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Camelbackcinema · 02-11-2005, 06:52 PM

This might take a bit to set up, but here goes.

On New Year's Eve this year I went to a party, and this girl kept hitting on me. She made it quite clear that she wanted sex. I spurned her advances because I thought that she was pregnant, and I didn't want to 'go there', for lack of a better term. So I avoided the issue, and eventually got her to leave me alone, but on good terms.

Then 2 or 3 days later I asked some friends about her, and they said that she wasn't pregnant. So I thought I blew my chances, and was bummed at 'fumbling' so badly.

Finally about 2.5 weeks ago, she actually had her baby, while she was in her bed.

She claimed to not have known she was pregnant. Does anybody think this is possible? A female opinion would be greatly appreciated.

maleficent · 02-11-2005, 07:18 PM

I have mentioned this before... Back when I was in college, I had a roommate for a semester, who was a hard drinkin' cheerleader. One night, before we were going out to a party -- she was doubled over in pain and we thought she was going to die or something she was in such pain... Now, we weren't stupid, she hadn't gained a lot of weight, absolutely did not look pregnant. Imagine our surprise when we took her to the hospital and she gave birth to a healthy 5 pound baby boy.

Denial is a beautiful thing, she convinced herself she wasn't pregnant, she got her period every month, she never stopped drinking or smoking or cheering... She wan't pregnant, until the night she went into labor.

Heard from her a few years ago-- that surprise baby was graduating from high school and was going, on full scholarship, to college.

lazygirl · 02-11-2005, 07:21 PM

gosh, its hard to know, I knew both times pretty darn close to conception that I was pg??

StanT · 02-11-2005, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by lazygirl

gosh, its hard to know, I knew both times pretty darn close to conception that I was pg??

Best I can tell, my wife had morning sickness the morning after. It seems amazing that you wouldn't know.

NCB · 02-11-2005, 07:43 PM

People in denial can believe (or not believe) anything they want to.

Meridae'n · 02-11-2005, 08:00 PM

I guess the mind is far more influential on our bodies than we realise.

I've heard of this before, but didn't know the girl. It was in high school, and we put it down to the fact she was obese at the time. It's damn hard for us guys to wrap our minds around this...

Squishor · 02-11-2005, 08:11 PM

It's hard for me to wrap my mind around it too!

I mean, I hear these stories but it's very hard to imagine that one wouldn't know. I've been pregnant a few times, and I felt so different that I'd liken it to being possessed by an alien being (which it is actually). The exploding hormones, the mood swings, the puking, the deep sense of wrongness about it all...who wouldn't notice?

analog · 02-11-2005, 08:15 PM

Symptoms are symptoms, not hard and fast rules. There are many women who never get the pains, the sickness, the loss of period- not every single pregnant woman has all of these things. It can definitely happen- as long as she's willing to ignore the growth, that is.

Squishor · 02-11-2005, 08:25 PM

I know it varies from one person to another...it's just that my experience has been that I knew just about right away. The first time, I literally remember getting up to go to the bathroom for some tissue and thinking, "well, that did it." It's hard to understand what seems like someone being so very out of touch with their own body. I guess everyone's different.

hobo · 02-11-2005, 09:15 PM

If a woman can make all the symptoms go away with her mind, one could infer that a woman could make all the symptoms appear with her mind, without being pregnant too. Think that's the case?

Squishor · 02-11-2005, 09:25 PM

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Originally Posted by hobo

If a woman can make all the symptoms go away with her mind, one could infer that a woman could make all the symptoms appear with her mind, without being pregnant too. Think that's the case?

Sure. It used to be called "hysterical pregnancy."

ironmaiden7o7 · 02-12-2005, 03:19 AM

The moment someone gets pregnant, the morning sickness starts kicking, the weight gaining, the emotional craziness, and the total change overall. I can't see how a woman would have no clue that she is pregnant. Not only does the stomach starts growing, but your entire body changes and you'd have to be in denial not to notice.

But, some women usually get their period throughout their pregnancies, in that case, it's usually difficult to detect that she is pregnant.

Camelbackcinema · 02-12-2005, 10:36 AM

Thanks for all the input.

After talking with all my friends, we all thought she suffered from severe denial.

Grasshopper Green · 02-12-2005, 11:23 AM

If a woman continues to get her period and doesn't get morning sickness/backache/legache/much weight gain/swollen breasts I *guess* she wouldn't know she was pregnant. However....once the baby started kicking, how do you explain that away???

Lockjaw · 02-12-2005, 11:57 AM

Gas maybe?

countrygal6 · 02-12-2005, 12:44 PM

oh no it is way different than gas especially when you can actually see an elbow pop out.

Charlatan · 02-12-2005, 02:47 PM

Depends how fat you are... an elbow can disappear in fat...

guthmund · 02-12-2005, 02:47 PM

I've seen both extremes.

A friend of mine absolutely refused to believe she was pregnant despite several visits to the doctor that informed her otherwise.

She suffered from morning sickness, gained weight, basically underwent all the physical changes that accompany pregnancy, but she kept menstrating. It wasn't until her boyfriend (the kid's father) took her to get an ultrasound and she actually saw the kid with her own eyes that she accepted that she was pregnant.

One of my cousins went the other direction. Despite contrary evidence, she believed she was pregnant. She rebuffed the negative pregnancy tests, the doctor's opinion and such with what seemed like perfectly sound logic. Pregnancy tests are fallable and doctor's can be wrong. It went on for about six months, when for whatever reason, she quietly let the subject drop.

I guess we (humans) can rationalize just about anything if we put our minds to it.

Sweetpea · 02-12-2005, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

I have mentioned this before... Back when I was in college, I had a roommate for a semester, who was a hard drinkin' cheerleader. One night, before we were going out to a party -- she was doubled over in pain and we thought she was going to die or something she was in such pain... Now, we weren't stupid, she hadn't gained a lot of weight, absolutely did not look pregnant. Imagine our surprise when we took her to the hospital and she gave birth to a healthy 5 pound baby boy.

Denial is a beautiful thing, she convinced herself she wasn't pregnant, she got her period every month, she never stopped drinking or smoking or cheering... She wan't pregnant, until the night she went into labor.

Heard from her a few years ago-- that surprise baby was graduating from high school and was going, on full scholarship, to college.

my god Mal . . . that's amazing . . .

Grasshopper Green · 02-12-2005, 05:41 PM

You probably could pass it off as gas at first, but after awhile she would be able to feel it much more strongly, and even if she couldn't see the movement (I rarely saw my son when he was kicking).

Zephyr66 · 02-12-2005, 06:48 PM

I've never heard of this kind of thing before, it really amazes me.

maleficent · 02-12-2005, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Medusa99

You probably could pass it off as gas at first, but after awhile she would be able to feel it much more strongly, and even if she couldn't see the movement (I rarely saw my son when he was kicking).

My roommate in college I don't think went full term, so the really strong kicking probably doesn't occur until later in the pregancy. If a woman doesn't realize she's pregnant, she's obviously not getting any pre-natal care, or taking care of herself as well as she should be, so the baby may not be as strong as a baby that's being properly cared for.

Or with denial you can imagine anything you want...

Apache · 02-12-2005, 07:23 PM

A girl I know had a baby in Aug. '04 and she says she didn't know she was pregnant until she was going into her 6th month. I couldn't beleive that myself but who knows what people think or why I guess.
I'm 8 months pregnant now and my baby NEVER quits moving and kicking me, and has been since around 19 weeks, but I know not all babies are like that either. My mom said I was "lazy". Strange as it sounds I've heard of it happening so many times, but still don't understand it myself, guess i never will.

rhaevyn · 02-13-2005, 11:52 AM

My cousin didn't know until her 7th or 8th month that she was pregnant. She didn't gain any weight, didn't show any signs. She still bled every month. Apparently, she wasn't supposed to be able to have kids. *shrugs*

pinkie · 02-13-2005, 12:08 PM

I have no idea how this could happen. I knew I was pregnant even before I was 4 weeks pregnant!

wolf · 02-13-2005, 04:51 PM

Possible, yes, pretty damn hard not to realize, also yes, but it is possible.

Samalie · 02-14-2005, 07:48 AM

My wife, with out last child, took 4 months before she realized she was pregnant.

The worst of the symptoms she experienced was slight nausea & fatigue - and even though we were trying for a baby, because she kept having a period she never realized.

Finally, and it was about 4 months in, she thought she should try a pregnancy test due to the secondary symptoms, and we found out she was pregnant.

Now, I cant imagine her going to term like that - baby was kicking constantly after about the 5th month & she would have known - but it did take us a while

bad jane · 02-14-2005, 08:20 AM

i had a cousin who didn't realize she was pregnant, despite having 5 children previously. noone had a clue until she died and the autopsy revealed she was about 7 months along. she wasn't in denial and trying to convince herself she wasn't pregnant, she simply didn't have any symptoms like she did with her previous children.

i've known several women who had no idea until they started to show. one woman actually thought she had cancer (though in her defense, both her and her husband had been "fixed" about 10 years prior).

and some women don't show much, if at all. one girl i work with kept telling everyone she was pregnant--but she didn't show at all. and when i say she didn't show, i mean she did not show--everyone thought she was making it up. she came to the hospital to give birth wearing her size 6 jeans.

KinkyKiwi · 02-14-2005, 11:16 AM

my birth mother got pregnant with me while on the pill (never missing 1) and had her period untill the 6th/7th month...she really just thought that she was getting chubby and lived on diet soda untill she felt a kick then took a test and only then did she realize i existed

alicat · 02-14-2005, 09:55 PM

What I remember vividly about my one and only pregnancy 11 yrs. ago is the really undescribable feeling that comes with your uterus slowly expanding above and out from the pelvic bones. Like a very long (and by long I mean day by day, month by month) building and omniprescent ache. Not really pain but a barely there sensation. (I'm curious, to all you other gals who have had babies, is this a normal part of pregnancy that never gets talked about?).

Just based on that sensation alone I find it hard to believe a woman wouldn't know she was pregnant. And a baby kicking doesn't exactly feel like mere gas bubbles moving through your intestines, it's more like the infamous gut busting scene in the movie "Alien", like there is (and there is) some foreign being pushing on you from the inside out (without the blood, gore and pain of course!).

I think in the case of women like this, it's simply mind over body. They don't want to acknowledge they are pregnant and somehow convince themselves they aren't, even though the fact is indesputable.

Ali

absorbentishe · 02-15-2005, 06:45 PM

All women are different, and feel different things with each pregnancy. There have been cases where very large women don't know their preggers at all, until they deliver. My wife's aunt, was pregnant 3 times, and didn't know until a few days before. Just remember, all people feel different things, at different times, so yes, it is possible to not feel preggers, and be pregnant.

02-11-2005, 06:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
Camelbackcinema Upright	How can a female not realize she's pregnant? This might take a bit to set up, but here goes. On New Year's Eve this year I went to a party, and this girl kept hitting on me. She made it quite clear that she wanted sex. I spurned her advances because I thought that she was pregnant, and I didn't want to 'go there', for lack of a better term. So I avoided the issue, and eventually got her to leave me alone, but on good terms. Then 2 or 3 days later I asked some friends about her, and they said that she wasn't pregnant. So I thought I blew my chances, and was bummed at 'fumbling' so badly. Finally about 2.5 weeks ago, she actually had her baby, while she was in her bed. She claimed to not have known she was pregnant. Does anybody think this is possible? A female opinion would be greatly appreciated.

02-11-2005, 07:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	I have mentioned this before... Back when I was in college, I had a roommate for a semester, who was a hard drinkin' cheerleader. One night, before we were going out to a party -- she was doubled over in pain and we thought she was going to die or something she was in such pain... Now, we weren't stupid, she hadn't gained a lot of weight, absolutely did not look pregnant. Imagine our surprise when we took her to the hospital and she gave birth to a healthy 5 pound baby boy. Denial is a beautiful thing, she convinced herself she wasn't pregnant, she got her period every month, she never stopped drinking or smoking or cheering... She wan't pregnant, until the night she went into labor. Heard from her a few years ago-- that surprise baby was graduating from high school and was going, on full scholarship, to college. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

02-12-2005, 11:23 AM	#14 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	If a woman continues to get her period and doesn't get morning sickness/backache/legache/much weight gain/swollen breasts I guess she wouldn't know she was pregnant. However....once the baby started kicking, how do you explain that away??? __________________ "They say that patriotism is the last refuge to which a scoundrel clings; steal a little and they throw you in jail, steal a lot and they make you king" Formerly Medusa

02-12-2005, 02:47 PM	#17 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	Depends how fat you are... an elbow can disappear in fat... __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

02-12-2005, 02:47 PM	#18 (permalink)
guthmund big damn hero	I've seen both extremes. A friend of mine absolutely refused to believe she was pregnant despite several visits to the doctor that informed her otherwise. She suffered from morning sickness, gained weight, basically underwent all the physical changes that accompany pregnancy, but she kept menstrating. It wasn't until her boyfriend (the kid's father) took her to get an ultrasound and she actually saw the kid with her own eyes that she accepted that she was pregnant. One of my cousins went the other direction. Despite contrary evidence, she believed she was pregnant. She rebuffed the negative pregnancy tests, the doctor's opinion and such with what seemed like perfectly sound logic. Pregnancy tests are fallable and doctor's can be wrong. It went on for about six months, when for whatever reason, she quietly let the subject drop. I guess we (humans) can rationalize just about anything if we put our minds to it. __________________ No signature. None. Seriously.

02-11-2005, 07:21 PM	#3 (permalink)
lazygirl Upright Location: northern cal	gosh, its hard to know, I knew both times pretty darn close to conception that I was pg??

02-11-2005, 07:43 PM	#5 (permalink)
NCB Junkie Location: Tobacco Road	People in denial can believe (or not believe) anything they want to.

02-11-2005, 08:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
Meridae'n Loose Cunt Location: North Bondi RSL	I guess the mind is far more influential on our bodies than we realise. I've heard of this before, but didn't know the girl. It was in high school, and we put it down to the fact she was obese at the time. It's damn hard for us guys to wrap our minds around this...

02-11-2005, 08:11 PM	#7 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	It's hard for me to wrap my mind around it too! I mean, I hear these stories but it's very hard to imagine that one wouldn't know. I've been pregnant a few times, and I felt so different that I'd liken it to being possessed by an alien being (which it is actually). The exploding hormones, the mood swings, the puking, the deep sense of wrongness about it all...who wouldn't notice?

02-11-2005, 08:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
analog Banned	Symptoms are symptoms, not hard and fast rules. There are many women who never get the pains, the sickness, the loss of period- not every single pregnant woman has all of these things. It can definitely happen- as long as she's willing to ignore the growth, that is.

02-11-2005, 08:25 PM	#9 (permalink)
Squishor Frontal Lobe Location: California	I know it varies from one person to another...it's just that my experience has been that I knew just about right away. The first time, I literally remember getting up to go to the bathroom for some tissue and thinking, "well, that did it." It's hard to understand what seems like someone being so very out of touch with their own body. I guess everyone's different.

02-11-2005, 09:15 PM	#10 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	If a woman can make all the symptoms go away with her mind, one could infer that a woman could make all the symptoms appear with her mind, without being pregnant too. Think that's the case?

02-12-2005, 03:19 AM	#12 (permalink)
ironmaiden7o7 Insane Location: NYC	The moment someone gets pregnant, the morning sickness starts kicking, the weight gaining, the emotional craziness, and the total change overall. I can't see how a woman would have no clue that she is pregnant. Not only does the stomach starts growing, but your entire body changes and you'd have to be in denial not to notice. But, some women usually get their period throughout their pregnancies, in that case, it's usually difficult to detect that she is pregnant.

02-12-2005, 10:36 AM	#13 (permalink)
Camelbackcinema Upright	Thanks for all the input. After talking with all my friends, we all thought she suffered from severe denial.

02-12-2005, 11:57 AM	#15 (permalink)
Lockjaw Junkie	Gas maybe?

02-12-2005, 12:44 PM	#16 (permalink)
countrygal6 Upright	oh no it is way different than gas especially when you can actually see an elbow pop out.

02-12-2005, 05:41 PM	#20 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	You probably could pass it off as gas at first, but after awhile she would be able to feel it much more strongly, and even if she couldn't see the movement (I rarely saw my son when he was kicking). __________________ "They say that patriotism is the last refuge to which a scoundrel clings; steal a little and they throw you in jail, steal a lot and they make you king" Formerly Medusa

02-12-2005, 06:48 PM	#21 (permalink)
Zephyr66 My custom title's the shit! Location: Canada	I've never heard of this kind of thing before, it really amazes me.

02-12-2005, 07:23 PM	#23 (permalink)
Apache Insane	A girl I know had a baby in Aug. '04 and she says she didn't know she was pregnant until she was going into her 6th month. I couldn't beleive that myself but who knows what people think or why I guess. I'm 8 months pregnant now and my baby NEVER quits moving and kicking me, and has been since around 19 weeks, but I know not all babies are like that either. My mom said I was "lazy". Strange as it sounds I've heard of it happening so many times, but still don't understand it myself, guess i never will.

02-13-2005, 11:52 AM	#24 (permalink)
rhaevyn Insane Location: Pittsburgh, PA	My cousin didn't know until her 7th or 8th month that she was pregnant. She didn't gain any weight, didn't show any signs. She still bled every month. Apparently, she wasn't supposed to be able to have kids. shrugs __________________ ~Alex~ You've come far, and though you're far from the end, you don't mind where you are, 'cause you know where you've been.

02-13-2005, 12:08 PM	#25 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	I have no idea how this could happen. I knew I was pregnant even before I was 4 weeks pregnant!

02-13-2005, 04:51 PM	#26 (permalink)
wolf Ravenous Location: Right Behind You	Possible, yes, pretty damn hard not to realize, also yes, but it is possible. __________________ Thousands of years ago, cats were worshipped as Gods. Cats have never forgotten this.

02-14-2005, 07:48 AM	#27 (permalink)
Samalie Tilted Location: Edmonton, Canada	My wife, with out last child, took 4 months before she realized she was pregnant. The worst of the symptoms she experienced was slight nausea & fatigue - and even though we were trying for a baby, because she kept having a period she never realized. Finally, and it was about 4 months in, she thought she should try a pregnancy test due to the secondary symptoms, and we found out she was pregnant. Now, I cant imagine her going to term like that - baby was kicking constantly after about the 5th month & she would have known - but it did take us a while

02-14-2005, 08:20 AM	#28 (permalink)
bad jane Insane	i had a cousin who didn't realize she was pregnant, despite having 5 children previously. noone had a clue until she died and the autopsy revealed she was about 7 months along. she wasn't in denial and trying to convince herself she wasn't pregnant, she simply didn't have any symptoms like she did with her previous children. i've known several women who had no idea until they started to show. one woman actually thought she had cancer (though in her defense, both her and her husband had been "fixed" about 10 years prior). and some women don't show much, if at all. one girl i work with kept telling everyone she was pregnant--but she didn't show at all. and when i say she didn't show, i mean she did not show--everyone thought she was making it up. she came to the hospital to give birth wearing her size 6 jeans.

02-14-2005, 11:16 AM	#29 (permalink)
KinkyKiwi "Without the fuzz" Location: ..too close for comfort..	my birth mother got pregnant with me while on the pill (never missing 1) and had her period untill the 6th/7th month...she really just thought that she was getting chubby and lived on diet soda untill she felt a kick then took a test and only then did she realize i existed __________________ Some mornings, it's just not worth chewing through the leather straps. Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don't play with the squirrels, they bite.

02-14-2005, 09:55 PM	#30 (permalink)
alicat Baffled Location: West Michigan	What I remember vividly about my one and only pregnancy 11 yrs. ago is the really undescribable feeling that comes with your uterus slowly expanding above and out from the pelvic bones. Like a very long (and by long I mean day by day, month by month) building and omniprescent ache. Not really pain but a barely there sensation. (I'm curious, to all you other gals who have had babies, is this a normal part of pregnancy that never gets talked about?). Just based on that sensation alone I find it hard to believe a woman wouldn't know she was pregnant. And a baby kicking doesn't exactly feel like mere gas bubbles moving through your intestines, it's more like the infamous gut busting scene in the movie "Alien", like there is (and there is) some foreign being pushing on you from the inside out (without the blood, gore and pain of course!). I think in the case of women like this, it's simply mind over body. They don't want to acknowledge they are pregnant and somehow convince themselves they aren't, even though the fact is indesputable. Ali __________________ 'Beware the Jabberwock, my son! The jaws that bite, the claws that catch! Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun, The frumious Bandersnatch!'--Jabberwocky, Lewis Carroll "You cannot do a kindness too soon because you never know how soon it will be too late."--Ralph Waldo Emerson

02-15-2005, 06:45 PM	#31 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	All women are different, and feel different things with each pregnancy. There have been cases where very large women don't know their preggers at all, until they deliver. My wife's aunt, was pregnant 3 times, and didn't know until a few days before. Just remember, all people feel different things, at different times, so yes, it is possible to not feel preggers, and be pregnant.