do it. I believe I've had a couple of periods where I didn't even think about masturbating for multiple months at a time. The thing that normally brings me back to it is watching porn, or some sort of sexually explicit real life occurance. __________________ "Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein "Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something." - Plato

03-19-2005, 02:31 PM	#45 (permalink)
xepherys <3 TFP Location: 17TLH2445607250	boggle None of the above... but frankly I'd never do it on purpose. If I had too much going on, and nobody in bed at night with me, I guess it might HAPPEN... though I still think I'd jack off. Why would you purposefully do this to yourself... :-p

03-21-2005, 06:53 AM	#49 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	At least jack off, man, for Christ's sake. __________________ Who is John Galt?