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angeltek · 11-02-2004, 10:07 AM

Allright, So I have a small problem. For the first time like 5 months my wife and I were able to get intimate. It's been about 9 weeks since our son was born, so she was having alot of issues with the postpardom that was preventing it from happening sooner. Anyways, she has her big O, and about a minute after she starts feeling a little nausious and we have to stop, which gave me a bad case of Blue Balls. Is this normal? Am I doing something tottally wrong? Is it going to be like this every time?

avhg1 · 11-02-2004, 10:29 AM

Postpartum is a hard thing to deal with for everyone. Hopefully your wife sees it and will go to her doctor about it. My wife got it pretty bad and went for anti-depressants. The only problem is that many anti-depressants have sexual side effects. I'm not trying to sound like a downer, but we had our first son almost 5 years ago and our sex life has not gone back to what I consider normal. Things change and you have to work through them. Best thing to do is talk about it and be open about your concerns. If my wife and I had not talked about frequently, we would have been done a long time ago.

the_marq · 11-02-2004, 10:29 AM

never mind, my post was pointless

maleficent · 11-02-2004, 10:35 AM

Is it post-partum depression that she's got or were there medical complications after giving birth (it's my understaning that that manifests itself later). 9 weeks is honestly not a lot of time to expect your sex life to return to normal.

has she had a conversation with her doctor?

Have you talked to her... and please try not to bring up blueballs - the nauseusness should be a concern (and maybe she's just nervous about getting pregnant again) talk to her... See where she's at...

angeltek · 11-02-2004, 04:15 PM

Italke d to her for a little bit afterwards, and she was feeling really bad about what ahd happened. all I could do is make her feel better, and tell her that it was okay. I am not some insensitive jerk. but I was concerned about her getting nausious like that. Could it have just been from the motion?

11-02-2004, 10:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
angeltek Crazy Location: Regina, sk, Canada	Post pardom problems Allright, So I have a small problem. For the first time like 5 months my wife and I were able to get intimate. It's been about 9 weeks since our son was born, so she was having alot of issues with the postpardom that was preventing it from happening sooner. Anyways, she has her big O, and about a minute after she starts feeling a little nausious and we have to stop, which gave me a bad case of Blue Balls. Is this normal? Am I doing something tottally wrong? Is it going to be like this every time?

11-02-2004, 10:29 AM	#3 (permalink)
the_marq All hail the Mountain King Location: Black Mesa	never mind, my post was pointless __________________ The Truth: Johnny Cash could have kicked Bruce Lee's ass if he wanted to. #3 in a series Last edited by the_marq; 11-02-2004 at 10:30 AM.. Reason: should not have posted in the first place

11-02-2004, 10:35 AM	#4 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	Is it post-partum depression that she's got or were there medical complications after giving birth (it's my understaning that that manifests itself later). 9 weeks is honestly not a lot of time to expect your sex life to return to normal. has she had a conversation with her doctor? Have you talked to her... and please try not to bring up blueballs - the nauseusness should be a concern (and maybe she's just nervous about getting pregnant again) talk to her... See where she's at... __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

11-02-2004, 10:29 AM	#2 (permalink)
avhg1 Insane Location: MD	Postpartum is a hard thing to deal with for everyone. Hopefully your wife sees it and will go to her doctor about it. My wife got it pretty bad and went for anti-depressants. The only problem is that many anti-depressants have sexual side effects. I'm not trying to sound like a downer, but we had our first son almost 5 years ago and our sex life has not gone back to what I consider normal. Things change and you have to work through them. Best thing to do is talk about it and be open about your concerns. If my wife and I had not talked about frequently, we would have been done a long time ago.

11-02-2004, 04:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
angeltek Crazy Location: Regina, sk, Canada	Italke d to her for a little bit afterwards, and she was feeling really bad about what ahd happened. all I could do is make her feel better, and tell her that it was okay. I am not some insensitive jerk. but I was concerned about her getting nausious like that. Could it have just been from the motion?