panic

Well I have known this girl for 5 years now. Now I think Im a good person with my personality and my appearance. She just broke up with a guy she was dating for like 6 months maybe 2 weeks ago. I asked her out since she was single. She said she was not in the "Dating Mood" for anyone. Now I dont consider that a no. See I go to her house all the time. Partly because I know her brother. A whole lot of people ask if I am dating her cuz I guess it looks like were going out. Do you guys think that she might want to date soon? I mean Im one of a kind I guess. As some other girls say, they say Im really nice to everyone and shit. I dont know this shit is bothering me.

Averett

She told you she's not in the "Dating Mood." Respect her decision, and give her space. Maybe she'll be ready to date again soon. Maybe she won't. Just chill, hang out with her if you'd like, but don't expect her to want to date you anytime soon.

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StickODynomite

Just wait until she comes to you to date. Some girls need more time than others after a breakup. And some girls enjoy the single life for a while after.

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panic

Hey thanks for the advice. I will do just that, right now she sees me as a really great friend. Ill keep it at that until she is ready to date again. I can get other girls but Im not desperate for just any one, know what I mean?

panic

BTW This is me

Ofirethorn

Man I feel ya on this one, I am like totaly ape over this girl. But she dosn't say no she just wants us to wait till she has her head on straight.

filtherton

If you date her too soon after she breaks up with her ex, you have a high probability of ending up the "rebound" guy. This means that she uses you to get over her ex. Although, if she is mature enough, that might not happen. I'd say, leave her alone until it is clear that she is open to pursuing a relationship. Get used to the idea that she might not want to pursue a relationship with you. You aren't doing yourself any favors in the lady department if all you're doing is waiting for this girl.

panic

I know all I am doing is waiting for a simple YES or NOO.

MSD

If it comes up, let her know that when she does get back into the "dating mood," you're still interested.

panic

Destruct Ima type my exact words. I said "If you do get back into the dating mood, You know Im always here for you".

filtherton

I like the, "If you're ever in the "having sex with me" mood, you know i'm right here for you." line myself.

Ambiguity

Stop paying attention to her, she'll come around moments after she realized you arent chasing her anymore. Girls are like that. They want what they cant have, and when they get it, they get bored.

In my experence anyway.

gar1976

If she's "not in the dating mood," that could more than likely be translated to "not in the dating mood for YOU."

Try fishing in another pond for awhile.

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SilverScooter

i agree, but keep yourself in her line of sight. she can never let you know if she wants anything with you if you're not in her life. stay in her life, just not her love life, for now.

you can "fish in other ponds" if you want to, but try not to fish in too many, you might catch some crabs...

irateplatypus

naww... this girl is trouble.

it sounds like she thinks you're just someone to prop up her self esteem while she gets over the other guy. i don't know how many times i've seen a girl say she wasn't ready to date... yet end up going out with a guy a couple days later. don't think i'm being misogynistic, but girls really do often have a problem with this. maybe they're just trying to spare your feelings, maybe they're unrealistic about their own, maybe they're just outright lying... fact is: they rarely mean what they say with this kind of talk.

take the advice of the previous posters. ignore her for a while and see if she chases you. maybe she will, maybe she won't... at least you won't spend the next weeks/months following her day-to-day whims.

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suicidal

yo g's try this (allways works) now girls arent that complicated.... u said u know her for 5 years, but does she know u... or the fact that u wanna get wid her. well its simple if u are frends with her then then just start hinting u know, start lookin into her eyes when ur talkin to her, talk to her on the phone more often, you should call her not her call u, u will find out why (even if it takes hours on the phone), she broke up with the guy so be there for her like a frend... BECOME BEST OF FRENDS ALRITE!!! I MEAN IT BEST FRENDS!!!------------that was the easy part just chill cuz if u made it this far ur set----------then start to ignore her, dont call her, dont talk to her when u see her, if she talks to u (cuz she will want 2) then avoid her try to act like she doesnt exist... this will make her wonder whats goin on... in like 3-6 days she will call u soo pick up and if she says why dont u talk to me or something tell her that u wanna meet her in person.... and when u meet up tell her straight up that u want to be more then frends, tell her how u feel bout her and how u tried to fight the feeling in the past few days but couldnt and shit just didnt seem rite... WHAT EVER U DO DON'T USE THE WORD LOVE!!!! love is a passionate word but honestly it wasnt made for the society we live in today!!! if u use love she thinks she has u whipped... and thats bout it man try it and trust me it works

ask if u have any questions

william

Leave her be for now, you don't wan't to date her now (unless you just want to tag it). Let it go and give her time. If it's meant to happen, it will; but it's too soon after the breakup.