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Tirian 12-09-2004 01:55 PM

Is BJ more casual/common than cunni ?
 
I was wondering how people feel.

Is there a double standard, and if there is, should there not be? My understanding of current trends is that it is farily common practice for a woman to give her man a blowjob from time to time as a treat. From discussion in here and elsewhere this can happen outside the context of "bedroom sex" (for lack of a better term) Basically it sounds to me like the BJ may be the only activity for that session and does not have to lead to other things including intercourse or a return of oral favours for example.

I have not heard much said about a reverse situation where the guy gives his woman oral sex, in a context of no returns or other activities expected.

Is this the way things are ? Am I the only one who believes this to be the way things are ?

Please write if you think this is a regular occurance in todays society, and or if it is in your life.

Curious question...

Bill O'Rights 12-09-2004 01:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tirian
My understanding of current trends is that it is farily common practice for a woman to give her man a blowjob from time to time as a treat.

Hmmm...I must inform Mrs. O'Rights of this "fairly common practice". :D

Tirian 12-09-2004 02:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bill O'Rights
Hmmm...I must inform Mrs. O'Rights of this "fairly common practice". :D


Remember I said, "my understanding". I could easily be wrong.

AquaFox 12-09-2004 02:01 PM

i believe that oral sex should be the same both ways....

i think that most people take a blowjob as the first sexual act in a relationship... since it's not really as big of a deal as anything else... other than hand jobs... i'm assuming girls on average arn't as confortable having a mens mouth all over and in there gentials.....


i like to keep it equal in my relationships... oral for oral, and a kiss for a kiss

Sugar&Spice 12-09-2004 02:10 PM

I'll occasionally give my boyfriend bj's and not expect anything in return nor does it lead into anything else. But now that I stop and think about this, he has never given me oral just to get me off. It always accompanies foreplay.

primal 12-09-2004 02:15 PM

For me it always happens because I'm horny and she's not. She doesn't want to have sex so she gives me a blowjob. The opposite has never happened because I'm never unwilling to have sex.

nowthen 12-09-2004 03:01 PM

primal hit the nail on the head. my wife can get out my dick, suck away, swallow it down, and end of story. if i ever start to give my wife oral... it never ends there....

Coppertop 12-09-2004 03:04 PM

Unfortunately, my girl is slightly adverse to going down on me. She's never refused, but she's never really liked it. I, however, go down on her all the time. Not fair I say! :|

edit - I'll go down on her 'till she climaxes, and I don't expect anything in return (at least not necessarily right then and there). I guess that makes me the example you said you don't hear much (any?) of.

kutulu 12-09-2004 03:14 PM

I get casual oral much more than I give it. I do make attempts but it almost always ends up with her returning the favor or us just having sex after she orgasms.

uncle_el 12-09-2004 03:51 PM

i have no problem at all giving a woman casual oral sex... but in my experience, women aren't always for getting casual oral sex. it's as if they expect it to be followed by sex. perhaps they've been accustomed to this "routine" and thus that's what they expect.

on the other hand, we men can whip something out, be handled, tuck it away and be done with it. perhaps because women don't have this same ease of access, it's complicated the issue. :shrug:

la petite moi 12-09-2004 03:53 PM

I haven't gone down on nwlinkvxd for quite some time, mostly because he takes forEVER to orgasm and my jaw hurts too badly by that time AND his cum tastes SOOOO bad.

I've been mostly the one getting oral these days.

indigochild111 12-09-2004 04:04 PM

As Elwood said to me recently, I've been goin down on him a lot more lately. I dunno..I'm not so comfortable with it being the other way around.

Cept this one time...when I was..umm..slightly tipsy hahaha ;)

He does try, but I think it's like nowthen said...it's an easy solution if I ever didn't want sex...(which is hardly EVER) or ( more likely) we can't have sex. Ex...while we're driving :-D

Mmm road head haha

Tirian 12-09-2004 04:31 PM

very interesting - thanks for the comments so far.

Interesting ... there are a number of guys who give casual oral, but
to date ... no women recieve casual oral.

high_way 12-09-2004 07:37 PM

with my last partner it was both. she would give me a blowjob that would lead to more or just cause she wanted to and i would do the same. i remember one time we were watching tv and i was bored so i went down on her on the couch.

we had sex later, but after the end of the movie...

Val_1 12-09-2004 07:49 PM

Both should be a part of any relationship, IMHO.

f6twister 12-09-2004 08:03 PM

I have tried casual oral on my wife but I'm always asked for more because she gets turned on. She is almost always ready to go down on me and even asks if I want it out of the blue. I can't argue with that kind of service.

doncalypso 12-09-2004 08:45 PM

I am in a bit of an ironic situation because I do like to eat pussy but I haven't gone down on my girlfriend in ages because of conflicting vies on personal hygiene.

I am the kind fo guy who willl shower at least twice a day, and I'm very conscious of keeping my genitals clean if we're gonna have any kind of sexual contact. My girlfriend on the other hand does not believe in showering twice a day, and if she showers at night and has a night of hot sex with me she won't bother to shower in the morning even though I cum inside of her and that we sweat during sex.
I come from a hot country where people sweat all the time and must shower regularly if body odor is not to become an issue---no matter how much I love a woman I just can't see myself eating the pussy if she doesn't keep it clean (and I don't mean douching).

Another beef I have with my girlfriend is that she rarely goes down on me, and if she does get my dick anywhere near my mouth it's usually just a tease. This pisses me off enormously because she used to give her ex-boyfriend lots of oral sex (she's told it to her roomie, and her roomie has told me), and now she rarely goes down on me so I don't see why I should bother going down on her.

If at least she'd shower twice a day and every morning after we've had a night of sex then I'd be more open to the idea.

MSD 12-09-2004 10:25 PM

A quick BJ is easier to do because you don't have to take your pants off. I'd like to see someone try to give a woman oral throught the fly of her pants. That one would almost certainly end up posted here as a porn blooper.

Catmandu 12-10-2004 06:41 AM

I love doing casual oral on my wife. It probably happens a couple of times a month. I think it's a very loving thing to do, showing that nothing is demanded in return.

Prince 12-10-2004 04:55 PM

I don't get casual BJs, and I don't lick her pussy at random, either.

I would like to give and receive casually, but to her sex is a whole production and more/less confined to the bedroom, so...

Coppertop 12-10-2004 05:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrSelfDestruct
A quick BJ is easier to do because you don't have to take your pants off. I'd like to see someone try to give a woman oral throught the fly of her pants. That one would almost certainly end up posted here as a porn blooper.

Skirt, no panties: problem solved. :thumbsup:

snowy 12-10-2004 05:21 PM

I think it's because receiving oral sex for a woman has some emotional issues tied to it. For me, in order to receive and enjoy, I have to be very comfortable with my partner and trusting. If we don't have that, I'm not gonna let him near my crotch. As for going down on him...well, I love it, and quite honestly a guy is hardpressed to keep me away from his crotch. ;) It stands alone and makes good foreplay. :)

Coppertop 12-10-2004 05:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by onesnowyowl
I think it's because receiving oral sex for a woman has some emotional issues tied to it. For me, in order to receive and enjoy, I have to be very comfortable with my partner and trusting. If we don't have that, I'm not gonna let him near my crotch. As for going down on him...well, I love it, and quite honestly a guy is hardpressed to keep me away from his crotch. ;) It stands alone and makes good foreplay. :)

Grammar? :thumbsup:
Spelling? :thumbsup:
Future English teacher? :thumbsup:
Love fellatio? :thumbsup:

I think I'm in :love:

Jonsgirl 12-10-2004 05:31 PM

I think this is kinda of tricky, because I don't believe that any sexual act is *casual.* But for the purpose of this thread, I'll go along.
It's easier for a guy to get casual blows because that's all it needs to be for them. It's out, it's going, it's over, thanks.
For a woman, it's like an appetizer. If we get a little, we want more. I also think that women tend to think of cunnilingus as more intamate the blowjobs. Come to think of it, I think women have a whole slew of hangups ( I know they're not hangups, per se. -just they analyse it way more) about oral sex.

Aladdin Sane 12-10-2004 07:15 PM

I'm not real interested in blowjobs, but I'm always up for cunnilingus. As for "casual" cunnilingus, I can't see it, certainly not to completion. In my experience, it takes a fair while for the ladies to finish, which makes it unlikely as a quick hors d'oeuvre before Christmas dinner with her parents. And if it can't be a spur-of-the-moment kind of activity then I can't see calling it "casual."

WillySJU 12-10-2004 08:06 PM

The main reason I get the occasional blow-job but don't return the favor is that my wife doesn't really fell comfortable with it. She also has a lot of problems with yeast infections etc..., so it ususally isn't too pleasant...
:|

777 12-11-2004 01:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tirian
Interesting ... there are a number of guys who give casual oral, but to date ... no women recieve casual oral.

Quote:

Originally Posted by onesnowyowl
I think it's because receiving oral sex for a woman has some emotional issues tied to it.

hmmm... Is it not so casual for women?

Tirian 12-14-2004 02:43 PM

results of the poll....

of the TFP ladies that replied - 80% will give thier man a bj (Yay!)
of the TFP ladies - 70% do not recieve a casual oral session.

of the TFP guys - 75% give casual oral (interesting that only 30% women recieve)
of the TFP guys - 57% recieve casual bj from their women.

This of course is very un-scientific.

Does anyone know any actual stats gathered by researchers that might relate to this topic ?

Tracybrian 12-14-2004 03:28 PM

Getting a bj from my wife is like pulling teeth. She makes it like I owe her big for it. I dont know why but I live for the casual bj.

Knoweffects 12-14-2004 09:23 PM

i think more ppl need to get rid of there hangups about oral, guys and girls, its far safer, reasonably easy to get incredibly good at, and less physical, ahh bringing lazy to a whole new level 8D

xxSquirtxx 12-14-2004 09:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tirian
Interesting ... there are a number of guys who give casual oral, but
to date ... no women recieve casual oral.

Not so. I voted that my man gives me casual oral, and in fact there are five votes in that category.

Tirian 12-15-2004 02:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xxSquirtxx
Not so. I voted that my man gives me casual oral, and in fact there are five votes in that category.

Yes, but the time that I wrote this comment was early in the poll, and at that time, non of you had yet voted.

ICER 12-15-2004 07:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Catmandu
I love doing casual oral on my wife. It probably happens a couple of times a month. I think it's a very loving thing to do, showing that nothing is demanded in return.

It's the same way with my wife and I. I love going down on her.

qweds 12-16-2004 12:41 AM

she love giving, i have to beat her off sometimes ;)

she almost exclusivley orgasms vaginally and so doesnt get much of a give from cuni, maybe i'm just lucky

aphroditeskiss1 12-16-2004 02:35 AM

i'm assuming girls on average arn't as confortable having a mens mouth all over and in there gentials.....

AquaFox, not to be rude, but you are so wrong. Girls love recieving oral, and in general, guys need to do it more! Every time a girl give a guy a BJ, he should recipricate. Not nessicarily at that exact time, but still....come on...we like oral play just as much as you guys.


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