HurleyBoy

Alright I could use some advice on this one haha. Anyways this story im about to tell you guys goes something like this. There is this girl I know that i've been friends with for about 2 years now, we only hung out just once but we always kept in contact with each other if not by talking on the phone it would be on the computer.

She is from one of the towns I grew up in and I always had a little crush on her since I known her and she knows this but everytime it came up she always had a bf which was no biggie I wasn't like desperate or anything I just liked her thats all. Well not too long ago (a day or so back) I was in town taking care of some business and I called her to let her know I was in town to see if she wanted to hangout, sure enough she got ahold of me and we made plans to hangout that next day.

Now this is my 2nd time actually spending time with her so I was a little nervous but not much since I know her anyways. So after I took care of what I needed to do I went to her work and visit with her till her shift ended cause then after that is when we are going to hangout. Well I got to her work around 11 and her shift didn't end till 2 so I spent all that time just visiting with her while waiting for her to be done for the day, After that we went to her house so she can change and get ready. From then on all we did was talk and drove around, we eventually got to a parking lot were she drove my truck around there a couple times and she parked it and we talked some more. We talked about all kinds of things like our families, our past realtionships, what we like, didn't like, etc.

From this I found out we actually have alot in common. well while we were talking I notice she had this pink scarff in her purse and she took it and tied it into a bow around my rear-view mirror. I asked her why she has that and she told me her and her best friend our like sisters and they have matching scarffs in each of their trucks. I then asked why she tied it on my mirror as if it was mine anyways if its so special to her and her response was she just wanted to. No biggie I didn't mind, so we kept talking and as time past by we notice it was 7 and she had to be home, well I asked her if I could come in and she said sure but I might have to leave since her mom usually wants to know in advance when she brings friends over and I didn't mind that cause i got spend to the whole day with her, well we went in I talked to her mom and dad some and then we went into her room were she showed me her photography collection which might I add is awesome, shes very good at what she does. Then while I was there her mom invited me for dinner to which I said yes and so I ate dinner with them. Well know its around 9-10pm and I told her I was going to go since I didn't want to over stay my welcome, I told her I would be in town again and ask her if she wants to go to the fair she said yeah and I was ok, so as I was getting in my truck I notice her scraff is still in truck and i went to ask her if she wants it back and she says nah she will get it from me the next time im in town and I was ok. Well to try and make this long story short I spent a grand total of 10 hours with this girl.

from 11 am till 9 pm, and in that time period all we did was talked about each others lifes, bout things we never talked about before. Usually I would get bored if I did this with anyone else but with her I enjoyed every minute of it and I didn't want it to end at all. Well I told this same story that I just told all of you to my sister and brother which both are very close to me and to which I go to for advice, they both say she likes me from the way I describe how I day went and what took place, I guess what im asking is do you all think she has feelings for me or am I hoping for something that isn't going to happen? I haven't done anything as to push this issue as I want to take this 1 step at a time but I just want you guys to let me know if im missing any signs here since I don't want to ruin the one chance that I have right in front of me if there is one cause I might never get that chance again to be with her. Sorry if this a little too long as I never ment to write a story like this out that long. Anyways any advice would help thanks .

maleficent

This is probably what you don't want to hear.... but you are a friend to her... a really good friend.... Not to say that it couldn't turn into anything romantic - but she's seeing you as a buddy.

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bendsley

I will tell you something that happened and then give you the same advice.

When I was in high school, there was a girl that I absolutely adored. We had several of the same classes, but never really hung out or talked a whole lot. But, she was gorgeous and I liked her. She wasn't preppy like many pretty girls are or try to be, and I like that about her too. One day, I was talking to a really good friend of mine, and he knew I liked her.

We were at our lockers and she was about to walk by us. My friend told me to ask her out as she was passing us. I thought about it for a moment, and really wasn't going to because I can be a big wuss, but I think my brain somehow made my mouth it's bitch and made me ask her out. She looked at me for a second, and asked what I would like to do. I suggested dinner and a movie to start off with.....and so it happened. That night we went out and had a really great time. She kissed me when I dropped her off at her house. The next morning during class, I looked at her and she winked at me. She came over and asked where we were going for lunch.

Well, I was excited as hell. We went to lunch and whatnot and several more dates the next two weeks. I had paid for everything so far, but she told me that she wanted to pay for a week or so. I conceided. We had the greatest time.
We ended up dating for about 6 months before her mom got a job in Montana and she had to move. She and I still keep in contact through email and an occasional phone call; we're both married with kids now. But, everytime I talk to her, I remember everything that happened.

My suggestion, let her know you like her. What's the worst that can happen? She says no, that she likes you as a friend and thats it. At least you know, you're not in anxiety hell anymore and you two can go on with your lives.

Let me know what happens. IM me or email me through the forum.

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HurleyBoy

Thats a awesome story bendsley, and maleficent your probably right but I guess I look for signs that try to tell me things that I want to see or hear maybe thats why I feel there might be a slight chance. I guess I will find out when I take her to the fair next weekend cause then I will tell her how I truely feel.

tooth

You know, if you really like her, you owe it to both of you to tell her. If she feels the same way, she'll be glad you told her and you're both happy. If she really only thinks of you as a friend, you both need to know that there shouldn't be any expectations, romatically.

It won't be very fair for you to be hanging on just wishing for something more, and it never happens. That situation isn't good for anybody.

HurleyBoy

So true tooth so true.

Halx

Also, using paragraphs will get you more responses from people who are actually willing to read your post.

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Trisk

I agree. Paragraphs would be helpful.

From what I got out of the story, she was just hanging out with you as a friend. The one semi-flirtatious thing she did was tying the scarf to your car, but hey, I'm flirtatious with my guy friends sometimes too. It doesn't seem like anything else she did indicated that she liked you though...so I wouldn't get my hopes up.

It couldn't hurt to tell her though, right? If you really like her, you might as well.

Aladdin Sane

My intuition says she likes you as more than a friend. Her mother likes you for sure.
Tell her how you feel and see what she says.

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Carno

How can yall say she has no feelings for him? I've gone out with a girl before and all we did on our first date was talk. We eneded up going out, so how can yall say she only likes him as a friend? I'm going with a vote of not enough info.

If she gave you the scarf then she definitely plans on seeing you again and getting it back. Did yall flirt at all? I'd say hang out with her again and be flirtatious and let her know how you feel.

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exizldelfuego

Yeah, I've heard it been said that women don't like men who don't know how to use paragraphs.

Outside of that, there isn't much room for repercussion if you just told her you've a crush on her. I mean, you don't live there, you only go there on occasion. If she doesn't like you in such a manner, and things get weird after, you don't have to have much contact with her.

I might sound callous, but I really try not to get too close to women I'm romantically interested in if I know they're not available or not interested in me. Enjoy their company, and visit with them enough so they know you exist, but always keep them at arms length. It sucks being best friends with women you want to jump on. I've been there a couple of times, and am really trying not to go there again. But if they're available, then by all means, go for it! If you don't, the only place you're headed for is "good friend."

And if she's plenty down with spending the day with you, then she must not have much against you.

Mojo_PeiPei

^^^ What he said^^^

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bermuDa

I would love to read about your situation and comment on it but please dear god BREAK YOUR THOUGHTS UP INTO PARAGRAPHS!!!!

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bing bing

I don't read anything that's not in paragraphs. sorry

The Phenomenon

I couldn't read more than the first three sentences, because you hurt my eyes :'(

Please use paragraphs, it makes your posts WAY easier to read and a lot easier to understand. a good rule is to devide every "subject" within your post into a seperate paragraph. Make everything that can stand on its own and make perfect sense, stand on its own.

HurleyBoy

there I broke it up into paragraphs

Average_Joe

The same kind of situation happened to me. She was just a friend...I had a bit of a crush...we spent time together. It got to a point where I couldn't take not knowing how she felt, so I risked alienating myself from her by letting her know my true feelings and intentions.

We have been married for 6+ years now.

Sometimes it's worth the risk.