Good idea or bad idea for a gift? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

KungFuGuy · 12-15-2004, 09:17 PM

Basically i'm thinking about buying her a tiny, un obtrusive and innocent looking butt plug in addition to the normal gifts

. have never broached the anal topic with her before, but she knows i'm experimental and curious.

i figure she could A- think i'm crazy, B- laugh about it, or C- think about using it. there's probably a host of other possibilities, but B or C would work alright for me.

Anyone else have stories about such gifts that went over well or not so well? I'd share my own stories if i had them to share. after this holiday season i just might

Painted · 12-15-2004, 10:46 PM

I got this girl a dildo a few years ago. Mind you, she was kind of ..open minded when it came to sex ;-)

Nevertheless, it went well, she still shows it to me.

f6twister · 12-15-2004, 10:47 PM

No stories but I guess in your case, if you are unsure how she will react, you may want to approach the issue first and wait on the gift until next year or never depending on how she reacts.

Also, my wife would be okay receiving something like that as a birthday or even a secondary anniversary gift but for her, Christmas is different. She would be offended receiving it during a religious holiday, even though she isn't overly religious. Just something to think about.

tuffrr · 12-16-2004, 01:50 AM

I'd say get it and see how she reacts. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

You could talk about it, but then you would spoil the suprise.

aphroditeskiss1 · 12-16-2004, 02:04 AM

Ask her, as casually as possible, what she thinks about anal play. Judge whether or not to get it for her by her reaction to that.

KungFuGuy · 12-16-2004, 09:25 AM

thanks for the response guys. I'm usually of the mentality that tuffrr described. problem is putting that "asking as casually as possible" with "not spoiling the surprise"

its good pointing out that it's a religious holiday, and while i didn't think about it before, on further thought i realize she's not terribly religious at all.

Captain Nemo · 12-16-2004, 09:47 AM

If you want to add a certain "artistic" look to it (which might help it fly a little better), check out the metal ones at

www.blowfish.com

I can't remember the specific name of the artist who designed them (damn work filter software), but I got my wife the medium sized with the skull on the end of it (you have to see it to know what I am talking about). Blowfish has some seriously cool stuff.

portereight · 12-16-2004, 11:13 AM

If it's the "butt" part rather than the "toy" part that you wonder about, perhaps you could get a toy that's a little more ambiguous. If it happens to end up in someone butt I guess the subject has been broached.

AquaFox · 12-16-2004, 02:26 PM

try and start the anal topic with her.... like maybe you could slowly start playing with her anus when your with her, and if she ends up letting you finger your ass, your set

Samalie · 12-16-2004, 03:14 PM

Even if she was into the anal play, I personally just don't equate Christmas with buttplugs

Redlemon · 12-17-2004, 07:42 AM

I think I'd skip it on Christmas unless you knew it was going to go over well. How about the Winter Solstice, December 21st? "Honey, you know how today is the darkest day of the year? Up at the North Pole, they don't even see the sun all day. Speaking of places where the sun don't shine..."

Of course, you might want to be at least arm's length away from her at the time, with a clear path to the doorway.

Kumquat · 12-17-2004, 09:04 AM

Butt plug for christmas is not a good idea. Very unromantic. A butt plug just because is not a bad idea though.

typhus · 12-17-2004, 10:13 AM

Redlemon, that is too funny.
I don't think a butt plug would be a real good present for Christmas. Maybe a New Year's present?

Mr_Tickles · 12-17-2004, 10:24 AM

a Buttplug is for life, not just for Christmas.

pocon1 · 12-17-2004, 04:55 PM

Get it, makes a great stocking stuffer.

"Go on, honey. It a surprise, just past the m&ms and the candy canes"

jaded · 12-17-2004, 07:05 PM

As long as it is \"in addition to\" the other gifts, you should be fine. But make sure it\'s not the focus of your christmas gifts for her; you don\'t want this to go down her memory lane as the christmas with the plug.

AquaFox · 12-17-2004, 09:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jaded

As long as it is \"in addition to\" the other gifts, you should be fine. But make sure it\'s not the focus of your christmas gifts for her; you don\'t want this to go down her memory lane as the christmas with the plug.

well said

you don't want to hear "honey, remember that christmas you bought me that stupid butt-plug" 40 years from now, lol

snowy · 12-17-2004, 11:18 PM

If she's sexually gung-ho and ready to try new things, you can't go wrong. While I might look at my SO a little oddly if I unwrapped one myself, there's really no harm intended. If she has a sense of humor she may think it's a gag gift, so really it should be OK.

FngKestrel · 12-18-2004, 12:44 AM

Who says butt plugs aren't for Xmas?

http://www.second-skin.net/details.php?item_number=200
(SFW, more or less...uh, use your discretion)

toxic515 · 12-18-2004, 06:32 AM

"Merry Christmas sweetie... shove it up your ass" hmmm... lmao, sorry, just the first thought that popped into my mind.

KungFuGuy · 12-18-2004, 01:13 PM

well, i talked to her about it first. she's open minded about it.

, so while it wont be a crazy surprise gift, it does open up all sorts of possibilities for future ones.

some of these replies really cracked me up, i'm goign to remember them.

12-15-2004, 09:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
KungFuGuy Insane	Good idea or bad idea for a gift? Basically i'm thinking about buying her a tiny, un obtrusive and innocent looking butt plug in addition to the normal gifts . have never broached the anal topic with her before, but she knows i'm experimental and curious. i figure she could A- think i'm crazy, B- laugh about it, or C- think about using it. there's probably a host of other possibilities, but B or C would work alright for me. Anyone else have stories about such gifts that went over well or not so well? I'd share my own stories if i had them to share. after this holiday season i just might

12-15-2004, 10:47 PM	#3 (permalink)
f6twister Addict	No stories but I guess in your case, if you are unsure how she will react, you may want to approach the issue first and wait on the gift until next year or never depending on how she reacts. Also, my wife would be okay receiving something like that as a birthday or even a secondary anniversary gift but for her, Christmas is different. She would be offended receiving it during a religious holiday, even though she isn't overly religious. Just something to think about. __________________ A little rudeness and disrespect can elevate a meaningless interaction to a battle of wills and add drama to an otherwise dull day. Calvin

12-16-2004, 02:04 AM	#5 (permalink)
aphroditeskiss1 Insane Location: Albuquerque, NM	Ask her, as casually as possible, what she thinks about anal play. Judge whether or not to get it for her by her reaction to that. __________________ "You always said destiny would blow me away. But nothing's gonna blow me away"- Something Coporate " I do not pop pills! I take them and I eat them..." - Foamy's friend

12-16-2004, 02:26 PM	#9 (permalink)
AquaFox WaterDog	try and start the anal topic with her.... like maybe you could slowly start playing with her anus when your with her, and if she ends up letting you finger your ass, your set __________________ ...AquaFox...

12-17-2004, 07:42 AM	#11 (permalink)
Redlemon Devoted Donor Location: New England	I think I'd skip it on Christmas unless you knew it was going to go over well. How about the Winter Solstice, December 21st? "Honey, you know how today is the darkest day of the year? Up at the North Pole, they don't even see the sun all day. Speaking of places where the sun don't shine..." Of course, you might want to be at least arm's length away from her at the time, with a clear path to the doorway. __________________ I can't read your signature. Sorry.

12-15-2004, 10:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
Painted Pleasure Burn	I got this girl a dildo a few years ago. Mind you, she was kind of ..open minded when it came to sex ;-) Nevertheless, it went well, she still shows it to me.

12-16-2004, 01:50 AM	#4 (permalink)
tuffrr Registered User Location: On the internet	I'd say get it and see how she reacts. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. You could talk about it, but then you would spoil the suprise.

12-16-2004, 09:25 AM	#6 (permalink)
KungFuGuy Insane	thanks for the response guys. I'm usually of the mentality that tuffrr described. problem is putting that "asking as casually as possible" with "not spoiling the surprise" its good pointing out that it's a religious holiday, and while i didn't think about it before, on further thought i realize she's not terribly religious at all.

12-16-2004, 09:47 AM	#7 (permalink)
Captain Nemo Insane Location: In a forest of red tape (but hey, I have scissors)	If you want to add a certain "artistic" look to it (which might help it fly a little better), check out the metal ones at www.blowfish.com I can't remember the specific name of the artist who designed them (damn work filter software), but I got my wife the medium sized with the skull on the end of it (you have to see it to know what I am talking about). Blowfish has some seriously cool stuff.

12-16-2004, 11:13 AM	#8 (permalink)
portereight Crazy	If it's the "butt" part rather than the "toy" part that you wonder about, perhaps you could get a toy that's a little more ambiguous. If it happens to end up in someone butt I guess the subject has been broached.

12-16-2004, 03:14 PM	#10 (permalink)
Samalie Tilted Location: Edmonton, Canada	Even if she was into the anal play, I personally just don't equate Christmas with buttplugs

12-17-2004, 09:04 AM	#12 (permalink)
Kumquat Banned	Butt plug for christmas is not a good idea. Very unromantic. A butt plug just because is not a bad idea though.

12-17-2004, 10:13 AM	#13 (permalink)
typhus Tilted Location: USA	Redlemon, that is too funny. I don't think a butt plug would be a real good present for Christmas. Maybe a New Year's present?

12-17-2004, 10:24 AM	#14 (permalink)
Mr_Tickles Upright	a Buttplug is for life, not just for Christmas.

12-17-2004, 04:55 PM	#15 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	Get it, makes a great stocking stuffer. "Go on, honey. It a surprise, just past the m&ms and the candy canes"

12-17-2004, 07:05 PM	#16 (permalink)
jaded Crazy	As long as it is \"in addition to\" the other gifts, you should be fine. But make sure it\'s not the focus of your christmas gifts for her; you don\'t want this to go down her memory lane as the christmas with the plug.

12-17-2004, 11:18 PM	#18 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	If she's sexually gung-ho and ready to try new things, you can't go wrong. While I might look at my SO a little oddly if I unwrapped one myself, there's really no harm intended. If she has a sense of humor she may think it's a gag gift, so really it should be OK. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

12-18-2004, 12:44 AM	#19 (permalink)
FngKestrel Junkie	Who says butt plugs aren't for Xmas? http://www.second-skin.net/details.php?item_number=200 (SFW, more or less...uh, use your discretion)

12-18-2004, 06:32 AM	#20 (permalink)
toxic515 Addict Location: Texas	"Merry Christmas sweetie... shove it up your ass" hmmm... lmao, sorry, just the first thought that popped into my mind. __________________ Time flies like an arrow, fruit flies like a banana.

12-18-2004, 01:13 PM	#21 (permalink)
KungFuGuy Insane	well, i talked to her about it first. she's open minded about it. , so while it wont be a crazy surprise gift, it does open up all sorts of possibilities for future ones. some of these replies really cracked me up, i'm goign to remember them.