mikeraach

Ok, a little history here...I was young when I discovered that playing with this thing between my legs was fun. In fact, I remember that I had orgasms as young as 11 (no cum though, just it felt really good). Technique has been developed since then (now 20) and I've been set in a pattern since I was about 13. Basically every night before I go to bed I rub one out.

Because of my early start, I've never had a wet dream. Not once. I feel like I've missed out on something. I know some people say that its annoying because of the mess, but others report the great dreams that go along with the orgasm (see http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/archive...p/t-16145.html ).

Searching the web about wet dreams has driven me to this conclusion: less yank, more wet dreams. It is commonly thought that the body has a wet dream to expell the old sperm when there is no sexual outlet, but I have also found a website that says this idea was old science. Apparently the body can recycle old sperm. One thing that still does remain true is that people that do not masturbate or have sex regularly seem to have more wet dreams (probably has something to do with a need of a hormone release that is triggered by a orgasm).

With this being said, and the fact that I want a wet dream, I've abstained without masturbating. So far I'm on day #7 without any orgasms. I've been through what it appears to me as withdrawal symptoms.

1. I'm horny all the time and any time I have free time I spend it thinking about sex (granted this is what most guys do, but this is MUCH more noticeable now that I've abstained from masturbation).

2. I think I've become more irritable. Could just be regular things related to sleep (which I'll get into) or diet causing this.

3. Sleep...oh man this is an interesting one. First, because I've made it my routine for many years, each time I go to bed without masturbating, I feel odd as if something has been forgotten.

Secondly, I seem to fall asleep normally, but the last 4 nights I've woken up around 12-4 am. I find myself very horny (but no splooge). By very, I mean VERY horny. If you ever try and fall asleep horny, you'll know that its very difficult. If you haven't had that opportunity, believe me, its very difficult. In fact, I've found myself halfway in dream world and half way awake when trying to fall back asleep after awaking. I can hear everything around me in full conscience, but I'm still having dreams. No matter what I tried (relaxing my body, thinking of something boring, clearing my mind, etc, things that normally work when I can't fall asleep when I'm not horny) I could not completely get into slumber land. I finally tried some situps/pushups last night to exhaust my body and that seemed to work and turn off the horny.



So basically I wrote this just to tell about an experience I'm currently in. Maybe a few other people could try abstaining from any sexual experiences and see if their results are similar. I think I may have a very hyper sex drive and this could be why I'm experiencing such bizarre things.

And for you that have had wet dreams, about how long after you stopped sexual activity did it take for the wet dream to occur?

MageB420666

I have pretty much the same history as you, except I started at 12 and knew it was masturbation. Don't count on a wet dream happening just because you don't yank it. Not everyone has wet dreams, whether they masturbate or not.
As for the getting to sleep, you'll eventually get used to it and fall asleep fairly easily, that's an adjustment I've had to make since going to college, I was used to beating off at least once a night before going to sleep.

As for the becoming more irritable, you have a need that's not being met, and that makes anybody irritable. As for the being horny all the time, your just concentrating on the feeling now because you don't satiate the need. And trust me your sex drive is either normal, or we both have problems.

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Suave

Give it another week. If you've been on a streak this long, I'm not surprised that you're having "withdrawal symptoms".

mikeraach

Slept much better last night. I'm sure I'll get over some of the stuff I listed above.

Day 8...longest I've ever been without for as long as I can remember.

Rlyss

Congratulations mate! You might want to check out this thread here http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthread.php?t=14867 It's very old so I don't know if you should post in it, seeing as resurrecting really old threads is frowned upon in most forums, but if you want to join the Wank-Free TFP then maybe it'll be ok to bump it? Anyway, read through that thread and you might get some inspiration and support.

BigDumbAnimal

i know how you feel, mike.

i started when i was 12, and masturbated pretty much daily, if not more, since then. 8 years later, (when i'm not expecting sex with my girlfriend) it's pretty much the same trend.

Not ONE wet dream the whole time. I've gone 10 days or so with no orgasms, and still nothing. At that point I gave up and cranked one off in the shower.

i think some of us may just not have wet dreams.

water_boy1999

You are a man. Men should play with their penises as often as possible. Why? Because they can. Nuff said.

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livingfossil

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McPoon

So do I

nelbuts

Hahahahaha! Addiction, toooooo funny! I am 48 and I yank it when ever I get the chance. Don't worry about it just let it go.

mikeraach

Day 10 and still goin...

I've noticed the ugres have slown down, expecially compared to the first few days without wankin.

And the experiment continues....

summerkc

This was good the first time I saw it in 40 days and 40 nights

I don't think that not doing the deed will make you have a wet dream, I have yet to find a pattern in mine (like maybe once or twice a year)

flagbomb

I went 3 months before getting a wet dream.

Was trying to test myself, lasted about 5 months, now I only shoot off about twice a week, feels like I don't need it anymore.

Eric640

Woah, this is awsome. I'm so in.
/bandwagons

HomerSimpson

just let go m8. why would you wanna wake up to a wet bed??? what is ur goal exactly

thefictionweliv

Perhaps a request to keep the TB down for awhile to come is in order lol

Zoz

Good luck on your journey.. Hopefully it will result in finding a sea of happiness :grin:

mikeraach

Couldn't take it anymore.... 12 days though, more than I thought I could last.

keyshawn

congrats on your success. I'm serious on that - You had a goal, and you were almost there .

/chuckle

Since you've already refrained from doing for that long, It wouldn't be as difficult as the first time, if you do it again [that is, not masterbating]


anyways,
I've wondered too, if a person can really be addicted to pr0n or s3x, and I'm thinking yes, just like any other hobby/activity [though the SA seems to take it to a conservative level]
There's even a sexaholics Anonymous [ www.sa.org ]
I'm not implying that you're addicted [by giving out the link]; [nor do I believe so];
in general, I just wonder how often/how much is too much, aka addiction.

Personally, I'd think it would be addiction if it was at the point where you would rather do that then spend time cultivating a healthy relationship with someone of the opposite sex..

[I've only had one wet dream before, after 2 weeks of not wanking...]
[of course, when it happened, I was sleeping on a cot in a teenage girl's room in france]

Tralls

You have seen the Seinfeld episode on this I am sure...thus scientific proof that refraining from this subject will result in irritableness and lack of sleep...Classic episode!

societeez

grats to all you people who have held out longer than you expected. you wont have a wet dream by not masturbating. a wet dream is just a dream like any other. iv had wet dreams the same day iv masturbated and havent made a mess. a dream is just how your mind expresses what you desire and disgust. ive done the same thing by trying to hold out on certain activities. temptation seems to get the best of all of us. its normal.

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Tralls

Maybe it's like people who piss the bed when they are real drunk! Either you do or you dont.

mikeraach

Actually no I haven't, sounds interesting though (and also speaks of the truth).

HockeyGuy

Just saw this post the other day, wierd that i was just about on the same time frame... 12 days for me and counting....

fgolfsc

I'm in the same boat man. Its easier to abstain if you have a girlfriend, but if you are alone especially after many days since your last rub out the urge to do so is so strong. By myself I can only last 3 days or so without succumbing so I admire your dedication.

pinkie

My first orgasm was at around 3 years old. I was holding onto the side of the pool at a country club, and accidentally found a jet. I visited those jets often after that. I started getting very creative with masturbating by the time I was 7, and a full-blown perv by age 13.

pinkie

It's also a healthy practice for the prostate.

bollocks

I wank at least twice a day, and i've had wet dreams before mate. I guess like previously mentioned, you either have em or you don't. Ah, isn't wanking fucking brilliant?!

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cocacolafun

I used to masturbate twice a day plus sex with my wife. Now, I am under medication and I fell not as much interested anymore.

Cocacola

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bonehed1

lol....I haven't heard the word wank in forever. Anyways, I didn't start till I was 16 and instantly became addicted to it. I am 23 now and I still do it and its normal and healthy. I do it about twice a day (mostly at work, gah 7-4 sux ass) then get home and have sex with my g/f twice then off to bed. GL on holding out because I can't, it just feels to good to stop.

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hossified

you shoulda waited about 2 weeks or so...that seems to be a common / good point from abstaining from wacking to having the happy dreams!

YaWhateva

well, orgasms are, not just masturbation, so if you get sex a lot then your prostate is in very good shape.

on topic, try abstaining again, much easier the second time.

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iceburn

I don't see the point of not wacking off. The shit relieves stress. as long as you're not looking at farm porn, you're fine. What do I know? I'm freaking out because I'm blocked from the titty boards, so don't listen to me.

Seriously though, wack off to farm porn if you want. I just think it's weird.

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iceburn

oops I completely skimmed past the parts where you talked about inducing your own wet dreams. That actually seems like a noble purpose.

Carry on.

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thrallie

That is so true. Its normal. Its there..its nice to do it. No problem.

rhapz

Man I'm in tha same boat as you. I am addicted to masterbation and I have not had a wet dream. I started eh 6th grade and never stopped. Of course just like you my technique has gotten better as some growth occurs. But the not having a wet dream thing is killing me too. Hey I might stop masterbation for a while and see what happens.

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tehpronking

Wow. I don't whack it more than a few times a week. That's a bit excessive, methinks.

Bodyhammer86

Why anyone would want to break a masturbation addiction is beyond me.....

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tom12

i'm the same way as you, i've gone two weeks and a month before but still no wet dreams, i just gave up cause its too much to keep waiting and i got the same symptoms as you