tman17m

okay, to make a long story short. my ex broke up with me about a month ago. it was a really bad breakup. she ended it by just saying "i dont love you anymore"...so needless to say, this past month has been really, really shitty. anyway, a good friend who lives sorta far away from here wants me to come up and 'see' her tonight. shes made it pretty clear what she wants. anyway, my problem with this is, this friend is decently attractive and everything, but i just dont know what to do. i still have feelings for my ex, and im trying desperately to get over her. i guess i am tenative about all this becuase there is still a part of me that wants to get back together with my ex, even though i know i need to move on....advice thanks

Glory's Sun

If you know you want to get over your ex then what's the problem here? Go to the friends house. You know you need to move on..so there's your answer

stonegrody

I guess it all depends on where you are emotionally. If you can't handle just getting with someone on a sexual level and nothing more, you probably shouldn't do it. If you go into it realizing it's just sex and nothing more, have at it. "I don't love you anymore" is a pretty definite ending, do you really think you'll get back together? If not and you think you need to move on, maybe this would be a good way to start. Just protect yourself.

If it were me, I'd be filling up my gas tank

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tman17m

this is very true thanks....i guess i never really felt that "i dont love you any more" was a definite ending....but, yea i can see that....

bookerV

I was/am in the EXACT same position as far as the ex is concerned, and I have just recently started dating again. It's hard, when you know you just got dropped but you still want to be with that person. Listen to your brain, it knows that your ex is a waste of time. You need to move on. Force yourself to move past it, start thinking about your future without your ex. I have a real hard time sometimes with the whole thing, but then I just tell myself "She doesn't want to be with me, and I don't want someone that doesn't want to be with me." and then I can move on. There are plenty of girls out there, don't waste time and miss opportunities on one that doesn't want you.

It's over, move on, have some fun, and meet some new chicks. It's very hard, but it is for the best... Good luck with everything. After writing this I think it is actually making it a bit easier for me to follow my own advice... Sometimes I really hate what girls can do to us guys...

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lukethebandgeek

I've made it a rule for myself to never pursue ex girlfriends. I feel that those past relationships failed for a reason. Only after I moved on did I open myself up enough to find the person who I am currently with.

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Grace, Too

Hmmm. I was in the same situation as the thead starter, once. I broke up with my gf, and started pursuing another girl, but before I let it get too far with girl #2, I talked again to my ex and we ended up getting back together and getting married. If I'd messed around with girl #2 it might have seriously jeopardized my relationship with my future wife....
Just you think of it...

Chuckles

This will put your mind on somethin else :P I'd go for it hit THAT!

Hishi

FUCK HER lots(only added that cos fuck her was to short)

tehpronking

Give her the hot beef injection, man. It's bound to make you feel better.

tman17m

thanks for all the adivce...

Grace, Too...i have thought about that, but...the way that she broke it off with me was just so cruel, i dont think anything would be the same if we got back together...even though that part of me wants to, i know its not going to happen

so, im definately going....going to be a fun night!

/edit...i still want to be with her though....how fucked up is that

CityOfAngels

Awesome, man! Give that booty an extra tap for all of us here at the TFP!

My friend once told me: "You can never get over one love until another comes into your life." So don't expect this booty-call to be the end-all/be-all of your moving on; but it definitely will help in the long process.

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doncalypso

Just do what Leon Phelps (a.k.a. The Ladie's Man) would do---go have sex, and things will randomly work out.

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boredom

Look you can regret it tomorrow morning just have fun tonight. And leave before she wakes up!

CityOfAngels

Nah that's just rude, especially since she's your friend. I say you stay.
"Get it on and stay, and you can get it on another day. Get it on and leave, then you'll be fiending for the beave." Just made that up right now.

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Locke7

Dude, if you are still in the dumps a month later, you need something else on your mind. Feel lucky that you actually got a booty call. Many people in your situation will be staying home tonight, drinking themselves to sleep. You will be in a much better place.

isis

Hey, there is NOTHING wrong with drinking yourself to sleep to mourn breakups. Okay, maybe there is. I do it a little bit too much.

SpikeQX99

Because as we all know

"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else"

I don't see the problem with this. Well, it's the day after, so I hope all went well

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saigon1965

She wants to move on, we feel like we lost if we don't try to get back, we want to win no matter the cost. Now go and have some fun before you get back with her.

Gofclowns

Booty calls can be good but it won't help you get over anyone

tman17m

hey, well its sunday night...got back from a good weekend. everything went well....
but damnit like gofclowns just said, none of this has really helped me get over her...at all. the entire drive up i thought about my ex. those thoughts went away once i was chillin with my friend, but then once i left i was still thinking about my ex...everyone said that it gets easier, but its been a month and i still feel really shitty about everything.

saigon1965

You will have fun, but only time will heal your wounds.

xwesleyx

Didja hit it or what?

beteez2

get back on the horse that threw you

diegodougie

Yeah, TFPing minds wanna know if you hit it or quit it.

Sounds to me that you wanted to get a kick in the ass to push you in the right direction because you knew that you needed to move on....but you're heart was telling you different. Sometimes, you just gotta say fuck you, heart!

beteez2

Pre-Booty Call Agreement

This Pre-Booty Call Agreement (hereinafter referred to as "The Agreement") is entered into on this ___day of ______________, 20 __, by____________________, (hereinafter referred to as the "Participant") between ____________________, (hereinafter referred to as the "Holder of 'The Agreement'") and ____________________ (Participant).
This Agreement shall cover the following rules and principles for the Participant:

1. No sleeping over!! Unless it is very good and we need to repeat it in the morning.
2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening.
3. No calls before 9 pm. We don't have anything to talk about.
4. None of that "lovemaking" stuff, only mind-blowing sex allowed.
5. No emotional discussions!! i.e. Where are we heading with this? Do you love me? The answer is "no", so don't even ask.
6. No plans made in advance. That is why you are called "the backup." Unless you are from out-of-town, then it's only a one-time advanced arrangement.
7. All gifts accepted- money is always good.
8. No baby talk- however, dirty talk is encouraged.
9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers... it's really none of your damn business.
10. No calling each other friends with privileges. We are not friends, just sex buddies.
11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK. Don't be offended, you mean no less to me than you did before.
12. No extra clothing!! I don't want your ass leaving anything behind when you leave.
13. No falling asleep right after sex!! It's over so get your ass up and go home.
14. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it. I don't care!!
15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason.
16. If anyone of the opposite sex asks who you are, the standard response will be "My roommates girlfriend/boyfriend."
17. Doggie style preferred. Just hit it hard and right or get the Hell out! (Reason: The less eye contact the better. I don't want to look at you.)
18. We are to hook up absolutely whenever the mood strikes me, so stop calling!
19. Bring your own drink-I am not your liquor store.
20. No phone use, please! I don't want anyone calling back looking for your ass.

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Date: _________________________

humpy012

Do what you want to do. Dont listen to us to make up your feelings.