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dogma13554u 01-09-2005 12:04 AM

Which is better?
 
Okay, it's an age old dilemma. Opposites attract, no doubt about it. It's always interesting to be with someone who has a different perspective to add. But at the same time, it's nice to be with someone who's more similar to your personality, makes life a whole lot easier. So what now?

Is it better to have the opposite and experience something different,
or is there reason like people tend to stay together?
What do you think?

CityOfAngels 01-09-2005 12:08 AM

It's good to be with opposites because they can bring new perspective to your life. It's all about balance, really. Don't settle down with someone who is your complete opposite, to avoid emotional anarchy, while also avoiding people who are exactly the same as you, to avoid living a boring ass life.

cavu 01-09-2005 12:13 AM

I agree with CityofAngels

Vincentt 01-09-2005 08:21 AM

For dating look for opposites, best way to see it all and find what you, want in life.
For marriage though, you need to look for something that can last long term, you will want a few commonalities.

Devoid 01-09-2005 08:37 AM

I think Vincentt nailed it.

st33lr4t 01-09-2005 12:19 PM

longevity is about seeing eye to eye with one another on important issues concerning the daily goings on in the relationship. as long as that is met i believe you can be opposite/same as your mate.

El Kaz 01-09-2005 01:44 PM

I tend to be more attracted by persons similar to me for dating.
I guess I'm just so good I don't need any new insights *cough* ;)

milian 01-09-2005 08:45 PM

My girlfriend and I are total opposites. We have many flaws but if you would combine us they cancel out and we will become the perfect person.

SiNai 01-09-2005 08:51 PM

A little bit of commonality is nice, that way you can do things you both enjoy together, give you something to talk about during times you're not doing anything, etc. But the differences are what makes some people really interesting. Trying new things, arguing.. err.. discussing topics you don't quite see eye to eye.. etc.

loonatic8her 01-10-2005 01:56 PM

Opposites attract... true statement... it is generally fast, furious, fun but for a long term relationship you must have equal grounds to stand on talk about etc and so on.

Sweetpea 01-10-2005 02:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vincentt
For dating look for opposites, best way to see it all and find what you, want in life.
For marriage though, you need to look for something that can last long term, you will want a few commonalities.

very true Vincentt, good point . . . you don't want to spend your life with someone who is too divergent from yourself. . . but someone who is just different enough to keep things interesting. :)

skysooner 01-11-2005 12:51 PM

The way it was described to me was this:

You can completely differ on your viewpoints on things and how you react to things, but it is how similar your personalities are that dictates if you will have an easier time being married or not. You can differ on some things (i.e. you an extrovert while she is an introvert) as long as you are alike in the majority of ways. Anything else puts a stress on the marriage. My wife and I are complete opposites in our open-mindedness and views of how the world should be, but we are just about exactly alike in our personality type. We have one of the happier marriages that we know of.

DeeTee 01-11-2005 02:33 PM

You need to have something in common, but a little tension can actually hold things together sometimes... you don't want to date your clone, nor your polar opposite.

Giant Hamburger 01-11-2005 03:02 PM

I don't think that two people like me would do very well in a relationship together.
I have known others who have had success with similar personalities.
This is one of those scenarios where there is no correct formula.
There are way too many variables in relationships that work.

Cynthetiq 01-11-2005 03:12 PM

the wife and i have lots of similar interests...

and lots of dissimilar interests.

:)

notonlybeauty 01-11-2005 04:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vincentt
For dating look for opposites, best way to see it all and find what you, want in life.
For marriage though, you need to look for something that can last long term, you will want a few commonalities.

i agree completly :thumbsup:

Konichiwaneko 01-11-2005 09:59 PM

that saying, like reading a horoscope, works by being conveniently easy to support because you make yourself believe it.

theres so much to like about girls for me, that I'm happy to concentrate on that rather then what I dislike.


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