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mbchills · 08-20-2004, 01:27 AM

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Nancy · 08-20-2004, 01:43 AM

Sweet mbchills give yourself a break. This was your first time and you were nervous. No biggie. I'm convinced that next time you'll have no problems performing what so ever

mbchills · 08-20-2004, 01:46 AM

aw thanks

slimshaydee · 08-20-2004, 01:47 AM

i was the same the first time. I was way too nervous to enjoy it. After a few more goes at it you'll get used to it, and the anxiety goes right away. And hey dude, be thankful you didnt finish before you started like some guys on their first time

sadistikdreams · 08-20-2004, 01:54 AM

I second Nancy's advice...
Although I've never actually had sex, though...

fro2020 · 08-20-2004, 01:59 AM

Best advice...simply chill out. Let it flow.

alpha · 08-20-2004, 02:15 AM

Trampoline, huh? At least your first time was quite original

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Originally Posted by slimshaydee

And hey dude, be thankful you didnt finish before you started like some guys on their first time

ahem...

Captain Nemo · 08-20-2004, 05:59 AM

two words:

performance anxiety

relax, chill, it will work itself out

mbchills · 08-20-2004, 10:22 AM

Thanks fellas, im doing her again tonight, Im pretty sure I'll do fine.

bendsley · 08-20-2004, 10:50 AM

Well, if you need any help with her, give me a ring! Haha.

Have fun man.

gduventree · 08-20-2004, 11:04 AM

Don't forget; birth control is your friend. Maybe not being able to finish was a good thing...

maleficent · 08-20-2004, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by mbchills

Thanks fellas, im doing her again tonight, Im pretty sure I'll do fine.

She's not laundry - -She's a person...

:eyeroll:

Averett · 08-20-2004, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by maleficent

She's not laundry - -She's a person...

:eyeroll:

Yeah, no kidding. If I heard a guy say that about me, you can be damn sure he wouldn't be "doing me" that night.

In other news.. you're fine. Just work on your wording

basmoq · 08-20-2004, 06:16 PM

one word, protection... My bro just had his second child with a woman that doesn't even love him, be careful, and don't believe her if she says she's on the pill, it's not uncommon for them to lie, my girlfriend did... (I was luckier than my bro, no babies for me)

LondonsBurning · 08-20-2004, 07:44 PM

Have fun, and relax.

Boo · 08-20-2004, 09:33 PM

What they said... BTW... loose lips sink ships. Your friends (or hers) DON'T need a play by play.

D_Nice · 08-20-2004, 09:34 PM

The nerves will go away with time. Just keep doing it. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will get with yourself, your partner, and the action. My first few times and usually my first few times with someone new are exactly the opposite of yours. I generally get hard and no matter what, can't climax. I feel awful, because it ends up being very embarassing to the woman in my observations. They've always taken it as if they were doing something wrong, despite my saying otherwise.

Just keep at it, and everything will get better.

BigTruck1956 · 08-20-2004, 10:32 PM

I didnt come the first time i had sex either. dont worry, it happens to the best of us.

CanadianCommie · 08-20-2004, 11:51 PM

first time I got a blowjob I didn't finish either. after that, it was smooth sailing

Dennis · 08-21-2004, 06:08 AM

Sex can be a big change in someone's life. I wouldn't know.

TurbineSlut · 08-21-2004, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by CanadianCommie

first time I got a blowjob I didn't finish either. after that, it was smooth sailing

I've never had a girl blow me to orgasm... once it was pretty close during a 69 but she didn't want me coming in her mouth so she stopped.

I enjoy being blown, but I've never had any that felt as good as regular sex, and I usually last a while so I've never been stimulated long enough I guess.

CanadianCommie · 08-21-2004, 08:10 AM

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Originally Posted by TurbineSlut

I've never had a girl blow me to orgasm... once it was pretty close during a 69 but she didn't want me coming in her mouth so she stopped.

I enjoy being blown, but I've never had any that felt as good as regular sex, and I usually last a while so I've never been stimulated long enough I guess.

well, if you get a talented girl, it's worth the wait

of course sex IS better, but you can't always get sex. oral is way easier to get and give, because not everyone is gun-ho about penetration in their nether regions

doncalypso · 08-21-2004, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by mbchills

Alright, so im having this problem.

i lost my virginity tonight. it was the first time we ever hung out, and we did it in the car, and on my trampoline in the backyard, it was actually a pretty wild night.

but besides that, i dont know why.. but i had anxiety, and ic ouldnt help it. i couldnt get hard at first, and i keep to keep kissing her and jerk my self off, then once i was in her, it was fine, but when we were switchin positions it died again

when we ran from the car to the trampoline it died, and took me a while to get going again, but after that i was fine. she tried to finish me off, and even gave me road head as i drove her home, but i just wouldnt come

anyone have any advice? i think to quit watcing porn is good idea. she wants to bang tomorrow night too. im pretty confident ill perform, but just curious on your opinions

The only advice I can give you is to relax so you don't suffer from performance anxiety. Also, I'd recommend that you jerk off before you go have sex with her so you don't get too "trigger-happy" before doing the deed.

And finally I'd recommend that you focus on trying to please her with oral sex rather than on getting your dick hard... Trust me... if she likes your Tongue-Fu skills you'll be so turned on by her moans and her enjoyment that your dick will turn into the Sears Tower before you know it.

D_Nice · 08-21-2004, 06:04 PM

The first time I did it, I didn't even know I was in her for a good minute

When I realized it, I busted within another minute. Every other time for the next couple of months either lasted forever, or I simply didn't finish.

rukkyg · 08-22-2004, 05:25 AM

I had similar problems because someone else was asleep in the room. But once we got in our own room it was all good (It was actually the room next to mine (in a suite in a dorm), and it was the last day of school. The guys over there we gone for the summer already.) Perhaps you should consider doing it somewhere more seculded than outside for your first time.

herostar · 08-23-2004, 11:18 PM

so how'd it go?

Dale Kemp · 08-24-2004, 05:31 AM

I agree with Maleficent: "She's not laundry - -She's a person..." Your libido is probably trying to tell you something's wrong about your relationship with her. Sex can be for recreation, but it works so much better when it expresses love, along with desire.

If you were relaxed and "making love" with your lover, everything would work fine and without the nervous anxiety you're having.

bscox00 · 09-15-2004, 04:44 AM

Also, you were probably just a TAD nervous. This isn't something to rush.

My first time, we used an UNlubricated condom. Bad idea. She wasn't quite "warmed up" yet and things were a little rough. Needless to say, we figured out what to use.

To help your libido, just relax, remember who the person is. Focus on the woman that you are with. Remember - this person is sharing an act that is as intimate for her as it is for you.

Be patient, and remember - FOREPLAY is important. For you AND her.

08-20-2004, 01:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
mbchills Insane Location: NJ	Virgin Anxiety . __________________ rawr. Last edited by mbchills; 03-19-2005 at 06:17 PM..

08-20-2004, 01:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
Nancy Femme Fatale Location: Elysium	Sweet mbchills give yourself a break. This was your first time and you were nervous. No biggie. I'm convinced that next time you'll have no problems performing what so ever __________________ I have all the characteristics of a human being: blood, flesh, skin, hair; but not a single, clear, identifiable emotion, except for greed and disgust. Something horrible is happening inside of me and I don't know why. My nightly bloodlust has overflown into my days. I feel lethal, on the verge of frenzy. I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

08-20-2004, 01:46 AM	#3 (permalink)
mbchills Insane Location: NJ	aw thanks __________________ rawr.

08-20-2004, 01:54 AM	#5 (permalink)
sadistikdreams lonely rolling star Location: Seattle.	I second Nancy's advice... Although I've never actually had sex, though... __________________ "Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials." -Lin Yutang hearts, by d.a.

08-20-2004, 01:59 AM	#6 (permalink)
fro2020 Still crazy after all these years Location: Norther Cal	Best advice...simply chill out. Let it flow. __________________ I'm not prejudiced...I hate everyone equally.

08-20-2004, 01:47 AM	#4 (permalink)
slimshaydee If you've read this, PM me and say so Location: Sitting on my ass, and you?	i was the same the first time. I was way too nervous to enjoy it. After a few more goes at it you'll get used to it, and the anxiety goes right away. And hey dude, be thankful you didnt finish before you started like some guys on their first time

08-20-2004, 05:59 AM	#8 (permalink)
Captain Nemo Insane Location: In a forest of red tape (but hey, I have scissors)	two words: performance anxiety relax, chill, it will work itself out

08-20-2004, 10:22 AM	#9 (permalink)
mbchills Insane Location: NJ	Thanks fellas, im doing her again tonight, Im pretty sure I'll do fine. __________________ rawr.

08-20-2004, 10:50 AM	#10 (permalink)
bendsley Professional Loafer Location: texas	Well, if you need any help with her, give me a ring! Haha. Have fun man. __________________ "You hear the one about the fella who died, went to the pearly gates? St. Peter let him in. Sees a guy in a suit making a closing argument. Says, "Who's that?" St. Peter says, "Oh, that's God. Thinks he's Denny Crane."

08-20-2004, 11:04 AM	#11 (permalink)
gduventree Crazy Location: Vancouver	Don't forget; birth control is your friend. Maybe not being able to finish was a good thing...

08-20-2004, 06:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
basmoq It's a girly girl! Location: OH, USA	one word, protection... My bro just had his second child with a woman that doesn't even love him, be careful, and don't believe her if she says she's on the pill, it's not uncommon for them to lie, my girlfriend did... (I was luckier than my bro, no babies for me) __________________ "There's someone out there for everyone - even if you need a pickaxe, a compass, and night goggles to find them."

08-20-2004, 07:44 PM	#15 (permalink)
LondonsBurning Upright	Have fun, and relax.

08-20-2004, 09:33 PM	#16 (permalink)
Boo Leave me alone! Location: Alaska, USA	What they said... BTW... loose lips sink ships. Your friends (or hers) DON'T need a play by play. __________________ Back button again, I must be getting old.

08-20-2004, 09:34 PM	#17 (permalink)
D_Nice Upright Location: Hampton, VA	The nerves will go away with time. Just keep doing it. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will get with yourself, your partner, and the action. My first few times and usually my first few times with someone new are exactly the opposite of yours. I generally get hard and no matter what, can't climax. I feel awful, because it ends up being very embarassing to the woman in my observations. They've always taken it as if they were doing something wrong, despite my saying otherwise. Just keep at it, and everything will get better.

08-20-2004, 10:32 PM	#18 (permalink)
BigTruck1956 Psycho Location: norcal	I didnt come the first time i had sex either. dont worry, it happens to the best of us. __________________ so much to do, so little time.....at least i aint bored. Last edited by BigTruck1956; 08-20-2004 at 10:34 PM..

08-23-2004, 11:18 PM	#26 (permalink)
herostar Psycho Location: South Dakota	so how'd it go? __________________ Got time to chill?

08-20-2004, 11:51 PM	#19 (permalink)
CanadianCommie Upright	first time I got a blowjob I didn't finish either. after that, it was smooth sailing

08-21-2004, 06:08 AM	#20 (permalink)
Dennis Tilted Location: Scranton, PA	Sex can be a big change in someone's life. I wouldn't know. Last edited by Dennis; 03-09-2010 at 04:41 PM..

08-21-2004, 06:04 PM	#24 (permalink)
D_Nice Upright Location: Hampton, VA	The first time I did it, I didn't even know I was in her for a good minute When I realized it, I busted within another minute. Every other time for the next couple of months either lasted forever, or I simply didn't finish.

08-22-2004, 05:25 AM	#25 (permalink)
rukkyg Loser Location: RPI, Troy, NY	I had similar problems because someone else was asleep in the room. But once we got in our own room it was all good (It was actually the room next to mine (in a suite in a dorm), and it was the last day of school. The guys over there we gone for the summer already.) Perhaps you should consider doing it somewhere more seculded than outside for your first time.

08-24-2004, 05:31 AM	#27 (permalink)
Dale Kemp Crazy Location: New Mexico	I agree with Maleficent: "She's not laundry - -She's a person..." Your libido is probably trying to tell you something's wrong about your relationship with her. Sex can be for recreation, but it works so much better when it expresses love, along with desire. If you were relaxed and "making love" with your lover, everything would work fine and without the nervous anxiety you're having.

09-15-2004, 04:44 AM	#28 (permalink)
bscox00 Banned	Also, you were probably just a TAD nervous. This isn't something to rush. My first time, we used an UNlubricated condom. Bad idea. She wasn't quite "warmed up" yet and things were a little rough. Needless to say, we figured out what to use. To help your libido, just relax, remember who the person is. Focus on the woman that you are with. Remember - this person is sharing an act that is as intimate for her as it is for you. Be patient, and remember - FOREPLAY is important. For you AND her.