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ok this is going to be pretty long, so i thank all of you in advance for reading through it..

ok i am 18 and in college.. i am still a virgin and all because i am one of the "geeky" kids, but not like hey lets go play DandD but more of i know my way around technology and especially cars..

so i used to work at a place called bakery X (names changed) and while i was at bakery X i met some really cool and nice people.. and i happened to help a couple hook up while i was there... and everything was fine with them but well i quit there and got a different job at lube stop.. and i didn't know what came of them..

well i ventured back into bakery X and everyone one was like hey hey hey and this one girl i started talking to more than i did when i worked with her.. now she calls me all the time and we are pretty good friends.. its the girl from above that i helped hook up, i will call her jamie.. so jamie and dom hooked up... well like i said i went back and jamie became my good friend (as stated) and i was talking to her for hours one night and she told me how she dosn't really like dom and the reasons.. but she couldnt really pinpoint one reason why she didn't want to be with him.. so i convinced her to go on a break with him..

now she is all talking to me, but i am just the "easy guy to talk to" and we are "special friends" and it kind of sucks because i have grown to like her..

well there is a 4th person in this little game and his name is Sal.. well sal likes jamie also.. and well here it goes.. i know
jamie from work
sal from being friends/ work
dom from work

so i am in the middle of all of this because
jamie tells me about how she dosn't like dom and sal..
sal tells me about how he loves jamie
dom dosn't really get the idea that jamie dosn't like him
and i am friends with all 3..

well i like i have said have grown to like jamie alot, and she talks to me all the time and just keeps calling and calling, and i wouldn't mind hooking up with her, but i just dont know what to tell her because i dont want her to weird out and be like oh my god theres another kid that likes me..

so if you can help me that would be great..

sorry if i kept saying things over and over again... i got interupted with a phone call from her..

1) Ask her out.
2) If she says yes treat it like a date, not just friends getting together. She WILL pick up on this.
3) When the timing is right dont ask, and dont delay, give her a nice 4 second no-tongue kiss. In the rare occurance she tilts her head away dont let it bother you, thank her for a great evening and walk away showing as much pride as you can muster.

She doesnt like the other guys so dont let whatever they say or think bother you. They werent going to get anywhere anyways.

true, but i just dont know if i should.. she cant seem to get away from "dom" at all.. they went on their month break and in the first 2 days he called her 16 times and wrote her 4 emails talking about how he was sorry..

long story short, they both came over last night while i was relaxin in my driveway on my car and it was just weird.. i could see her kinda being nervous, i was like damn i dont know what to do and just makin BS stuff to talk about, and dom was like uhhhh ok..

so hmm i was going to let her decide on if she wanted to go out..

If you don't get some balls and ask this girl out (that is, if you like her. You do, don't you?) you will never date her. She is not decisive enough to make the call. Also, it matters not what these other guys are doing to try to get her or get her back. She doesn't like them, for one reason or another (she probably has a perfect idea of what they do that bothers her, she just wants to be polite and not say what it is exactly. It seems to be the way that some women deal with things; acting on the idea "don't make waves".).

Act like you have the upper hand here (which you do. The advantage is that she dilikes the other two guys and likes to at least talk to you). Be a gentleman, but be assertive. Women usually like a man who comes out and says "lets go do x" (x could be anything from watching a movie to taking her to dinner. Just be sure she enjoys herself).

And good luck, trev.

yeah if u got feelings for her step up and go for it... cant hurt... if u guys are meant to be just friends it will be evident... but you never know until u tryt... go for it dude

werd you are right

She's indecisive as stated above. If she was the type to take action she would have TOLD these guys that she doesnt like them instead of letting them think they're borderline hooking up with her or whatever they're thinking.

Just freaking ask her, girls dont like doing these things themselves. One in a dozen maybe but the vast majority dont. What do you got to lose? if she says no well then you at least know where you stand so you can find a girl who IS interested. If you dont ask you'll be forever in the grey middle where you'll sit until she finds a guy she likes who has the bravado to ask her.

i guess i am just afraid of the consequences..

Dude, I'm sure even Brad Pitt was scared every single time he asked a girl out. It's about what I said earlier, the worst thing that could happen is still better than nothing happening.

If you don't ask her you end up with a woman who tells you all her problems calling you all the time. Hell, you might as well date her and get something out of what already is a relationship...

i was talking to her tonight.. for about an hour.. and we started talking about significant others and the major three/ soul mates.. and she was like you just need a good girl.. i replied well i am looking. and she goes well maybe you dont need to look maybe shes infront of you..

hmm ;)

...and then you jumped her bones?

C'mon, man!!!!

i wouldnt have been as direct as the guys above were saying...i actualy would have done it the way it happened lol

i was talking to her on the phone haha

So now you drive the fuck over to her house and you seal the fuckin' deal!

Go on, man. It'll be great.

HOLY CRAP. Take the chance. From what she said, she is intersted. Ask her to dinner. Now. Right now. I dont CARE what time it is... DO IT. NOW!!!

DONT make me come down there. ;)

over there.. i am from ohio ;)

but we are going to see a movie sometime soon..
and she wants to go on vacation ( a cruise) with me her sister and her sis's b/f

Well. Just keep bein yourself. She seemed to like that. Good job, bud!!!

As for the movie sometime soon, pick one with her now and make solid plans to see it.
Dont let it go away.

oh we made a bet, and either way we are going..

it was to see if someone would cut their hair because he likes her.. i said he would she said he wouldn't haha..

i really do like her though

DING DING DING DING DING DING!!!!!!!!!!!!

We have a winner and if he passes it up he will kick himself in the ass for a LONG LONG time.

Seriously, she TOLD you that the perfect girl (the girl that you like) is right in fron of you? I'm sure you know this, but she just dropped you a HUGE hint and she's waiting on you to make the next move. So go for it, get your ass from in front of the puter and get on the phone, NOW!!!

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no shit, your dick would get you back with some whiskey dick when your just about to bang a really hot chick when in college. DO IT, hell even Hal pointed it out.

well it sounds like you've gotten some good signals so far, but don't jump the gun just yet. while you should be aggressive and make a move, you should also let her chase you a little. those other two guys sound like pushovers when it comes to this girl and that is obviously a turnoff to her, so be nice to her, but don't always be there for her... it's good to be a bit mysterious. the movie/bet thing was a great move... keep doing fun, spontaneous things like that and she'll come to you.

thanks dirtry...
there is times i just dont answer my phone because i really dont want to talk.. so i guess thats the same idea as being mysterious hah.

go for it - she putting out the signals take and run w/ it

Dude, get off the computer and get on her!!

Then post and tell us all about it. With pics. :thumbsup:

You're 18 now... time to become a man my friend. ;)

Ask her on a freakin' date!!!!!!!!! It is blatently obvious that she is the type that wants the guy to make the first move.

"If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours. If you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be."

Pimpjuice speaks the holy words of pimpdom.

You would do well to listen. :thumbsup:

trevlya006:

So, what's the word man?

eh its not to good flyguy..

at sometimes it seems so right that i should ask her..
but the kid shes with (that she "hates") they are going to home comming october 9th.. so they are atleast together till then..

and it makes me mad because the more i talk to her the more i like her and the more i cant have her..

every girl i talk to that is attractive and likes me has a b/f..
WTF?

hmm but i will keep you all posted

My girl was engaged... didn't stop me from swiping her away from that shmuck! :eek: :D

Look at it this way, if you successfully hook up w/ her, GREAT! (irregardless of the other dude competition crap, that will always be there) If not, then you know she doesn't have those feelings about you, and you can forget about her and get on with your dating life.

Sorry to say, but at this point, your intentions of wanting to be more than "friends" has most likely mucked up any "friendly" relationship you will happily have with her. From my experience, once YOU want to be more than friends and you discover she doesn't, the friendship is screwed.

Good luck! Let us know of any new development. :thumbsup:

Take the leap of faith. You do not want to regret this later in life. And you WILL regret this for the rest of yours.
Don't wait. Don't kill yourself inside like this. be honest with who you are, and tell her. Tell her you need to at least get it out in the open. You both seem to be playing with it, but neither one wants to say anything.
Because if you don't them, they do move on.

xiomar.. werd

ARRGHHH.... :mad:

Dude, grow a pair and tell her how you feel. Xiomar's right. You WILL regret this for the rest of your life. Take a leap of faith.

Think about it, what do you have to lose??

Just do it!!

and give us an update

While you might not really regret it for the rest of your life, you might regret it for a long time, anyway. She's giving you signals, but you're not really receiving, right? She won't do it for long, so PICK UP ON IT and DO something: ask her out, go for a drive, get some pizza, whatever, depends on what's going on. We can't predict what'll happen here, 'cause every time is different, but if you CAN take her out NOW, do it. Otherwise, set up a date. The worst that can happen is you'll fuck it up and have a learning experience that'll help you with the next girl you find.

And YES, we want details! :D

;) i still talk to her everyday.. and we will see what happens!

its kind of odd.. its like having an audience!

Well, have you asked her out yet?

Yes... but it is an audience who is rooting for you.
Don't let us down ;)

i'll try not to xiomar