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shenji · 11-23-2004, 05:34 PM

Hi all, been a tfp member for sometime and try to stay current on the interesting conversation but have not posted much. Saw a lot of good people here so want to ask you guys for some help with my problem and if anyone gone through the same thing maybe can give me some pointers.

I have meet a girl back couple years ago and at first I didn't notice her much but as we get to know each other more and more I started really enjoy her company. I wasn't really sure at the time if I wanted pursue a gf/bf relationship with her due to that we were best friends I didn't know if it was such a good idea. Sometime later down the road I found out she is going out of state worrying that I will never get another chance I asked her if she would like to take another step in the relationship and become gf/bf. She told me she liked me a lot but she can not handle if we failed and the relationship didn't go right, she rather have it not happen at all rather then have it happen then fail. I try to convince her other wise but she is this kind of person. After She moved way I tried to keep in contact with her but it is always I write 3 email she write one back, so I stopped writing her after awhile trying to move on but now it is like as soon as I forget about her and move on she write me something that drag me right back. I really still do like her a lot and feel that if needed I will do whatever is needed to try to work things out but I sometime feel like I am doing all the work here yet when I try to move on she do this again to me. What do you guys think I should do to deal with this?

some confused guy ~.~

jaded · 11-23-2004, 06:36 PM

she might just not be interested in you romantically, and the whole \"not to spoil the best friends relationship\" thing could be just a very diplomatic way to say no. dont let her occasional emails lure you back into anything. view them simply as some casual communication between two friends. nothing more. she moved away, and you should move on.

wilbjammin · 11-23-2004, 07:42 PM

Well, think about why you like her?

She sounds like the "Un-Attainable"... very alluring, very alluring.

11-23-2004, 05:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
shenji Upright	Question about a strange relationship Hi all, been a tfp member for sometime and try to stay current on the interesting conversation but have not posted much. Saw a lot of good people here so want to ask you guys for some help with my problem and if anyone gone through the same thing maybe can give me some pointers. I have meet a girl back couple years ago and at first I didn't notice her much but as we get to know each other more and more I started really enjoy her company. I wasn't really sure at the time if I wanted pursue a gf/bf relationship with her due to that we were best friends I didn't know if it was such a good idea. Sometime later down the road I found out she is going out of state worrying that I will never get another chance I asked her if she would like to take another step in the relationship and become gf/bf. She told me she liked me a lot but she can not handle if we failed and the relationship didn't go right, she rather have it not happen at all rather then have it happen then fail. I try to convince her other wise but she is this kind of person. After She moved way I tried to keep in contact with her but it is always I write 3 email she write one back, so I stopped writing her after awhile trying to move on but now it is like as soon as I forget about her and move on she write me something that drag me right back. I really still do like her a lot and feel that if needed I will do whatever is needed to try to work things out but I sometime feel like I am doing all the work here yet when I try to move on she do this again to me. What do you guys think I should do to deal with this? some confused guy ~.~

11-23-2004, 07:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
wilbjammin * * *	Well, think about why you like her? She sounds like the "Un-Attainable"... very alluring, very alluring. __________________ Innominate.

11-23-2004, 06:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
jaded Crazy	she might just not be interested in you romantically, and the whole \"not to spoil the best friends relationship\" thing could be just a very diplomatic way to say no. dont let her occasional emails lure you back into anything. view them simply as some casual communication between two friends. nothing more. she moved away, and you should move on.