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I've been hit on by a few gay guys. It's flattering, I guess.

noodles

i live far in the south and i've been hit on by more guys than girls. and that depresses me to no end.

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Suave

In a serious way? Not that I could tell, but I'm fairly clueless so unless someone is really blunt and obvious about it, I probably didn't catch it. My ex-bosses (two of whom were gay) used to jokingly flirt with me all the time, and I played along while I worked there.

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Ribs

Some of my friends used to think I was gay... well not some just 2. I guess its cause I'm really skinny and tall and usually dress pretty nice. My other friends told him I wasnt cause I always talk to them about girls and stuff but for some reason he still thought I was. I wouldnt care but he told other people he thought that and that was what made me mad.

[EDIT] I just read earlier in this thread that that was a stereotype. I was gonna delete this post but I guess I should just leave it. I just always thought that homosexuals try to dress a certain way so other homosexuals can see that and avoid having to ask people what they are. Didnt know that this was just a stereotype but I guess now I do

Bobaphat

I've been hit on a few times by men, though in most of those circumstances, I was in a gay bar, so I was asking for it anyway. I agree with most that it should be taken as a compliment. We all want to feel that somebody sees something in us to be attracted too, even if we don't share that attraction.

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high_way

one of my best friends hits on me sometimes. i kissed him one night when we had had a few drinks and since then he has sorta hit on me at differnet times. he is engaged etc but has confided in me that he wants to experience one more thing before he gets married.

doesnt bother me and would prob jump into it except that we are really good mates and i have seen what happens when friends get together... other than that i think its great. makes me feel good that someone finds me attractive (i think i have said that but you get that).

well thats just another little story of mine...

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wolf

Actually yes, I do. I enjoy talking to people and helping people.

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I got hit on once. Kinda creepy actually, cause I noticed this guy stalking me for a few blocks. I stopped around a corner and pretended to text on my cell. The guy stopped as well, and started small talking about christmas shopping etc. We walked 4 or 5 blocks, I kept my responses to a minimum, and told him I was picking up my girlfriend from work. The guy was polite and nice though, so I kinda felt like an ass giving him only one syllable replies. Also I'm from Norway where people are a bit more, well frigid, so I though alright, this is the US, home of the brave and all that, maybe this is totally acceptable behaviour. At the last ped crossing before my gf's work he said "So, uh, do you want to head back to my flat for some fun?" I rejected politely and told him I'm straight, to which he replied "Oh, that's okay, I'll do all the work".

This happened in San Francisco but it was downtown, not the Castro. I had scruffy 1-month beard, an Adidas hoodie with food stains, cheap GAP jeans and dirt on my boots from camping, so I really can't see why the guy would hit on me.

Zeraph

I'm a hetero male, it's been like 5 years since anyone has directly hit on me(the first and only time so far, but I'm young, 20 yrs old), but I've had numerous occations from every type of person slip into the conversation that I'm attractive. Guys, girls, people 20+ yrs older than me...

I can't figure it out, I'm not sure if my sexuality is so ambiguous so that both types think I'm the opposite of their's, or that people are just too afraid to approach me ..I do usually have a serious visage, people have thought I was depressed or mad at times when I was neither. Or if I just seem uninterested to everyone as I tend to be a private person and find it hard to express my emotions.

It's kinda funny too since I tend to be really empathic but when it comes to having to do with others having feelings for me I 2nd guess my instincts too much.

Live and learn though, I'm sure Ill get the hang of it soon.

Zeraph

Oh ya, forgot about my original meaning for posting before I went off on that little escapade.

I was in my anthropology class last night, upper class (jrs and seniors) at a university, we we're talking about greeks and when the topic of how homosexuality was intrinsic to their culture came up someone (I think a female) let a loud EEEWWwwwww....

I'm like wtf, this is a class of adults and they are so affected at simply talking about it that they have to voice their disaproval like some fucking kid?

This made me depressed, and pretty pissed off, I feel like I'm loosing faith in humanity...it makes me strongly dislike people like that, racist, homophobes, etc. But I feel wanting to enact violence upon their mortal coils makes me nearly as bad as them which makes me confused

I just don't understand our race and I'm tryin hard.

jvwgtr

Yeah, I've been hit on more than once. In fact, one of my best friends from high school, after years of being overly critical of the girls I dated, admitted that he was, in fact gay...and in love with me.
I had suspected as much, and wasn't all that surprised.
Frankly, I find it flattering, like Harshaw said, when anybody finds me attractive.

firestormo

I've been hit on a few times and after replying nicely they usually get over it, but this one friend would not leave the topic alone.. and for months he kept hitting on me over and over.. finally after awhile he got the hint (after me telling him I am not into it 1000 times) and things were back to normal again.

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Off Topic ::

I've come to the conclusion in my life if you try to place humanity on a pedastal, you will be in a world of hurt.

If you take it for what is, and realize like your own self that it has inherent issues and live with them then people aren't that half bad.

I know what I believe in, and that's what is important to me. What others believe in is their own business, and if I don't agree with it then it's my choice to either not pay attention or to let it affect me.

On Topic ::

With how many people that are openly gay now, is it really even considered "Coming out of the woodwork?"

(joke) Soon I'm gonna have to hide the fact that I'm straight (end joke)

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TexanAvenger

I used to get hit on by guys, constantly. I even had a guy junior year of high school who made it his goal to, if not prove I was gay, make me so.

But even still, I get hit on by guys all the time. And, unlike in high school, it doesn't bother me at all. So they think I'm attractive... half the time they are too. It's nothing but a compliment, why worry about it?

insidious_machinae

Same here.

drakers

Thank god I've never been in that weird situation, I don't know how I would react. I'd probably be embarrased at first and then laugh about it later on.

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animosity

I've been hit on many of times by gay men. I find if flattering. A little unsettling, but still flattering.

When I worked at Gap, there we a couple guys who would hit on me a lot. That became an annoyance becasue they knew that I am not gay. But as a general rule I try to be nice about it. Probably more so than I am with girls who hit on me.

k1ng

I work at Gap (animosity used to work with me) right now and work with a lot of gay people, but I've never been hit on by any of them (I'm disappointed, maybe?). I have been hit on by a customer. The customer called up and was very nervous sounding and asked me if I liked men. I told him that I didn't and he apologized. I think I thanked him for calling instead of asking me in the store.

I wasn't flattered by the whole thing, mainly because the guy was kind of creepy sounding.

I don't mind working with gay people (i wouldn't work at Gap if i did). I wouldn't be offended if one of them hit on me. Being hit on is being hit on, whether it be a girl or a guy, so I take it as a complement and go on my way.

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Rippley

Several times, I take it as a compliment, and let them know, politely, that they're....well...barking up the wrong tree. Two incidents stand out. First time, I was 16 and flying from Denmark to NY. Long flight, so I got up to strecth my legs. Got to talking with the cabin crew down in the tail-end galley ( I think it was a TWA 767 or 777, but It was almost 10 years ago, so I forget). End up chattin' with this guy for about an hour. Ends up with him letting me know I should get in touch with him if I came to the city, I could crash at his place, etc. (I was spending the summer on Long Island, so wouldn't be in the city much.) I was completely oblivious to the fact that this guy was very much hitting on me, until I told the story to someone and they said:"you realize he was hitting on you, right?"

Second time was a couple years ago, at a party thrown by a lesbian friend of mine. Of course, the gay community was heavily represented. So the evening advances and I have a long conversation opera divas, audrey hepburn, the qualities of rural cooking, etc(those were the subjects, I kid you not), along with an ever-increasing amount of drinks, with a very cool gay guy. At around 3 am we're hanging out in the kitchen of this tiny flat, talking, when I get pinned in the corner by a very drunk gentleman to who the term "hunter gay" (no insulting intent with that term at all, purely humor, and hopefully you'll appreciate this by the end of the story) applies. This guy is about 40, slight paunch, not very tall, high paying job in some creative industry, and an appreciation of guys much younger than him. So this guy, very drunk, and in no way intimidating, is practically purring at me. All of a sudden, the guy I've been talking to all night steps in to "defend me", explaining that I'm straight, etc... I about busted a gut laughing when the guy hitting on me realized I was straight. highly amusing!

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ckp

I've had a few passes made at me. I've generally been complimented by it. The only time I've really been annoyed was one fellow in college just didn't believe that I wasn't gay. He was in his thirties, and openly insisted that he could 'convert' any man he wanted. I'd imagine that, say, a regular hygeine regimen would have helped him a bit there. No matter how many times I told him that I was not, in fact, interested in men; that I found him generally unpleasant to be around; and that I'd like him to please leave me alone -- he just wouldn't let it die.

I spent over a year fending him off every time I ran into him on campus. I was flattered the first time or two, but after that, unwelcome advances get old fast. I don't think it is a gay/straight thing, either -- I'd imagine some women in bars have been just as furious as I was over the whole "no just means not yet" attitude. Finally, I lost my temper (it takes me quite a while) and told him that if he ever spoke to me again I would file charges for harassment.

Generally, it's nothing but a little ego boost -- and, depending on the situation, an awkward moment. I'd rather be perceived as hot to somebody than to nobody.

PoweredByPorn

One of the clubs I go to occasionally (for the goth/industrial night on Tuesdays) is also a popular hangout for homosexuals of the area. The crowd is usually a mix of gay and straight. I go because I like the music with the possibility of meeting girls. Sadly, I've been hit on by guys more often than girls there. I suppose I should be flattered. Usually I'm just like "Dude, you seem cool and all, but I'm not gay."

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frogza

I get hit on regularly by women, funny how the frequency went up after I got married. WHERE WERE ALL THESE WOMEN WHEN I WAS SINGLE!!!!??? Anyway, I've been hit on by men a couple of times. The first time I was at a club with my wife. She went to ladies room for a minute and this guy walked up and offered to buy me a drink. I said "No thanks" then he asked me to dance with him, there was a slow song going. I wanted to say "Dude, lay off. Go hit on someone else already." But I told him I wasn't interested and that my wife really wouldn't be interested in seeing me dance with him.

iccky

The real question is, would you play along with a guy hitting on you if it got you a free drink?

(Has dealt with this moral quandry several times)
(usually doesn't take the drink)

And yeah, I too get hit on by more women (and, actually, men) now that I'm in a long term relationship. I think it has to do with the confidence you exude when loved.

K-Wise

^ Definitely the confidence. It emitts. Would I play it off to get a drink? No I'd prolly buy him a drink though to make him feel better after gettin turned down then send him on his way haha.

Asta!!

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ruggerp11

Sure, same thing happened to me as it did you. I was working (selling xmas cards for charity LOL) and a woman who worked at the venue I was at came up to me and said 'this may be a weird question, but are you gay?' I was a little taken aback and said 'no, but tell him I'm flattered.'

The first time this happened I was also at the same job but in a different place. I was working all alone and was quite bored and cold. Well a guy came up to me and we started chatting about things. He was turning to go and I told him to have a good night.

He said 'O, I will my friends and I are going to see a movie, would you like to come'

I politely declined saying that I was working late. He came back with:

'ok, but how about some other time this week, I would love to take you out.'

Rather taken aback, I made the excuse that I was working late all week and wouldn't be able to. He said he understood and and we parted then.

The kicker is that I'm 22 and he was about 55. If I was his age and gay I might have gone for it but unfortuantley for him I am not.

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RCR

I have been hit on a few times,

The first time was in Kuala Lumpur, completely unexpected. I was buying DVD's(yes the pirated kind sorry..) and when i turned round there was this Chinese dude, slightly taller than myself(5'10) and wearing what i thought at the time as weird clothes, which were probably really fashionable. But he was asking me where i was from, what i was doing, he even tried to invite himself out with myself and my friends that evening. I actually just told him to leave me alone, he wouldnt until i gave him my number, i gave him some BS number and he tried to call it there and then, obviously my phone didnt ring, and he got the picture. But it was only that evening when i was told by my friends that he was hitting on me. I didnt like it and to be honest it must be tough on girls when they get hit on by blokes. At least if there had been a problem and this guy had really given me trouble i could have smacked him in the face or something...

The most unsettling time though was in germnay at a live gig. There was this bloke with short "pink" hair, and built like a bear. Anyway long story short and all, myself and some friends were checking out the pics taken that evening on the web, and lo and behold there is a pic of him checking out my ass, about as creepy as you get and caught on camera...

Also it is interesting that you guys accept drinks from men. I dont want to sterotype gay men but of the 99% of decent honest gay guys out there, there will be that one percent who will offer to buy you a drink and then spike it. As a rule i buy my drinks and then watch it as best i can.

Funnel

I get hit on by gay men sometimes. There are these two gay waiters that hit on me at this one restaurant i attend about three times a week. It is very flattering to me that men of the same sex would find me attractive and i have always been open to the idea that one day i might discover i like men. I am not gay as far ass i know but i still have much of my life to live so who knows what will come up. I am always very respectful to men trying to hit on me because it seems the same as a girl who is trying also. Everyone is undeniably a person and human being and whether or not we like penis or vagina does not matter. The funniest part about it was the waiter who always hits on me kind of checked me out the first time i went in there and it was news years and since i am a regular customer of the restaurant they treat me extremely well. I tipped the guy more than the bill cost and since then he has been so sweet to me I dont give a rats ass if he wants to bone me or just talk to me. He seems like a very nice sincere person so his sexuality doesnt affect the way we chat.

sterba

I was on a flight from Tokyo to Detroit - 12 hours long...The guy a seat over from me starts with the typical small talk about work...traveling abroad...etc. Somehow after about 2 hours of back and forth banter...he transitions into his love life and a sob story about his lover cheating on him. I listen intently...actually a good story about catching his lover in the act! Well being the typical male...I'm thinking woman right...wrong! The light actually goes on when he describes the fact that "they" weren't both using condoms and how that bothered him as much as the infidelity. Now, I'm trying to figure out a way to back pedal out of this whole conversation and distance myself from him....(because I'm picking up vibes...I don't want to be picking up!) So, I try to be polite and tell him how awful that is and that I had also been cheated on at one point in my life...and I know how that feels. Well, based on my remarks he interpeted that I was interested in him....and the next thing I knew he was asking for my phone number and if I would be interested in going out with him? (Talk about uncomfortable...I still had 7 hours of flight time left and wasn't sure how this would resolve itself.) So, I told him that I was flattered, but that I was straight. He responded, that he thought I might have been gay because I was such a good listener and had such a nice caring demeanor. I thanked him again and we continued our conversations like nothing had happend. Of course I tell my wife the story, and she just laughs..."Sure you can listen and console a gay guy...and you can't even listen to me for 10 minutes!"

Ruse

Ive only had it happen a few times but while it was somewhat uncomfortable, it was still flattering. Even though they might not be my "cup of tea" it is still nice to know someone with interrest in guys finds me attractive.

K-Wise

Asta!!

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irseg

Back in high school a (male) friend and I always used to go to a restaurant because it had amazingly good Cajun food, which made it pretty much one of a kind in that area.

The waiters always seemed awfully..friendly. I finally figured out something was going on when one pretty obviously gay waiter said "Have a nice night, you two", and then "I'll see you later, big guy" to me as we were leaving. After that I mentioned it to some friends who were like "That place is like the main gay hangout in this town, didn't you know?!" Uhh, nope.

We still went there, but started bringing along female friends to help fend off the wait staff.

K-Wise

^ haha I'd prolly be totally oblivious to that sort of thing also.

Asta!!

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muttonglutton

Haha, I rarely get hit on at all.

One of my friends though, did hit on me. I thought it was really flattering. I'm not into guys at all (or at least not him, hmm) but it was a bit of an ego-booster. Yeah, I suppose this could mean that I look gay, since very, very few women hit on me, but... that's a chance I guess I'm willing to take. I enjoy dressing well and wearing what I think looks good.

If he kept pressuring me about it, that may strain the friendship, but we're still good friends, as good as we were before. Maybe it's just my circle though, we're remarkably open people.

aphroditeskiss1

Not so much me, but when my SO first moved to New Mexico from Utah, all the gay men in the performing arts dept. of our high school were literally taking bets as to when we would find out he was gay. No one won it. There was this time that we were in a video store and the checker was so obviously checking him out and he thought that he was looking at him to try to figure out "what kind of guy" I would be with. That made me laugh so hard. I still tease him about.

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absolut_paris

Had a guy following me around in a club once for about half an hour... 30 seconds of "idle chit chat" then asking for my number or email adress... had to threaten him when he came after me to the toilet though, it was getting very creepy...

another club, some guy grabbed me, kissed me on the cheek and gave me an invitation to an after part "in case im interested".

and the occasionnal compliment.

its always flattering, though. its a compliment.

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Bacchanal

I dont know if I'd call it being hit on but...

I had a friend who lived in Kansas City for a couple years, then he moved to DC. I went up to KC to see a concert with my g/f at the time, and wanted to go out afterward but didn't have anyone to go with. I called my friend in DC and he told me a friend of his would probably go out with us, and gave me his number. I'd met the guy before, and knew he was gay, but I didn't care, he was funny as shit and I had my g/f with me, so I figured he wouldn't fuck with me too much. I was wrong. Throughout the night, he kept making suggestions, and even tried to grab my cock once or twice. It got to the point where I didn't know if he was kidding or not. Either way, if he was hitting on me, whatever, he knew where I stood, and we had a good time.

yuckfoomaster

Damn you single people.
Enjoy all the hitting on you can by either gender.
Im married and I like girls, but I dont get hit on by many
girls. Plus the fact Im toting a toddler around with me most of the time
probably doesnt help me much. I gave up on seeing anyone ever even giving
me the 2nd glance at the mall, except older creepy guys. That stoller is like the
antisexual. You have to like sex to have it enough to get pregnant.

ktspktsp

I've been hit on by a guy once. He was a close friend of a close friend, and I ended up staying at his place for drinks a couple of times after our common friend had left. So once he started asking me about my sexual experiences (I was a virgin back then), so he started talking about how I should try things, etc; and sex isn't necessarily penetration, there's other stuff like blowjobs and rimming, etc.. Then he started telling me that he could help me hook up with some girls he knew.. Then he said, pretending to be charitable, "You know what, I could just do it myself, I could give you a blowjob, give you some experience".. To which I replied no thanks.. the conversation didn't last long after that, then he dropped me off at home. He never was as friendly to me after that, though I didn't really change my behavior towards him..

Anyway, like many people have said in this thread, it was flattering. And, though I'm straight, perhaps under the right circumstances I could've been persuaded to experiment with someone I felt comfortable with, but I didn't trust that guy so much, and he just wasn't attractive enough

madcow

It's happened a couple of times to me, but one time was particularly funny/wierd. The phone rang and it was a wrong number. The guy then says, "Well you have a nice voice, do you want to talk for a while?" I'll give it to that guy though, he had some balls to be so forward to a person he found off of a wrong number.

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^ You THINK he found a wrong number but in truth he was stalking you!

Asta!!

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