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stevew · 12-20-2004, 04:47 PM

How often do you think it's "normal" to have sex?

high_way · 12-20-2004, 05:08 PM

simple answer (without going head long in to it)...

when ever you get it.

Coppertop · 12-20-2004, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by high_way

simple answer (without going head long in to it)...

when ever you get it.

What he said.

anleja · 12-20-2004, 05:26 PM

as long as the skin doesn't chaff from your privates due to frequency...

livingfossil · 12-20-2004, 05:40 PM

I second high_way.

snowy · 12-20-2004, 05:56 PM

I have to agree with anleja. If I had my way...every day once a day would be good, but obviously it's more along the lines of high_way's statement.

Hard8s · 12-20-2004, 06:47 PM

As often as SHE will let you.

RMMsGirl · 12-20-2004, 08:55 PM

If I had it my way I would having sex every day. But I would have to say whenever you can get it.

JStrider · 12-20-2004, 09:03 PM

haha... more = better... to a point... then it can be too much... at least once a day

high_way · 12-20-2004, 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by anleja

as long as the skin doesn't chaff from your privates due to frequency...

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Originally Posted by onesnowyowl

I have to agree with anleja. If I had my way...every day once a day would be good

haha i would love for that to be true. if only i could find another girl like the one i was on and off seeing for a little while... those were the days. *sob*...

and this brings me to another question... what is it that turns women off sex? is it that their partner isnt doing it for them or not being considerate and that you arent enjoying it?

or is it that only some women have a high sex drive and bothered if they dont have sex/masturbate and that the majority dont feel the need?

analog · 12-20-2004, 11:02 PM

As often as you can without causing physical harm or ignoring other things in life entirely.

I've done the "3-4 or more times a day" thing, it's very doable. Takes a lot out of you, though.

shortynickel · 12-20-2004, 11:04 PM

i would be happy with as much as the lurkbastards have posted on another thread

Val_1 · 12-21-2004, 10:10 AM

When I was married, once every 3 months. After I got divorced and started dating, once or twice a day. It varies quite a bit depending on the dynamic of the relationship. And both ends of the extreme can be part of a healthy relationship. But, going from almost never to twice a day is a hell of a shock. You get exhausted easy when you're not use to it.

Lucky Girl · 12-21-2004, 10:31 AM

As often as I can without causing physical harm! So yeah whenever I can get it I am happy!

ratbastid · 12-21-2004, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by shortynickel

i would be happy with as much as the lurkbastards have posted on another thread

You know, here's the thing about that, though: we run hot and cold. When we were posting frequently in that "got some" thread, we were all hot and bothered about a few things, and it was showing up in our sex life bigtime. We're down from there to maybe twice a week these days, and that's fine too.

In other words, real life is streaky. I don't think there IS a "normal" amount of sex to get. Or, it's "normal" to run hot and cold.

The only thing is, keeping your expectations from running the show. That's a one-way ticket to disappointmentville.

Acetylene · 12-21-2004, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by high_way

haha i would love for that to be true. if only i could find another girl like the one i was on and off seeing for a little while... those were the days. *sob*...

and this brings me to another question... what is it that turns women off sex? is it that their partner isnt doing it for them or not being considerate and that you arent enjoying it?

or is it that only some women have a high sex drive and bothered if they dont have sex/masturbate and that the majority dont feel the need?

I can't speak for all women but when I don't want sex it's usually because something else is wrong. Either I'm tired, depressed, my mother is in the next room, whatever. I think this is because I like sex, but don't feel a 'drive' as such... that is, I do it because I want to, not because I need to. So when I don't feel good, I just don't want to.

Of course, better sex makes me like it more, so I ask for it more often, but I will still refuse it if I'm sufficiently unhappy.

sillygirl · 12-21-2004, 11:45 AM

Right now I typically have sex at LEAST once a day. But, as Acetylene said, if I'm too tired or upset about something or sick, I don't really want it so much. There are those times though when I can be convinced..

Captain Nemo · 12-21-2004, 11:52 AM

I would agree with the once a day (actually so would my wife). However, we are on in a state of "no touchy feely" as we just found out she is pregnant and she spotted last week (baby is still fine) but the doctor doesn't want any undue stress south of the border. This could be a long 6 more months.

Glory's Sun · 12-21-2004, 11:55 AM

there is no correct answer to this question. It all depends on the people involved, how high the sex drive is, and other various factors.

pinkie · 12-21-2004, 11:59 AM

"Normal" isn't a word that relates to me, really...

longbough · 12-21-2004, 12:51 PM

Please don't aspire to "normality." Revel in your "abnormality" and you will find a better intimacy with a compatable partner.
- It doesn't matter if you have sex every other hour or make love once in a lifetime....
(next caller....)

snowy · 12-21-2004, 01:16 PM

Sheesh...I never feel like not having sex. There have been times where partners have wanted me to and I've surrendered and been the better for it. One time I had the flu and so I wasn't really wanting to do it as I felt all sick and disgusting, but when all was said and done I felt the better for it--I got better the next day! So unless I'm absolutely knackered, I'm still going to say yes and be willing. There's only one time I've turned down sex, and that was because I was exhausted, had class early the next morning, and would've had to drive across town to get it...but trust me...I seriously thought about it first.

It wasn't that I didn't want it, it was more than I knew it was better not to.

toxic515 · 12-21-2004, 02:38 PM

it all depends entirely on your relationship and or partner.. If you BOTH want it 4 times a day every day, then you're good... If you want it weekly, it's all still good, so long as your partner wants it approximately as often, and about the same time... Getting way off kilter either direction leads to lots of other problems. Me personally, about 6 times a week, with 4 of them being the weekend and missing a day somewhere is about "normal".

Faygo · 12-21-2004, 02:49 PM

NOrmal for an 18yo is 3-6 times daily with periods of nothing. Normal for a 40yo is 3-6 monthly. WTF is normal?

high_way · 12-22-2004, 03:24 AM

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Originally Posted by onesnowyowl

Sheesh...I never feel like not having sex. There have been times where partners have wanted me to and I've surrendered and been the better for it. One time I had the flu and so I wasn't really wanting to do it as I felt all sick and disgusting, but when all was said and done I felt the better for it--I got better the next day! So unless I'm absolutely knackered, I'm still going to say yes and be willing. There's only one time I've turned down sex, and that was because I was exhausted, had class early the next morning, and would've had to drive across town to get it...but trust me...I seriously thought about it first.

It wasn't that I didn't want it, it was more than I knew it was better not to.

all i can say is i wish there were more ladies like you around... i know a few but they are all my friends sadly so they are off limits...

i have also turned down sex once. she didnt do anythign for me and it was only casual and.... well yeah it was bad and i could do better by myself...

slimshaydee · 12-22-2004, 03:40 AM

There's no such thing as too much sex.

cdnjeepin · 12-22-2004, 08:44 AM

normal to my x wife was once every month or 2...ummm that wasn't normal to me, that was torture..

Aladdin Sane · 12-22-2004, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Faygo

NOrmal for an 18yo is 3-6 times daily with periods of nothing. Normal for a 40yo is 3-6 monthly. WTF is normal?

Wrong. I'm over 40 and I get nasty 2 or 3 times a week. I would do it more if my wife was up for it. Also, quality, as opposed to quantity, should count for something.

doncalypso · 12-30-2004, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by stevew

How often do you think it's "normal" to have sex?

I think people should have it at least as often as they eat---for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. And of course a few quickie "snacks" in between.

DelayedReaction · 12-30-2004, 10:40 PM

1-2 times a day.

Oh, you mean with someone else?

Still waiting for round 1... :P

monkeysugar · 12-31-2004, 12:11 AM

It's normal to have sex, it's normal not to have sex. As far as normality goes in regards to frequency, that depends on the person I'm having sex with, or not having sex with.

rickscales · 12-31-2004, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Hard8s

As often as SHE will let you.

You're leaving 3% - 5% of the males in the world high and dry here, bub.

bad jane · 12-31-2004, 08:49 AM

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Originally Posted by high_way

and this brings me to another question... what is it that turns women off sex? is it that their partner isnt doing it for them or not being considerate and that you arent enjoying it?

or is it that only some women have a high sex drive and bothered if they dont have sex/masturbate and that the majority dont feel the need?

i tend to fall in line with onesnowyowl...i want it as often as i can get it! even if i'm not "in the mood" i can be persuaded. and i find that if i have sex anyway, it's still enjoyable.

i do have a sex drive--if i go too long without sex, i get super cranky and uptight. masturbation is alright, but it only helps with getting me over a dry spell--not something i can rely on for more than a few weeks to keep me happy. many of my friends feel the same way but perhaps we're all strange

i think the only time i just really wouldn't want to have sex is when i'm pissed off. for whatever reason, i'm not real good at translating anger into sexual energy. then again, i've never had a guy ask me when i'm pissed at him.

st33lr4t · 12-31-2004, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Hard8s

As often as SHE will let you.

...im always ready and willing to hit it. my woman leaves scares where she fights me off her...LOL

12-20-2004, 04:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
stevew Upright Location: United States-Idaho	How often? How often do you think it's "normal" to have sex?

12-20-2004, 05:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
high_way Addict Location: Australia	simple answer (without going head long in to it)... when ever you get it. __________________ A stranger is just a friend you havent met yet. Impostor of the imposturous

12-20-2004, 05:40 PM	#5 (permalink)
livingfossil Tilted Location: Chicago	I second high_way. __________________ Never anything witty.

12-20-2004, 05:56 PM	#6 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	I have to agree with anleja. If I had my way...every day once a day would be good, but obviously it's more along the lines of high_way's statement. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

12-20-2004, 06:47 PM	#7 (permalink)
Hard8s Addict Location: Wherever I am!	As often as SHE will let you. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, then wipe this smile off my face!

12-20-2004, 05:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
anleja disconnected Location: ignoreland	as long as the skin doesn't chaff from your privates due to frequency...

12-20-2004, 08:55 PM	#8 (permalink)
RMMsGirl Tilted Location: Bakersfield, Ca	If I had it my way I would having sex every day. But I would have to say whenever you can get it.

12-20-2004, 09:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	haha... more = better... to a point... then it can be too much... at least once a day __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

12-20-2004, 11:02 PM	#11 (permalink)
analog Banned	As often as you can without causing physical harm or ignoring other things in life entirely. I've done the "3-4 or more times a day" thing, it's very doable. Takes a lot out of you, though.

12-20-2004, 11:04 PM	#12 (permalink)
shortynickel Addict Location: Central PA	i would be happy with as much as the lurkbastards have posted on another thread

12-21-2004, 10:10 AM	#13 (permalink)
Val_1 Addict Location: In a State of Denial	When I was married, once every 3 months. After I got divorced and started dating, once or twice a day. It varies quite a bit depending on the dynamic of the relationship. And both ends of the extreme can be part of a healthy relationship. But, going from almost never to twice a day is a hell of a shock. You get exhausted easy when you're not use to it. __________________ I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day. -Frank Sinatra

12-21-2004, 10:31 AM	#14 (permalink)
Lucky Girl Upright	As often as I can without causing physical harm! So yeah whenever I can get it I am happy! __________________ Lucky Girl

12-21-2004, 11:45 AM	#17 (permalink)
sillygirl Newlywed Location: at home	Right now I typically have sex at LEAST once a day. But, as Acetylene said, if I'm too tired or upset about something or sick, I don't really want it so much. There are those times though when I can be convinced.. __________________ Anyone can be passionate, but it takes real lovers to be silly-Rose Franken ....absence makes me miss him more...

12-21-2004, 11:52 AM	#18 (permalink)
Captain Nemo Insane Location: In a forest of red tape (but hey, I have scissors)	I would agree with the once a day (actually so would my wife). However, we are on in a state of "no touchy feely" as we just found out she is pregnant and she spotted last week (baby is still fine) but the doctor doesn't want any undue stress south of the border. This could be a long 6 more months.

12-21-2004, 11:55 AM	#19 (permalink)
Glory's Sun Registered User	there is no correct answer to this question. It all depends on the people involved, how high the sex drive is, and other various factors.

12-21-2004, 11:59 AM	#20 (permalink)
pinkie Helplessly hoping Location: Above the stars	"Normal" isn't a word that relates to me, really...

12-21-2004, 12:51 PM	#21 (permalink)
longbough Soylent Green is people. Location: Northern California	Please don't aspire to "normality." Revel in your "abnormality" and you will find a better intimacy with a compatable partner. - It doesn't matter if you have sex every other hour or make love once in a lifetime.... (next caller....)

12-21-2004, 01:16 PM	#22 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Sheesh...I never feel like not having sex. There have been times where partners have wanted me to and I've surrendered and been the better for it. One time I had the flu and so I wasn't really wanting to do it as I felt all sick and disgusting, but when all was said and done I felt the better for it--I got better the next day! So unless I'm absolutely knackered, I'm still going to say yes and be willing. There's only one time I've turned down sex, and that was because I was exhausted, had class early the next morning, and would've had to drive across town to get it...but trust me...I seriously thought about it first. It wasn't that I didn't want it, it was more than I knew it was better not to. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

12-21-2004, 02:38 PM	#23 (permalink)
toxic515 Addict Location: Texas	it all depends entirely on your relationship and or partner.. If you BOTH want it 4 times a day every day, then you're good... If you want it weekly, it's all still good, so long as your partner wants it approximately as often, and about the same time... Getting way off kilter either direction leads to lots of other problems. Me personally, about 6 times a week, with 4 of them being the weekend and missing a day somewhere is about "normal". __________________ Time flies like an arrow, fruit flies like a banana.

12-21-2004, 02:49 PM	#24 (permalink)
Faygo Banned	NOrmal for an 18yo is 3-6 times daily with periods of nothing. Normal for a 40yo is 3-6 monthly. WTF is normal?

12-22-2004, 03:40 AM	#26 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	There's no such thing as too much sex.

12-22-2004, 08:44 AM	#27 (permalink)
cdnjeepin Crazy Location: Truro, Nova Scotia	normal to my x wife was once every month or 2...ummm that wasn't normal to me, that was torture..

12-30-2004, 10:40 PM	#30 (permalink)
DelayedReaction BFG Builder Location: University of Maryland	1-2 times a day. Oh, you mean with someone else? Still waiting for round 1... :P __________________ If ignorance is bliss, you must be having an orgasm.

12-31-2004, 12:11 AM	#31 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	It's normal to have sex, it's normal not to have sex. As far as normality goes in regards to frequency, that depends on the person I'm having sex with, or not having sex with. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.