losamigos

my girl loves it but i have a prob with it.

i love BJs, when i can sit back, watch, and focus- however when we're in 69 i'm focused on MY JOB at hand pleasing her and my dick get's overly sensitive and i can't take it. i ususally have her just lick and kiss and that works well.

i need help, cuzz i imagine it would be wonderful if i could over come this.

thanks ahead of time.

Kalnaur

Do you mean "can't take it" as in spray semen all over her?

Because I'm not sure how to stop that, other than trying to focus in two places at once. Or muscle exercises.

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losamigos

oh no, it's not that.

i just mean't i get overly sensitive there and it doesn't feel good.

sorry about that

slimshaydee

I get that aswell. It's a mental thing. You're too busy concentrating on trying to get your girl off you can't relax and enjoy the moment. I have yet to get over the problem.

Ella

I'm not a big fan of the 69. I'd rather focus totally on my man, or be focussed totally on. 50/50 just doesn't cut it for me.

Then again...it's different girl on girl....

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StanT

It doesn't work for my wife and I, either. I can multitask just fine for other things, but not sex.

Samalie

Agreed, I'm just not a 69 guy. for me though I have the opposite problem. I become too "engrossed" in what I'm doing and basically then can go days without getting off from it.

I'd definetely much rather have my wife focus 100% on me or me 100% on her. THe 50/50 thing just leaves too much shit in the way, IMHO.

Sammy

Cimarron29414

69 - it looks cool in porn, but is mostly impractical in real life. Wifey doesn't like it at all. I think it is because she gets self-conscious with her butt that close to my nose. It's not like there is a reason for her to be self-conscious, but that doesn't matter to her. So, 69 has probably only happened 4 times in 6 years and only once to completion.

Wax_off

I'm gonna disagree about it not working. I've had girlfriends with whom it worked and others with whom it didn't. Depends on a lot of things. Body size is one of them, you have to fit together right. Also helps if it turns her on to have a dick in her mouth. If she gives head grudgingly then neither of you are going to be enjoying it.
When it works it's extremely hot. It was easy for me to time it so that we both came together.
You might try different positions, like side to side, or with her kind of half on/half off you. But if it's not working for you, then that might just be a fact that you have to live with.

Cimarron29414

If you can think of a position that keeps my nose out of her butt, she might be into it. Otherwise, no dice.

Untitled

That is exactly my problem and why I'm hesitant about trying this... Or, you know, I could just get over it. We'll see...

Coppertop

My girl doesn't really like 69 for the reaosns stated above, she cannot concentrate. I never really understood it, but accept it. Me? It's all good. I'm up for whatever.

I guess practice is the way to go. Keep trying and you may find yourself getting more used to it over time.

ratbastid

It's fun as a warm-up, but I have the same issue about it as most other guys--dividing my attention doesn't really work.

On the other hand, that's the one position that it's really easy for her to deep-throat from. So there's that...

Cimarron29414

Depending on your height, have her lay on her back and hang her head slightly off the side of the bed. You stand in front of her. She grabs your butt cheeks to control your thrusting. Be careful with this one - you can choke her or get puked on...

losamigos

wow, cool- so i'm not alone here.

but i envy those who can get it to work.

noodles

i guess i'm one of the lucky ones 69d all the time to start things off.
i can divide my attention pretty well.
the trick for me is to focus everything on what i'm doing, not whats being done to me.

Val_1

It's not the best for me either, but it's still enjoyable. I would gladly take 69 over a stick in the eye.

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The way I see if, if you're already naked together and sharing each other in such an intimiate way, what's the big deal if her butt is by your face? Just tell her how it's not a big deal at all, you're not bothered by it and she shouldn't be either. Communication can go a long way.

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drakers

I can't remember the last time my wife wanted to do 69, she is more into the sex than the foreplay. I'm more into the foreplay than the sex, seriously, 69 is great when we have done, I just wish we did more of that.

JumpinJesus

wow, I thought everyone did that position and loved it. My wife and I love it cause there's no waiting in line, so to speak. We often bring each other to mutual orgasm this way. It's one of our favorite things to do.

Maybe I should consider myself lucky?

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losamigos

lol, i like what jumpinjesus said, "no waiting in line". lol

man, i wish it worked for me. it must be cool.

high_way

i quite enjoy this position. when i was with my last girlfriend we both really enjoyed it. the first few times we would actually lie on our side instead of her on top and this made it easier, then once we had gotten comfortable with that she would lie on top.

like JP, we would usually get each other to mutual orgasm. we also both liked going down on each other and the fact that we were doing something we liked and having something done to us was also a major factor.

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webfiend

Definitely lucky. Very lucky indeed.

little_tippler

That made me laugh.

69 Works fine for me and my boyfriend, it's so intense it makes me that much hornier. We always have a good time with 69.

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Blackthorn

Boy oh boy oh boy do I miss having a girlfriend/wife/buddy with priveledges....

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ruggerp11

I <3 it a lot. Its the fact that I love giving more than I like recieving and that if I'm not concentrating solely on getting head, I can very easily last longer. The best thing is when you'er doing a very good job and she has to stop just to breathe. So fucking hot. I also love it when shes on top and can really push into me. Ok I hope I dont' have to stand up at work now...

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Uuudar

One main thing I have noticed is you just have to fit. My ex girlfriend and I worked proportionally. However, my current girlfriend is less than five foot and I'm a bit over six foot so it just doesn't work with us. I quite enjoy it but the girls I have done it with say that they cannot concentrate like they would like to on giving me head. I definatly think it's a lot of fun but not an everyday thing.

KingOtter67

Ditto. Wish I could add more than that, but ... just, ditto.

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fresnelly

I totally dig it. I find that being er, 'immersed' in the act allows us both to relax and begin to heat things up.

That said, it's just a transition position which helps switch gears, and my wife and I only spend a few minutes at it.

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Jinn

I have this problem ..well... all the time, to be honest. Its especially hard (the situation, not my penis) for me because my SO has never gotten off. That said, 69 is quite an interesting foray into the world of LOVIN!

For OP: Try thinking about it directly and the tickling/its too much sensation goes away -- sometimes.

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Axiom_e

Yeah I never saw the 69 postion as one to use for climaxing. I always assumed that it was a transitory position or the thing to do right after foreplay.

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Nothing better than eating your woman out as she gives you head.

hunnychile

SHeeeeeesh...such a "problem" I'd love to have!!

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cellophanedeity

Though I enjoy 69, I'd rather just give or recieve. That way I can devote myself to paying attention to what I'm feeling and doing.

I tend to prefer to have one leg straight, and the other against the wall, while I'm on my side... I can't explain it really, but take into consideration that I'm quite flexible and have good leg strength.

aberkok

I don't think anyone should worry about not being able to enjoy it. People are all different and I definitely count myself among those who like to focus on the task at hand. In a sense, those who can enjoy 69 are lucky, but nobody should worry too much if you can't.

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