So straight guys...ever get hit on by someone of the same sex? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

K-Wise · 02-12-2005, 07:25 PM

I was at the mall one time and I was at Sam Goody walkin around lookin at CD's and some guy comes up to me and says "Hey um hate to bother you but my friend wants to know if you're into guys?" and I said "Excuse me?" With a somewhat confused look on my face thinking surely I must be mistaken...Surely I did not just hear what I thought I heard...Perhaps Guys is a band I'm not familiar with and he's asking me if I've heard of them..."Excuse me?" "My friend he wants to know if you're into guys." So I wasn't mistaken...I simply and calmly justs said "Oh..no" and shook my head. Then he started trying to talk to me he was like "Yeah I told him you probably weren't he just wanted me to check." And I'm just nodding my head and pushing my eyebrows downward like "Yeah yeah I understand yeah it's cool." But in the back of my mind I swear it was screaming "GOOOOO AWAAAAAAAY!!!!!" haha.

That was kinda weird. Kinda messed me up for a minute. Started thinking "Well wait a minute do I look gay?" No offense to those of you who are haha. "What could I have been doing to make him think I was gay?" Y'know stupid stuff. Prolly the guy just thought I was good looking and wanted to know if I like guys...he'd have to ask that girls don't usually have to ask guys if they're into girls but the same does not hold true for gay men. I am however kind of "fashionable" and I walk around with a walkmen cd player singing all the damn time so I guess that might throw some wrong signals haha. If thats the case I could care less I'll keep doing that regardless.

I'm not sure if it was the very same day or the very next when I was at the mall but I got hit on by a girl too so that made me feel better. Then I started worrying if it was gonna be a pattern haha....Guy then a girl, then another guy, etc.

Hope I didn't offend any of you with that. That was a first time thing for me so it was a little weird..Guess I shoulda been flattered haha...

So any a you other straight guys or hell even straight girls ever get hit on by a member of the same sex? Did you have a similar reaction or am I just a dickhead?

Asta!!

Willravel · 02-12-2005, 08:00 PM

I've been told by pastors that I dress "gay". When I asked what that meant, it was usually a compliment that I was up to date and stylish. Then came "metrosexuality". It fit me like a glove. I've always been interested in the arts, style and most of my friends are women. I've been hit on by men and women. It's flattering more than anything else.

You're no dickhead. Your opinion is closer to equality than the average one. The average man would have made some overly agressive or rude comment and overcompensated due to insecurity.

K-Wise · 02-12-2005, 08:09 PM

Well thats good to know.

Asta!!

tres · 02-12-2005, 08:19 PM

I get picked up by gay guys all the time... its scary.. and starting to get annoying.... When I tell them I'm not gay, they almost don't belive me.. Kinda like they think they know better.. I've actually had gay people insist that I was gay, and lying to them.... ack!

K-Wise · 02-12-2005, 08:22 PM

^ Wow! That sux man. I bet they could see you making out with a chick and then taking her right there and be like "ugh..he's faking it!"

Asta!!

high_way · 02-12-2005, 08:23 PM

yes i have been and kinda enjoyed it... was thinking about going further just to see what it would be like but i got a really weird vibe from him. my friend who i was out with got the same weird vide so it wasnt just me...

i would take it as a compliment, doesnt matter whether they are the same sex or not.

tres · 02-12-2005, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by K-Wise

^ Wow! That sux man. I bet they could see you making out with a chick and then taking her right there and be like "ugh..he's faking it!"

Asta!!

There has been instances where I would make out with a platonic female friend of mine to get them off my case.... kinda makes me not want to keep that relationship platonic any more

K-Wise · 02-12-2005, 08:45 PM

Well shit you already made out with em why not go the whole nine yards? haha

Asta!!

sammy776 · 02-12-2005, 08:59 PM

I had a friend once that hit on me, I had no idea he was gay because he was date a female friend of mine. I guess she was just a beard. He told me he had feelings for me one night and I said "ok, um I have to go now" I did not hear from him much after that. last I heard he was working for an airline.

Carno · 02-12-2005, 09:03 PM

Yeah I've been hit on before.. I just take it as a compliment, I guess.

No big deal.

FngKestrel · 02-12-2005, 09:21 PM

I don't get hit on by people of either gender.

Shady · 02-12-2005, 09:39 PM

I was never hit on directly....

but when I was a freshmen in college, my girlfriend's roomate had a gay friend named Brandon. One time a few of us were hangin out in her dorm room. He stopped by with a few of his gay friends. I left the room for something (I don't remember why) and when I got back, my girlfriend pulled me aside and said that one of the guys had asked about me and said I was cute. Brandon told him something along the lines of..."No you don't want to mess with him, his girlfriend would kill you". When my girlfriend told me this, I was like..."Yeah, plus the fact that I'm not gay". It was a little wierd for me at the time, but now I look back on it and laugh.

pippepin · 02-12-2005, 10:20 PM

I used to get hit on by guys all the time when I would go to the quarter with friends. Would make one of our gay friends jealous because I got more action than he did.

guthmund · 02-12-2005, 11:37 PM

I've never been hit on, but it's been assumed several times over the years that I was gay.

I'm just an unusally private guy, at least, when it comes to who I sleep with. I didn't draw from the high school date pool and I don't typically date co-workers. It's not like I won't share them with people if they ask, but they do have to ask. As there was no obvious evidence of my heterosexuality, they assumed that I was homosexual.

The really sad side of that story is.....when my sister came out of the closet and it was discussed amongst family and friends the typical response, at least from what I've heard, was that they always expected it to be me and not her.

How's that for a confidence booster, eh?

K-Wise · 02-13-2005, 12:43 AM

^ Man. Thats a slap in the face. Don't worry man my folks have said some pretty similar very fucked up shit to me in the past so you're not alone buddy.

Asta!!

Cervantes · 02-13-2005, 01:19 AM

It's happend to me once aswell. I was hanging out at a bar with some friends when the bartender started buying me drinks. First I just thought it was because I was a regular but then he asked for my phonenumber. I guess I just didn't expect it, it's not often anyone hit on me so I don't seem to pick it up untill things start going too far.

Anway, what happend was I did the stupid thing of asking "Why?" with my usual completly innocent quizzical look (still hadn't figured it out). "Oh, never mind.." was his answer and then he turned to another coustomer.

I had no idea what made him do it, I met him later the same week at a party and he sort of just laughed the whole thing off, but I could tell that he'd been hurt.

K-Wise · 02-13-2005, 01:32 AM

haha poor guy I probably would have said the same thing you said.

Asta!!

Stick · 02-13-2005, 01:40 AM

I've been hit on. I look like a thug, so maybe he was a pain slut and wanted to get treated rough by some "hard biker dude". I declined his offer.

NoSoup · 02-13-2005, 02:04 AM

A couple of times, actually. This one dude grabbed my ass, which creeped me the hell out. It isn't like I'm homophobic or anything like that, I probably would have felt the same way, whether the offender was male or female.

Most of the other times it happened they subtly tried determining my sexuality, but I didn't catch on - so the answers I gave were a bit ambigious. When the asked for my number or whatever, I was usually a bit surprised, and pretty much kicked myself for not seeing it a bit sooner. Not that I minded, I just felt like I almost lead them on...

ironmaiden7o7 · 02-13-2005, 02:06 AM

I think when a member of the same sex is attracted to you, that's when you know for sure that you indeed got it going on. :-)

K-Wise · 02-13-2005, 02:34 AM

^ I guess I never looked at it that way before haha. Thats good to know

Asta!!

Baron Opal · 02-13-2005, 02:42 AM

Yes, for me it was the Year of No Women.

I had moved to Florida ostensibly to gain an advanced degree, although it was really to get away from my situation in New York. While living in Florida I had aboslutly no luck with women at all. No one that I hit on would go out with me or even have a cup of coffee with me. I had made some female friends, but anything even remotely amorous or sexual was doomed to failure.

So, one of my female friends wants to drive up to Norfolk to visit an old friend. There's going to be a party, and we will be staying for the weekend. Cool, I'm in. I've heard a lot of fun stories about this guy, so there should be plenty of people to meet and friends to make. We drive up there, and I have a good time, fun party, but I don't get a vibe from any of the women. One guy is horsing around and trips over a chair and lands in my lap. I help him up and he checks me out. He gives my leg a squeeze and tells me that he has some crash space if Liam's place is too crowded if I want to sleep or if I want anything more. I tell him that I'm cool, and he goes his way. I talk to my friend later about it and she says, yep, he wants you. You're just his type, and he's bi.

I felt really wierd about it for a little while, and a little depressed. While a little curious, I doubt that I would move on any opportunity, and I was depressed that the only action I could find was some that I didn't want.

Later that year some other guy hit on me, and I said no thanks, and we went our ways peacably and without stress.

And then I left Florida, and was never hit on by a guy again.

K-Wise · 02-13-2005, 02:48 AM

^ Wow! Thats some story man. I feel for you. Have ya had any luck since then?

Asta!!

HalcyonDaze · 02-13-2005, 02:52 AM

I've never been (seriously) hit on by a guy before. But I met a cool guy at college earlier this year named Tim that I saw at shows a few times and saw with mutual friends. One time, maybe the 5th or 6th time we'd talked, I introduced him to my girlfriend and he said "Oh... girlfriend...? I always thought..." and then shuffled away.

So that was embarassing. :-P

tres · 02-13-2005, 02:56 AM

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Originally Posted by HalcyonDaze

I've never been (seriously) hit on by a guy before. But I met a cool guy at college earlier this year named Tim that I saw at shows a few times and saw with mutual friends. One time, maybe the 5th or 6th time we'd talked, I introduced him to my girlfriend and he said "Oh... girlfriend...? I always thought..." and then shuffled away.

So that was embarassing. :-P

I guess that could be a slightly uncomfortable situation huh?

bing bing · 02-13-2005, 03:45 AM

It's happened to me a few times, no doubt due to my "metrosexual" tendencies rather than any mannerisms or any gay vibe. It doesn't bother me at all and I take it as a compliment when it occurs.

Charlatan · 02-13-2005, 04:32 AM

When I was younger, and actually when out to clubs or parties, I would get hit on quite regularly... The first time it happened I was a bit wierded out. Mostly because I was quite young (19) and wasn't sure how to handle it.

I thought about it and realized it was actually quite a compliment. Not only were women interested in me, but so where men. Neat.

It was no big. There have been women who've hit on me in which I've had no interest and turning them down was no different from turning down a guy in which I had no interest.

stingc · 02-13-2005, 04:50 AM

I think I've been hit on more times by guys than girls. The joys of having lived in San Francisco

. It's never bothered me, though. I take it as a compliment.

forkies · 02-13-2005, 05:01 AM

wow, this thread is just proliferating the "gay male" stereotype...

imagine how much courage it took for each of these people to ask. and, in the case of the original poster, to have the response be "But in the back of my mind I swear it was screaming "GOOOOO AWAAAAAAAY!!!!!" haha." have some respect for others.

tecoyah · 02-13-2005, 05:51 AM

To be honest,I have had a few Gay friends.....express....feelings to me. It was not completely comfortable in any of these instances. That said I have been approached by female friends as well, and the situations there are no less uncomfortable. It is in the details of "How" the flirtation takes place, not the gender of the person who does it.....or so I will continue to tell myself.

Rodney · 02-13-2005, 06:20 AM

When I was young, I was what one of my dates called "a pretty man." Slender, fine features, somewhat sensitive and soft-spoken. So I got hit on by gay men a fair amount --maybe a couple of times a year -- especially after I moved to San Francisco. It never bothered me. Generally it was all very courteous and above-aboard. They proposed, I demurred, that was it. I had had gay acquaintances since I was 16, and was pretty familiar with the scene while not being part of it.

What bothered me was the reaction of straight people to my appearance, even in San Francisco. Once I got a spectacular deal on a black bomber jacket and started wearing it regularly. After a while, I referred to it as my "faggot jacket," because when I wore it, teenage boys would scream "faggot" at me as they sped past in Dad's car. In those days, and maybe still, groups of teeny boys would drive up from San Francisco's more working class 'burbs with a couple of six packs and drive around the city harassing gays.

It happened elsewhere as well. Once I was walking on the "Miracle Mile" of a military base town with another young man -- rare enough, everybody else was in cars -- and we both had ties on because we'd come from a function and were both fairly slender and well-groomed. It was Friday night, and I think we were challenged by young males in cars three times in two blocks.

The car thing is important -- they get to yell "faggot," and run. Because they're still kids, and kids never want to face the music. One time, I guess I caught a group of them at the beginning of their run, because they were parked at the curb as I walked by, opening their twist tops. It was a side street in the Polk Street district, a big gay neighborhood, and I was wearing the faggot jacket. The kid riding shotgun looked out the window at me and tentatively said, "Fag." I just let them have it. And they scrunched down in their seats and took it.

Val_1 · 02-13-2005, 09:47 AM

The only people that have been hitting on me lately are gay guys. I was talking to a friend of mine a couple of weeks ago and I told him that. He said, "Hey, take it as a compliment. Just wait till you're my age, then you won't even get gay guys hitting on you." Funny.

Konichiwaneko · 02-13-2005, 10:13 AM

I'm hit on a lot by guys, it's not my thing but I'm not offended by it.

Actually I would say in the last year I've been hit on by 7x the amount of guys then girls... Sometimes I kinda wish girls gave bigger signels out. Or maybe they just don't like me

dirtyrascal7 · 02-13-2005, 12:35 PM

i've gotten hit on by guys a few times... and believe it or not, my girlfriend was with me more often than not. one time in particular, we were in express men and at the checkout counter and the male clerk blatently asked me out to dinner with my girlfriend standing right next to me. lol

mattevil · 02-13-2005, 01:23 PM

got my ass grabbed at a party this year. freaked me out a little but I got over it and decided to take it as a compliment.

guthmund · 02-13-2005, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by K-Wise

^ Man. Thats a slap in the face. Don't worry man my folks have said some pretty similar very fucked up shit to me in the past so you're not alone buddy.

Asta!!

Thanks.

My mother and father are both the same way, they don't like to talk about their respective relationships unless asked. I mean, my father had been dating his recent girlfriend for eight months before I found out and only then because I helped him move in with her.

I'm not worried if anybody thinks I'm gay, it's the rapid leap in logic that throws me off kilter. "Well, we haven't seen him dating any girls, so, we must assume that he is gay." They haven't seen me date any guys either, but that doesn't seem to figure into the equation.

Oh well, what can you do?

thespian86 · 02-13-2005, 02:08 PM

Today, earlier, I was at rehearsal and we were dancing when a guy named Liam walked up to me and told me I looked handsome. I thanked him and told him he was too but I wasn't interested. He said "Thank you for not being a dick" and I said "It was my pleasure." That Liam...

degrawj · 02-13-2005, 02:27 PM

i've been hit on a couple of times by guys when i've gone out to clubs. one time was when i went to a gay club with my ex-girlfriend, so i was kind of expecting to get hit on. the other times it took me by surprise, but i didn't mind. i was actually kind of flattered. but then again, i'm maybe a little bi-curious. i can find some men attractive, and am comfortable with my sexuality. but i can totally understand how it could bother some people.

AquaFox · 02-13-2005, 02:38 PM

this one gay guy keep hitting on me and asking if i wanted to have sex... i turned him down.... i wish girls would ask me for sex like him, lol

Harshaw · 02-13-2005, 02:46 PM

Once, but I was in a gay bar, so it was to be expected. I'm not gay, but some of my friend are and they like to hang out at the local gay bar. It didn't bother me. It wouldn't bother me if it happened out in broad daylight either. I like the idea that people might find me good looking, male or female.

02-12-2005, 07:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	So straight guys...ever get hit on by someone of the same sex? I was at the mall one time and I was at Sam Goody walkin around lookin at CD's and some guy comes up to me and says "Hey um hate to bother you but my friend wants to know if you're into guys?" and I said "Excuse me?" With a somewhat confused look on my face thinking surely I must be mistaken...Surely I did not just hear what I thought I heard...Perhaps Guys is a band I'm not familiar with and he's asking me if I've heard of them..."Excuse me?" "My friend he wants to know if you're into guys." So I wasn't mistaken...I simply and calmly justs said "Oh..no" and shook my head. Then he started trying to talk to me he was like "Yeah I told him you probably weren't he just wanted me to check." And I'm just nodding my head and pushing my eyebrows downward like "Yeah yeah I understand yeah it's cool." But in the back of my mind I swear it was screaming "GOOOOO AWAAAAAAAY!!!!!" haha. That was kinda weird. Kinda messed me up for a minute. Started thinking "Well wait a minute do I look gay?" No offense to those of you who are haha. "What could I have been doing to make him think I was gay?" Y'know stupid stuff. Prolly the guy just thought I was good looking and wanted to know if I like guys...he'd have to ask that girls don't usually have to ask guys if they're into girls but the same does not hold true for gay men. I am however kind of "fashionable" and I walk around with a walkmen cd player singing all the damn time so I guess that might throw some wrong signals haha. If thats the case I could care less I'll keep doing that regardless. I'm not sure if it was the very same day or the very next when I was at the mall but I got hit on by a girl too so that made me feel better. Then I started worrying if it was gonna be a pattern haha....Guy then a girl, then another guy, etc. Hope I didn't offend any of you with that. That was a first time thing for me so it was a little weird..Guess I shoulda been flattered haha... So any a you other straight guys or hell even straight girls ever get hit on by a member of the same sex? Did you have a similar reaction or am I just a dickhead? Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-12-2005, 08:09 PM	#3 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	Well thats good to know. Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-12-2005, 08:22 PM	#5 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	^ Wow! That sux man. I bet they could see you making out with a chick and then taking her right there and be like "ugh..he's faking it!" Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-12-2005, 08:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
high_way Addict Location: Australia	yes i have been and kinda enjoyed it... was thinking about going further just to see what it would be like but i got a really weird vibe from him. my friend who i was out with got the same weird vide so it wasnt just me... i would take it as a compliment, doesnt matter whether they are the same sex or not. __________________ A stranger is just a friend you havent met yet. Impostor of the imposturous

02-12-2005, 08:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	Well shit you already made out with em why not go the whole nine yards? haha Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-12-2005, 08:00 PM	#2 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	I've been told by pastors that I dress "gay". When I asked what that meant, it was usually a compliment that I was up to date and stylish. Then came "metrosexuality". It fit me like a glove. I've always been interested in the arts, style and most of my friends are women. I've been hit on by men and women. It's flattering more than anything else. You're no dickhead. Your opinion is closer to equality than the average one. The average man would have made some overly agressive or rude comment and overcompensated due to insecurity.

02-12-2005, 08:19 PM	#4 (permalink)
tres Insane Location: Long Island, NY	I get picked up by gay guys all the time... its scary.. and starting to get annoying.... When I tell them I'm not gay, they almost don't belive me.. Kinda like they think they know better.. I've actually had gay people insist that I was gay, and lying to them.... ack!

02-12-2005, 08:59 PM	#9 (permalink)
sammy776 Upright	I had a friend once that hit on me, I had no idea he was gay because he was date a female friend of mine. I guess she was just a beard. He told me he had feelings for me one night and I said "ok, um I have to go now" I did not hear from him much after that. last I heard he was working for an airline.

02-12-2005, 09:03 PM	#10 (permalink)
Carno Junkie	Yeah I've been hit on before.. I just take it as a compliment, I guess. No big deal.

02-12-2005, 09:21 PM	#11 (permalink)
FngKestrel Junkie	I don't get hit on by people of either gender.

02-12-2005, 09:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
Shady Tilted Location: Ohio	I was never hit on directly.... but when I was a freshmen in college, my girlfriend's roomate had a gay friend named Brandon. One time a few of us were hangin out in her dorm room. He stopped by with a few of his gay friends. I left the room for something (I don't remember why) and when I got back, my girlfriend pulled me aside and said that one of the guys had asked about me and said I was cute. Brandon told him something along the lines of..."No you don't want to mess with him, his girlfriend would kill you". When my girlfriend told me this, I was like..."Yeah, plus the fact that I'm not gay". It was a little wierd for me at the time, but now I look back on it and laugh. __________________ Only Dre can judge me for the mistakes I'm makin, if I'm fakin I'm Clay Aiken.

02-12-2005, 10:20 PM	#13 (permalink)
pippepin Upright	I used to get hit on by guys all the time when I would go to the quarter with friends. Would make one of our gay friends jealous because I got more action than he did.

02-12-2005, 11:37 PM	#14 (permalink)
guthmund big damn hero	I've never been hit on, but it's been assumed several times over the years that I was gay. I'm just an unusally private guy, at least, when it comes to who I sleep with. I didn't draw from the high school date pool and I don't typically date co-workers. It's not like I won't share them with people if they ask, but they do have to ask. As there was no obvious evidence of my heterosexuality, they assumed that I was homosexual. The really sad side of that story is.....when my sister came out of the closet and it was discussed amongst family and friends the typical response, at least from what I've heard, was that they always expected it to be me and not her. How's that for a confidence booster, eh? __________________ No signature. None. Seriously. Last edited by guthmund; 02-12-2005 at 11:42 PM..

02-13-2005, 12:43 AM	#15 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	^ Man. Thats a slap in the face. Don't worry man my folks have said some pretty similar very fucked up shit to me in the past so you're not alone buddy. Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-13-2005, 01:19 AM	#16 (permalink)
Cervantes Psycho Location: Above you	It's happend to me once aswell. I was hanging out at a bar with some friends when the bartender started buying me drinks. First I just thought it was because I was a regular but then he asked for my phonenumber. I guess I just didn't expect it, it's not often anyone hit on me so I don't seem to pick it up untill things start going too far. Anway, what happend was I did the stupid thing of asking "Why?" with my usual completly innocent quizzical look (still hadn't figured it out). "Oh, never mind.." was his answer and then he turned to another coustomer. I had no idea what made him do it, I met him later the same week at a party and he sort of just laughed the whole thing off, but I could tell that he'd been hurt. __________________ - "Philosophy is questions that may never be answered. Religion is answers that may never be questioned.." - "Religions take everything that your DNA naturally wants to do to survive and pro-create and makes it wrong." - "There is only one absolute truth and that is that there is only one absolute truth." Last edited by Cervantes; 02-13-2005 at 01:23 AM..

02-13-2005, 01:32 AM	#17 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	haha poor guy I probably would have said the same thing you said. Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-13-2005, 01:40 AM	#18 (permalink)
Stick Psycho Location: Sydney, Australia	I've been hit on. I look like a thug, so maybe he was a pain slut and wanted to get treated rough by some "hard biker dude". I declined his offer. __________________ ominous adj. Menacing; threatening. Of or being an omen, especially an evil one.

02-13-2005, 02:04 AM	#19 (permalink)
NoSoup Non-Rookie Location: Green Bay, WI	A couple of times, actually. This one dude grabbed my ass, which creeped me the hell out. It isn't like I'm homophobic or anything like that, I probably would have felt the same way, whether the offender was male or female. Most of the other times it happened they subtly tried determining my sexuality, but I didn't catch on - so the answers I gave were a bit ambigious. When the asked for my number or whatever, I was usually a bit surprised, and pretty much kicked myself for not seeing it a bit sooner. Not that I minded, I just felt like I almost lead them on... __________________ I have an aura of reliability and good judgement. Just in case you were wondering...

02-13-2005, 02:06 AM	#20 (permalink)
ironmaiden7o7 Insane Location: NYC	I think when a member of the same sex is attracted to you, that's when you know for sure that you indeed got it going on. :-)

02-13-2005, 02:34 AM	#21 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	^ I guess I never looked at it that way before haha. Thats good to know Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-13-2005, 02:42 AM	#22 (permalink)
Baron Opal Crazy Location: Oregon	Yes, for me it was the Year of No Women. I had moved to Florida ostensibly to gain an advanced degree, although it was really to get away from my situation in New York. While living in Florida I had aboslutly no luck with women at all. No one that I hit on would go out with me or even have a cup of coffee with me. I had made some female friends, but anything even remotely amorous or sexual was doomed to failure. So, one of my female friends wants to drive up to Norfolk to visit an old friend. There's going to be a party, and we will be staying for the weekend. Cool, I'm in. I've heard a lot of fun stories about this guy, so there should be plenty of people to meet and friends to make. We drive up there, and I have a good time, fun party, but I don't get a vibe from any of the women. One guy is horsing around and trips over a chair and lands in my lap. I help him up and he checks me out. He gives my leg a squeeze and tells me that he has some crash space if Liam's place is too crowded if I want to sleep or if I want anything more. I tell him that I'm cool, and he goes his way. I talk to my friend later about it and she says, yep, he wants you. You're just his type, and he's bi. I felt really wierd about it for a little while, and a little depressed. While a little curious, I doubt that I would move on any opportunity, and I was depressed that the only action I could find was some that I didn't want. Later that year some other guy hit on me, and I said no thanks, and we went our ways peacably and without stress. And then I left Florida, and was never hit on by a guy again.

02-13-2005, 02:48 AM	#23 (permalink)
K-Wise It's All About The Ass!! Location: In a pool of mayonnaise!!	^ Wow! Thats some story man. I feel for you. Have ya had any luck since then? Asta!! __________________ "I love music and it's my parents fault (closing statement)." - Me..quoting myself...from when I said that...On TFP..thats here...Tilted Forum Project *It ain't goodbye, it's see ya later! I'll miss you guys!* - Asta!!

02-13-2005, 02:52 AM	#24 (permalink)
HalcyonDaze Tilted	I've never been (seriously) hit on by a guy before. But I met a cool guy at college earlier this year named Tim that I saw at shows a few times and saw with mutual friends. One time, maybe the 5th or 6th time we'd talked, I introduced him to my girlfriend and he said "Oh... girlfriend...? I always thought..." and then shuffled away. So that was embarassing. :-P

02-13-2005, 03:45 AM	#26 (permalink)
bing bing Addict Location: Melbourne, Australia	It's happened to me a few times, no doubt due to my "metrosexual" tendencies rather than any mannerisms or any gay vibe. It doesn't bother me at all and I take it as a compliment when it occurs.

02-13-2005, 04:32 AM	#27 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	When I was younger, and actually when out to clubs or parties, I would get hit on quite regularly... The first time it happened I was a bit wierded out. Mostly because I was quite young (19) and wasn't sure how to handle it. I thought about it and realized it was actually quite a compliment. Not only were women interested in me, but so where men. Neat. It was no big. There have been women who've hit on me in which I've had no interest and turning them down was no different from turning down a guy in which I had no interest. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

02-13-2005, 04:50 AM	#28 (permalink)
stingc Psycho Location: PA	I think I've been hit on more times by guys than girls. The joys of having lived in San Francisco . It's never bothered me, though. I take it as a compliment.

02-13-2005, 05:01 AM	#29 (permalink)
forkies Tilted	wow, this thread is just proliferating the "gay male" stereotype... imagine how much courage it took for each of these people to ask. and, in the case of the original poster, to have the response be "But in the back of my mind I swear it was screaming "GOOOOO AWAAAAAAAY!!!!!" haha." have some respect for others.

02-13-2005, 05:51 AM	#30 (permalink)
tecoyah Illusionary	To be honest,I have had a few Gay friends.....express....feelings to me. It was not completely comfortable in any of these instances. That said I have been approached by female friends as well, and the situations there are no less uncomfortable. It is in the details of "How" the flirtation takes place, not the gender of the person who does it.....or so I will continue to tell myself. __________________ Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. - Buddha

02-13-2005, 06:20 AM	#31 (permalink)
Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	When I was young, I was what one of my dates called "a pretty man." Slender, fine features, somewhat sensitive and soft-spoken. So I got hit on by gay men a fair amount --maybe a couple of times a year -- especially after I moved to San Francisco. It never bothered me. Generally it was all very courteous and above-aboard. They proposed, I demurred, that was it. I had had gay acquaintances since I was 16, and was pretty familiar with the scene while not being part of it. What bothered me was the reaction of straight people to my appearance, even in San Francisco. Once I got a spectacular deal on a black bomber jacket and started wearing it regularly. After a while, I referred to it as my "faggot jacket," because when I wore it, teenage boys would scream "faggot" at me as they sped past in Dad's car. In those days, and maybe still, groups of teeny boys would drive up from San Francisco's more working class 'burbs with a couple of six packs and drive around the city harassing gays. It happened elsewhere as well. Once I was walking on the "Miracle Mile" of a military base town with another young man -- rare enough, everybody else was in cars -- and we both had ties on because we'd come from a function and were both fairly slender and well-groomed. It was Friday night, and I think we were challenged by young males in cars three times in two blocks. The car thing is important -- they get to yell "faggot," and run. Because they're still kids, and kids never want to face the music. One time, I guess I caught a group of them at the beginning of their run, because they were parked at the curb as I walked by, opening their twist tops. It was a side street in the Polk Street district, a big gay neighborhood, and I was wearing the faggot jacket. The kid riding shotgun looked out the window at me and tentatively said, "Fag." I just let them have it. And they scrunched down in their seats and took it.

02-13-2005, 09:47 AM	#32 (permalink)
Val_1 Addict Location: In a State of Denial	The only people that have been hitting on me lately are gay guys. I was talking to a friend of mine a couple of weeks ago and I told him that. He said, "Hey, take it as a compliment. Just wait till you're my age, then you won't even get gay guys hitting on you." Funny. __________________ I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day. -Frank Sinatra

02-13-2005, 10:13 AM	#33 (permalink)
Konichiwaneko The Dreaded Pixel Nazi Location: Inside my camera	I'm hit on a lot by guys, it's not my thing but I'm not offended by it. Actually I would say in the last year I've been hit on by 7x the amount of guys then girls... Sometimes I kinda wish girls gave bigger signels out. Or maybe they just don't like me __________________ Hesitate. Pull me in. Breath on breath. Skin on skin. Loving deep. Falling fast. All right here. Let this last. Here with our lips locked tight. Baby the time is right for us... to forget about us.

02-13-2005, 12:35 PM	#34 (permalink)
dirtyrascal7 That's what she said	i've gotten hit on by guys a few times... and believe it or not, my girlfriend was with me more often than not. one time in particular, we were in express men and at the checkout counter and the male clerk blatently asked me out to dinner with my girlfriend standing right next to me. lol

02-13-2005, 01:23 PM	#35 (permalink)
mattevil Addict Location: Virginia	got my ass grabbed at a party this year. freaked me out a little but I got over it and decided to take it as a compliment.

02-13-2005, 02:08 PM	#37 (permalink)
thespian86 change is hard. Location: the green room.	Today, earlier, I was at rehearsal and we were dancing when a guy named Liam walked up to me and told me I looked handsome. I thanked him and told him he was too but I wasn't interested. He said "Thank you for not being a dick" and I said "It was my pleasure." That Liam... __________________ EX: Whats new? ME: I officially love coffee more then you now. EX: uh... ME: So, not much.

02-13-2005, 02:27 PM	#38 (permalink)
degrawj I'm still waiting... Location: West Linn, OR	i've been hit on a couple of times by guys when i've gone out to clubs. one time was when i went to a gay club with my ex-girlfriend, so i was kind of expecting to get hit on. the other times it took me by surprise, but i didn't mind. i was actually kind of flattered. but then again, i'm maybe a little bi-curious. i can find some men attractive, and am comfortable with my sexuality. but i can totally understand how it could bother some people.