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visotech · 10-16-2004, 10:27 PM

We were over visiting a friend at her college apartment, and there was about 10 of us sleeping over in one small 4 person apartment... Well we were all drinking and my girlfriend and I had not seen eachother in a month so we were naturally horny. When everyone was asleep we sneaked into the bathroom and had sex on the floor of the walkin shower and in the toilet stall. Of course it was no where near as romantic as our usual sex, but at the time we both enjoyed it. This morning my girlfriend seemed very worried/embarassed of it all, shes terrifyed that someone might have heard us. To me i think it was hilarious and will be something i always laugh at lol, but she seems kinda embarassed and disturbed? of what we did.....What can i do to help her feel better about it...?

Ambiguity · 10-16-2004, 10:53 PM

Tell her no one heard you guys, and if they did, they should be jealous. Tell her your not going to make it a big thing with your buddies, and that a quickie in a bathroom... is nothing to be ashamed of, at least not if you've been apart for a month.

:-)

Flyguy · 10-17-2004, 12:46 AM

Who cares? Everybody was probably so damn drunk they wouldn't remember anything even if they heard everything!

mrian · 10-17-2004, 02:10 AM

Nobody should ever be embarrassed about sex. Unless it is with a monkey or something. You aren't a monkey are you?!

CityOfAngels · 10-17-2004, 02:33 AM

You should tease her and say, "I thought I heard someone in the bathroom last night! I can't believe you! How could you!?" and pretend to cry.

radioguy · 10-17-2004, 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by CityOfAngels

You should tease her and say, "I thought I heard someone in the bathroom last night! I can't believe you! How could you!?" and pretend to cry.

that would push her over the edge since she is already disturbed by it. you just need to talk it through with her. i am assuming that she is a basic bedroom sex girl and hasn't ever done anything like this before. maybe this will open her up more and ya'll can do that again.

Jay You Dee · 10-17-2004, 03:02 AM

Just tell her what I tell my girlfriend, it normally works:

"Fuck em, all that matters is that we had a good time, who cares what those other guys think? What matters is us, baby!"

-or-

"Those shit-heads were drunk. There's no way they heard us, they would either be cheering me on or giving me hell about it by now. In the end, we're all still friends, and those guys just wish they could do something that sporatic with a girl as beautiful as your are, babe~"

-or if she's crying, or needs pampering (and all girls do sometimes)-

"I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. Let's just forget that, it's in the past. And if you don't want to do anything like that again, we don't have to. You know I love you, and would never try to do anything to make you feel out of place - It'd just been a long time and we both got caught up in the moment. Besides, you know it was fun while we were doing it" *enter smile* *wipe tear from her eye* *give kiss*

Blackthorn · 10-17-2004, 05:30 AM

Simple formula to alieve her anxiety: Everyone else there wishes they were YOU two!

visotech · 10-17-2004, 03:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jay You Dee

Just tell her what I tell my girlfriend, it normally works:

"Fuck em, all that matters is that we had a good time, who cares what those other guys think? What matters is us, baby!"

-or-

"Those shit-heads were drunk. There's no way they heard us, they would either be cheering me on or giving me hell about it by now. In the end, we're all still friends, and those guys just wish they could do something that sporatic with a girl as beautiful as your are, babe~"

-or if she's crying, or needs pampering (and all girls do sometimes)-

"I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. Let's just forget that, it's in the past. And if you don't want to do anything like that again, we don't have to. You know I love you, and would never try to do anything to make you feel out of place - It'd just been a long time and we both got caught up in the moment. Besides, you know it was fun while we were doing it" *enter smile* *wipe tear from her eye* *give kiss*

Wow you are the man, you should write a book called "What to not not say"

brokenangel · 10-17-2004, 10:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jay You Dee

Just tell her what I tell my girlfriend, it normally works:

"Fuck em, all that matters is that we had a good time, who cares what those other guys think? What matters is us, baby!"

-or-

"Those shit-heads were drunk. There's no way they heard us, they would either be cheering me on or giving me hell about it by now. In the end, we're all still friends, and those guys just wish they could do something that sporatic with a girl as beautiful as your are, babe~"

-or if she's crying, or needs pampering (and all girls do sometimes)-

"I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. Let's just forget that, it's in the past. And if you don't want to do anything like that again, we don't have to. You know I love you, and would never try to do anything to make you feel out of place - It'd just been a long time and we both got caught up in the moment. Besides, you know it was fun while we were doing it" *enter smile* *wipe tear from her eye* *give kiss*

wow. if my bf did that 3rd option, i would feel great immediately... take it from a girl, that's all she would need.

mighty_whitey · 10-18-2004, 09:07 AM

At least you guys were discrete and went to the bathroom. If you had done it where others could have caught you that would have been different. I think that what you did was great.

SecretMethod70 · 10-18-2004, 01:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jay You Dee

Just tell her what I tell my girlfriend, it normally works:

"Fuck em, all that matters is that we had a good time, who cares what those other guys think? What matters is us, baby!"

-or-

"Those shit-heads were drunk. There's no way they heard us, they would either be cheering me on or giving me hell about it by now. In the end, we're all still friends, and those guys just wish they could do something that sporatic with a girl as beautiful as your are, babe~"

-or if she's crying, or needs pampering (and all girls do sometimes)-

"I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. Let's just forget that, it's in the past. And if you don't want to do anything like that again, we don't have to. You know I love you, and would never try to do anything to make you feel out of place - It'd just been a long time and we both got caught up in the moment. Besides, you know it was fun while we were doing it" *enter smile* *wipe tear from her eye* *give kiss*

*shrug* I believe in sincerity, but maybe that's just me.

Willravel · 10-18-2004, 01:52 PM

If this is Eric, then yes, we all heard you. It was kinda funny. If not, don't worry about it.

AndTylerToo · 10-18-2004, 01:56 PM

Hahaha, now I'm really curious to see if it was Eric!

JJRousseau · 10-18-2004, 02:34 PM

At least you weren't so drunk that you invited someone else to join the two of you. THAT can be awkward the next day!

Missy · 10-18-2004, 02:41 PM

Why would she be upset over an activity she was a willing participant in? Its not like you forced her to do anything! Just let it blow over and things will be fine in a few days.

theburner · 10-19-2004, 09:03 AM

I'm with Missy. Just let it blow over.

Bigeffinal · 10-29-2004, 10:34 PM

all that matters is that you 2 had a good time. Just explain that it doesnt matter. Hell if it were me i'd hope they did

vinmag7 · 10-31-2004, 05:41 AM

if anyone heard they were jealous and if they are anything like my friends they didn't hear because they would have been banging on the door

alto92 · 10-31-2004, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by SecretMethod70

*shrug* I believe in sincerity, but maybe that's just me.

im with secretmethod on this one. she's got the right to know what YOU feel.

mcwoop · 10-31-2004, 01:45 PM

This very thing happened in my house last night. There were a bunch of us here because it was a friend's birthday and we partied all night. They went into the bedroom and they both came out a few minutes later and asked for condoms. We're all pretty good friends and had a great time, we all knew that it would probably happen, that they wanted to do it. We're all human, after all.
I'm sure any embarassment she might feel would only last a few minutes. I mean, it wouldn't be a surprise to anyone, I'm sure.
My advice is to tell her you got up for some water later and someone else was going at it in the bathrrom, but you couldn't tell who it was. If everyone else was doing it, maybe she'd feel better about it.

chickentribs · 11-02-2004, 08:23 PM

You said that you thought it was hilarious, but does that mean you liked it or found it uncomfortable? If you enjoyed the risk of getting caught or even being heard, maybe you should talk to her about it. You could do your girlfriend a world of good (and in turn yourself) by helping her to understand that a little danger and adventure in your sex life can add a whole lot. She may have some underlying feelings of shame where sex is concerned (a lot of us do), and all she needs is for you to help bring her out of her shell a bit.

I for one have had some of the best sex in the most unlikely places! Of course they won't let me and my girlfriend back at that grocery store anymore.

10-16-2004, 10:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
visotech Insane Location: San Diego, CA	Girlfriend embarassed of our recent sexcapade We were over visiting a friend at her college apartment, and there was about 10 of us sleeping over in one small 4 person apartment... Well we were all drinking and my girlfriend and I had not seen eachother in a month so we were naturally horny. When everyone was asleep we sneaked into the bathroom and had sex on the floor of the walkin shower and in the toilet stall. Of course it was no where near as romantic as our usual sex, but at the time we both enjoyed it. This morning my girlfriend seemed very worried/embarassed of it all, shes terrifyed that someone might have heard us. To me i think it was hilarious and will be something i always laugh at lol, but she seems kinda embarassed and disturbed? of what we did.....What can i do to help her feel better about it...?

10-17-2004, 05:30 AM	#8 (permalink)
Blackthorn Beware the Mad Irish Location: Wish I was on the N17...	Simple formula to alieve her anxiety: Everyone else there wishes they were YOU two! __________________ What are you willing to give up in order to get what you want?

10-19-2004, 09:03 AM	#17 (permalink)
theburner Canadian Beer Ambassador Location: Cumming, GA	I'm with Missy. Just let it blow over. __________________ Take Off Eh!

10-29-2004, 10:34 PM	#18 (permalink)
Bigeffinal Upright	all that matters is that you 2 had a good time. Just explain that it doesnt matter. Hell if it were me i'd hope they did __________________ "When I stick this army man up my nose it tickles my brain! Hahahaha! OW! Now I don't know math..." -Chris Griffin "We can't stop here. This is bat country." Johnny Depp Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas

11-02-2004, 08:23 PM	#22 (permalink)
chickentribs Addict Location: Mansion by day/Secret Lair by night	You said that you thought it was hilarious, but does that mean you liked it or found it uncomfortable? If you enjoyed the risk of getting caught or even being heard, maybe you should talk to her about it. You could do your girlfriend a world of good (and in turn yourself) by helping her to understand that a little danger and adventure in your sex life can add a whole lot. She may have some underlying feelings of shame where sex is concerned (a lot of us do), and all she needs is for you to help bring her out of her shell a bit. I for one have had some of the best sex in the most unlikely places! Of course they won't let me and my girlfriend back at that grocery store anymore. __________________ Oft expectation fails... and most oft there Where most it promises - Shakespeare, W.

10-16-2004, 10:53 PM	#2 (permalink)
Ambiguity Tilted	Tell her no one heard you guys, and if they did, they should be jealous. Tell her your not going to make it a big thing with your buddies, and that a quickie in a bathroom... is nothing to be ashamed of, at least not if you've been apart for a month. :-)

10-17-2004, 12:46 AM	#3 (permalink)
Flyguy Banned Location: Swooping down on you from above....	Who cares? Everybody was probably so damn drunk they wouldn't remember anything even if they heard everything!

10-17-2004, 02:10 AM	#4 (permalink)
mrian Upright Location: Tempe	Nobody should ever be embarrassed about sex. Unless it is with a monkey or something. You aren't a monkey are you?!

10-17-2004, 03:02 AM	#7 (permalink)
Jay You Dee Tilted Location: Cleveland, TN	Just tell her what I tell my girlfriend, it normally works: "Fuck em, all that matters is that we had a good time, who cares what those other guys think? What matters is us, baby!" -or- "Those shit-heads were drunk. There's no way they heard us, they would either be cheering me on or giving me hell about it by now. In the end, we're all still friends, and those guys just wish they could do something that sporatic with a girl as beautiful as your are, babe~" -or if she's crying, or needs pampering (and all girls do sometimes)- "I'm sorry baby, I didn't mean to make you uncomfortable. Let's just forget that, it's in the past. And if you don't want to do anything like that again, we don't have to. You know I love you, and would never try to do anything to make you feel out of place - It'd just been a long time and we both got caught up in the moment. Besides, you know it was fun while we were doing it" enter smile wipe tear from her eye give kiss

10-18-2004, 09:07 AM	#11 (permalink)
mighty_whitey Upright	At least you guys were discrete and went to the bathroom. If you had done it where others could have caught you that would have been different. I think that what you did was great.

10-18-2004, 01:52 PM	#13 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	If this is Eric, then yes, we all heard you. It was kinda funny. If not, don't worry about it.

10-18-2004, 01:56 PM	#14 (permalink)
AndTylerToo Tilted Location: Ann Arbor, MI	Hahaha, now I'm really curious to see if it was Eric!

10-18-2004, 02:34 PM	#15 (permalink)
JJRousseau Psycho Location: Vancouver, Canada	At least you weren't so drunk that you invited someone else to join the two of you. THAT can be awkward the next day!

10-18-2004, 02:41 PM	#16 (permalink)
Missy Crazy	Why would she be upset over an activity she was a willing participant in? Its not like you forced her to do anything! Just let it blow over and things will be fine in a few days.

10-31-2004, 05:41 AM	#19 (permalink)
vinmag7 Upright	if anyone heard they were jealous and if they are anything like my friends they didn't hear because they would have been banging on the door

10-31-2004, 01:45 PM	#21 (permalink)
mcwoop Upright Location: Portland, OR	This very thing happened in my house last night. There were a bunch of us here because it was a friend's birthday and we partied all night. They went into the bedroom and they both came out a few minutes later and asked for condoms. We're all pretty good friends and had a great time, we all knew that it would probably happen, that they wanted to do it. We're all human, after all. I'm sure any embarassment she might feel would only last a few minutes. I mean, it wouldn't be a surprise to anyone, I'm sure. My advice is to tell her you got up for some water later and someone else was going at it in the bathrrom, but you couldn't tell who it was. If everyone else was doing it, maybe she'd feel better about it.