For the Guys: Assignment for the weekend
 

(yes I brought this ide over from the ladies lounge so if you wanna see the roots its here http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=80947 but remember not to post in it!!!)

I dont think some guys (not all, some of you are the type that are WELL aware what this can mean to a girl) really understand what it can do for a woman when they are called beautiful. Its different from being called sexy, attractive, hot, etc. I know for me when Dave says it it makes me all tingly and I stand a little taller (kinda hard to do since Im only 5'2 but you know what I mean lol)

So at some point this weekend, out of the blue, (those of you that dont already do it) tell your SO she's beautiful and see what happens!!! :thumbsup:

I do it daily so its probably lost some of its effect, but seriously, there are at least 2 to 3 times every day where I see my SO in these little "moments" where she is, absolutely beautiful. I'm totally in love. :)

i call my woman beautiful a handful of times during the day. i like to use it as kind of a nickname....like if we are going out..."ok beautiful, are you ready to go?" she likes it...which makes me happy.

Not to discourage anyone from complimenting anyone else (SO or not) but i would prefer an honest unsolicited compliment over a blanket "you're beautiful" given (potentially at least) with a lack of sincerity.

With that in mind i'd like to encourage everyone (not just guys) to be more aware of the people around you and more freely voice the compliments that naturally occur to you.

I rarely bring out the 'beautiful' guns as much as I probably should, but last night as I was going to bed, I was looking at a picture of my wife and I on our wedding day, and I went to her and said 'do you know what? You were a beautiful bride.' I later clarified that I still think she's beautiful, but in particular, on our wedding day, she was radiant.

As for what happens? I went to bed and she watched the rest of ER.

Whenever I do that, she gets suspicious.

:lol:

Actually I make a habit of using beautiful or gorgeous... You have to be careful who your saying it to. Using it to frequently or to the wrong person can give people the creepy vibe

I told my gf she was beautiful last night. It put a big smile on her face. I have no problem doing it again this weekend as I'm sure she still will be.

Only say it when you mean it...

All I can say is that experience has taught me to keep my thoughts to myself when it comes to relationships. More often than not, women act like they want to know what their man thinks and feels, but they can't handle what's really going on in our heads.

That may be true about a lot of women, but not all of us......especially me

So secrecy is the key to a strong relationship?

Well if that works for you...good luck man. Seems counterintuitive to me.

I say it to my wife quite frequently... she thinks I say it because she is my wife... she just doesn't seem to get the fact that I think she's beautiful.

I just ignore her insecurities and keep telling her... of course sometimes I have to pull out the big guns and show her the erection she's given me but that just makes her roll her eyes...

I have no SO, but I call women "beautiful" and "gorgeous" all the time. Not all women, but ones that attract me, and I know it wont offend.

i ALWAYS called my SO's beautiful. beause i know it's important, and i think it's important too, and they were beautiful! but alas, i don't have an SO anymore. :-(

sometimes i just have to stare in awe at my girlfriend and how beautiful she is and i say it too ("you're beautiful").

i have yet to get the response i want. usually she shrugs it off and BARELY blushes (lol) or doesn't say anything. she's pretty self-conscious so i guess that's hurt her esteem. dunno. i say it about every day too.

well if it doesnt make your women just wanna jump all over you then I must be a freak, cause thats what it does to me :lol:

I'm in!

I'll report back after I do it...

Of course secrecy is not conducive to a strong relationship. However, it has been my experience that some things are better left unsaid because most women seem unable to cope with the truth when they pose certain questions pertaining to a man's thoughts as well as his past.

I just rang my gf and I said
"guess what"
and she said "what"
and I said "you're beautiful"
and she said "aww thats cute"

it does work.

That's it -- the two of you are pod people and have replaced my husband and me. LOL :lol:

I don't have an SO, but I may try it on a stranger and I'll let you know how it goes. :D

I've always had difficulty saying something like "Wow, you're beautiful"... I tried saying it to a girl the other day, and it just wouldn't come out. I could say just about anything else to the girl, but not the "you're beautiful" line. I'll probably try to give it a try again tommorow. And damn, she is beautiful :crazy:

I've told my wife on several occassions that I think she's cute and I meant it in a very positive way. She wasn't duly impressed by that, and said she would rather be thought beautiful. In my male mind there are 2 kinds of attractive women; those that are what I call classic beauties like Charlize Theron and those that are "cute" attractive like say Drew Barrymore. I don't put one above the other, they're just different kinds of attractive and equal in my opinion.

Are there other men here that classify attractiveness in a similar manner?

As a female, I'd agree with that.

Yeah, I think of girls different ways like that, although different types do have higher abilities to sexually attract me normally. Plus, cute can have really wide-ranging meaning. I mean, a rat can be cute, but I don't think your wife wants to be compared to a rat (who knows? She might though).

aint that the truth :crazy:

I just called and told her (we're not in the same country right now) and she said that's sweet. Then she said that a modelling agency had told her the same thing an hour ago.

That's sweet -- I'm cynical - someone ever said that to me - -I wouldn't say that's cute, I'd say What'd you do? :D

there's a sort of ranking system for me... i haven't really thought about it too much but certain adjectives mean more than others when i talk about someone's attractiveness. (forget about me talking about the lack there of...)

- attractive
- pretty
- cute

come to think of it, i hardly ever compliment on people's looks. it's more specific for me in the way they have their hair or shoes.

when i compliment guys though... i usually say he is hot or sexy just for the fun of it.

just tried it... her reaction...

"I don't think i'm beutiful, but i wouldn't class myself as a minger either."

But generally, she perked up when i said it.

Cool - gotta try this more often :D

I don't have a SO otherwise I would. I use that word a lot..and I mean it. I have noticed that it does make girls feel on cloud nine for at least a few minutes though. Another thing I've noticed REALLY makes them feel special is if you give them something unexpected...doesn't even have to be something big. Knew this gorgeous sophmore when I was in HS a couple a years ago and one day she just randomly said "I have got to get the lyrics to "Here Is Gone" by the Goo Goo Dolls!" so I thought hmm I can get those for her so that night I looked em up online and printed em out for her and gave em to her the next day. Put a really big smile on her face I was surprised I mean it's just lyrics on paper. I think that made her feel really good..probably for the rest of the school day. I guess it was more the gesture than the gift itself eh? I'd recommend trying that out too(random unexpected gift) with the Beautiful..then she'll feel twice as good :).

Asta!!

Compliments of ANY kind go a long way!

Shani this was a fabulous thread idea, i've been slacking on my posting lately so i missed it :(

ANY compliments, whether they be based on her looks, if she smells great that day, or if you admire the way she heats up your leftovers... let her know that something she does/says or how she acts is attractive to you.

My mood goes from shit to walking on a rainbow at things like this. *blushes.

Thing is whenever I get the guts to call someone beautiful (unless it's my SO), I usually end up stuttering or something and turning it into a funny moment rather than a romantic one. I'll be like, "Hey what's up bootiful!" Or, "You're sub ootiful." Argh I'm such a geek.

Beauty is found in the eyes of love
often reflected in act , and touch
are the words, those two
Radiant Beauty becomes your name
forcing my hand , trembling breath
language has no words for you
degraded by Lovely
insulted by Gorgeous
Beauty fails only as description

I have no word for you, so I give you my Kiss

^ I'm stealing that

Asta!!
<font size=1>j/k..no but really</font>

I agree with this 100%

well a lot of you around here are aware I try to do that all the time. This particular idea had to do with your SO only...which I would hope any compliment would be given to the most important person in your life with 100% sincerity.

I guess maybe Im just one of the few that actually REALLY enjoy being told that.

Its like yesterday when I woke up and Dave was staring at me and he told me I am my most beautiful first thing in the morning. Especially when I think I look like road kill when I wake up.

I can't believe that some people have to be told to say it to their SO. I can't help saying it at least once or twice a week. You know, like when you are supposed to be listening to something they are talking about, but you just can't stop staring at her face and sort of tuning everything out but her beauty...maybe its just me.

Sounds so clinical...just go ahead and call her beautiful. Plus, I've always thought that when you love someone, you can't help but consider them beautiful in certain situations some of the time, if not all the time?

Being beautiful is not based on physical appearance that would be statements like you look attractive or you look pretty, beauty is much deeper than that and is a statement about who the person is and what they mean to you as well as what they look like. It's an oxymoron to say you love someone but don't find them beautiful, finding the beauty in someone is a pre-requisite to loving them.

I truly beieve my wife is the most woman I have ever met (or even seen). I am in constant awe that one as beautiful - chose me. I will frequently comment on her phyiscal and spiritual beauty. I don't make such a comment for a specific result - it just describes how I feel.

Truth is I usually get a frown and a suspicious glance that says, "oh sure, you just want to get laid ..." This, I believe, is the unfortunate by product of marriage and other distractions. Cest la vie. Whether she believes it or not, she's hot!

It's true, real beauty is within. If you are in love, you can't help but see the beauty of your SO, and looks are ultimately neither here nor there.

I end up saying 'you're beautiful' most days, in one form or another, because my SO's beauty goes from her skin to the core.

Other words can go in place of beautiful, if you feel you need to work up to the big B. Amazing, wonderful, breathtaking, magnificent, awe-inspiring, stunning... they all have a nice effect. Say it when it occurs to you. And believe it when you say it, because if you're in love, then it's true.

ratbastid tells me all the time that I'm beautiful. I used to not believe him, but now I just smile broadly and say "Thank you! And you're sexy!". Sometimes I still think he's a bit of a nutter - like when he tells me I'm beautiful when I've just woken up and I forgot to take off my eye makeup the night before and have racoon eyes and rooster hair and sheet lines on my face, but you know what? I think he's pretty gorgeous when he just wakes up to, so there must be something there that goes beyond whether you'd take a good passport photo at that moment. And the other morning I caught sight of myself in the mirror with rooster hair and racoon eyes and know what? I looked pretty damn good! :)

You're absolutely right and she is beautiful because I do love her. It just got me to thinking a little about the word "beauty" and how it can mean different things to people; like how my wife and I perceive the word "cute". Besides, a beautiful person isn't necessarily physically beautiful. And, a man's wife may be beautiful to him but not to other men.

Hmmm.....I think the key is ongoing positive comments but limiting the over use of certain words/phrases/situations. Not sure if I am conveying this properly but I think it is important to reserve certain "things" so as to retain their special/significant qualities. Common usage becomes just that...common. I tell my wife I love her...wow..I don't know how many times each day....but catching her in the right moment and telling her how beautiful she is can have a really strong impact. For some it is commenting on beauty, for others it may be smackin her ass, whatever it is, we should all pay attention and know what little thing it is we can do or say that tells our SO how special they are to us. I am sure those special words, comments, touches, vary for each of us. But....the key is to use them and know when your partner will appreciate it. Just my lengthy .02

God I know that feeling, bring home flowers just to say I love you. The first thing out of her mouth is how nice they are and a thank you, the second thing is "What did you do?"

That's funny, I had just finished reading that forum before finding this one :)

No SO here, and I've never used the B word myself, but does pretty count? I told this one girl I was hitting on last summer that she's very pretty when she laughs. She blushed :D

you know, every now and then my boyfriend will look at me like the first day we met (ive probably only seen it a handful of times in the past year.. but thats beside the point).. and it just makes my heart melt. it really does mean a lot when my boyfriend just looks into my eyes and tells me exactly what he is thinking. i do wish it would happen more often... more often than not im left curious and wondering his thoughts toward me. many nights, ill dress up just for him, and not even get so much as a second glance before we walk out the door. i never really thought twice about it, but now that you bring it up, i'd appreciate it a bit more. wow.. some of you just sound so in love.

Hail ShaniFaye!

I forgot about this project. I went home that night and did what you said.
This is how it went down...

GH: "You are beautiful."
Mrs. GH: "What?"
GH: "I said, you are beautiful."
Mrs. GH: "I know what YOU want."
GH: "Yeah, well you are still beautiful."
Mrs. GH: "Thank you" whilst looking at me suspiciously.

My wife responded with "whatever" and went back to doing laundry.