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repeater · 08-09-2004, 04:53 PM

So my girlfriend and I recently broke up. There is still a chance of us getting back together, but others things need to happen first, so for the time being, we're not together. Now, during our relationship there were times where we would have to be apart for a while, during those times, certain pictures were taken that helped a great deal in staying close, and resisting temptation. If you don't get it, they are pictures you never want your parents or friends to find on your computer.

So, now that we've broken up, what do I do with them? Of course my natural reaction is to keep them, they're still very hot and I'm still really in love with her. But at the same time, I want to be respectful. I have them all on a CD, should I give them back to her and let her do what she wants with them? Or should I keep them? I would never ever post them on the internet or let anyone else see them, but I'd still love to look at them from time to time.

Has anyone else been in a situation like this? What did you do? What do you think I should do? Also, bear in mind that she probably still has pictures of me, though she may have just deleted them by now.

Sue · 08-09-2004, 04:54 PM

you could just keep it, and if it worries you, password protect it.

MSD · 08-09-2004, 07:26 PM

Don't do anything other than keeping them for yourself or giving them back. Best thing to do is ask her.

Kazic · 08-09-2004, 07:31 PM

If she askes be respectfull and give them up. If she doesn't their are yours. But Yeah don't go showing them. they are apart of YOUR past not someone elses.

Seaver · 08-09-2004, 07:32 PM

Keep them IMO.

Johnny Rotten · 08-09-2004, 08:14 PM

Someday rainy night at 2:00AM, you'll want to see those pictures again. Someday, you'll need to remember.

Flyguy · 08-09-2004, 08:40 PM

keep 'em.

Dale Kemp · 08-09-2004, 09:14 PM

When you find yourself in some future relationship, maybe marriage, you won't want your SO to find those photos. So if you keep them, know where they are so you can destroy them one day.

BooRadley · 08-09-2004, 10:12 PM

POST THEM ON TEH INTARNET FOR ALL TO SEE!!1111one LOL!

Just kidding. Like everyone else said, I would keep them if I had a method of securing them. It is your property, like all love letters, gifts, etc. exchanged during the relationship.

thalakos315 · 08-09-2004, 11:33 PM

hrmm.. i'd say keep them.. if only for the memories associated with them

my ex girlfriend took some photos and gave them to me after we broke up.. i think she was a little disapointed when i didn't take them

KMA-628 · 08-09-2004, 11:49 PM

Coming from an "older" sort-of guy, keep them.

But do not share them with any one else.

They are your memories, once lost, never found again.

Down the road, memories are all you will have sometimes...

TurbineSlut · 08-10-2004, 02:02 AM

Keep 'em yeah.

Make sure you keep them on an encrypted disk. Like you said, you don't want your parents or your friends to find them. I'm not sure what programs are available for Windows, but there are some like PGP Disk (but it is not freeware). Maybe others have suggestions, or search/ask in Tilted Computing.

repeater · 08-10-2004, 06:10 AM

Alright then. I guess it's a pretty unanimous vote for keep them. They've already been useful in the past few weeks, you guys are right that they'll probably be the same in the future.

Trisk · 08-10-2004, 07:30 AM

Uh, I'll have to go against what most people have said and tell you to destroy them or give them back to her. You said you had broken up but were still in love with her. Looking at those pictures is not going to help you get over her.

THGL · 08-10-2004, 07:59 AM

I agree with Trisk. You don't want to end up pining for your old girlfriend. If the mood hits you, look at some other porn.

I'd also suggest that you not mention them to your ex-. If she doesn't ask for them there's a good chance she's forgotten about them already.

Kitenn Kaboodle · 08-10-2004, 12:02 PM

I think it would be best to just ask her what she wants done with them, since they are pictures of her. She may trust you enough to keep them and she may not. Really depends on how you want to get along with her.

I had an ex takes pictures from my digital camera that I had taken for DH before he was DH and now I will never know where those might show up. It mortifies me to this day to think that hubby might one day see them publicly.

Kit

MageB420666 · 08-10-2004, 12:26 PM

Id say destroy them, If you keep them it will make it much harder for you to get over the relationship, and there is the possibility that some one will find them or a hacker could get into your computer and steal them and I dont think the hacker would have any problems posting them on the internet.
Oh yeah and if you do get back together you can always make more.

fallenangel · 08-10-2004, 02:22 PM

Don't intentionally not bring it up to your ex. Be adult enough to talk to her about it and ask her personal opinion on what to do with them. In my situation, pics are still on his computer, and i've got pics on my computer. It depends entirely on how much you still trust her. Don't ever post up something or show anyone else without their consent, it's a huge violation of trust and you should be gut shot if you mess that up

Seriously though, there's going to come a day when you're going to want to see them again, keep it password protected (From guests to your computer) or burn to cd.

RainbowBright · 08-10-2004, 04:13 PM

if they were old fashioned paper pics you'd keep them wouldn't you?

08-09-2004, 04:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
repeater Crazy Location: Chicago	A question of choices So my girlfriend and I recently broke up. There is still a chance of us getting back together, but others things need to happen first, so for the time being, we're not together. Now, during our relationship there were times where we would have to be apart for a while, during those times, certain pictures were taken that helped a great deal in staying close, and resisting temptation. If you don't get it, they are pictures you never want your parents or friends to find on your computer. So, now that we've broken up, what do I do with them? Of course my natural reaction is to keep them, they're still very hot and I'm still really in love with her. But at the same time, I want to be respectful. I have them all on a CD, should I give them back to her and let her do what she wants with them? Or should I keep them? I would never ever post them on the internet or let anyone else see them, but I'd still love to look at them from time to time. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? What did you do? What do you think I should do? Also, bear in mind that she probably still has pictures of me, though she may have just deleted them by now.

08-09-2004, 04:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sue Teufel Hunden's Freundin Location: Westminster, CO	you could just keep it, and if it worries you, password protect it. __________________ Teg yw edrych tuag adref.

08-09-2004, 07:31 PM	#4 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	If she askes be respectfull and give them up. If she doesn't their are yours. But Yeah don't go showing them. they are apart of YOUR past not someone elses. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

08-09-2004, 07:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	Keep them IMO. __________________ "Smite the rocks with the rod of knowledge, and fountains of unstinted wealth will gush forth." - Ashbel Smith as he laid the first cornerstone of the University of Texas

08-09-2004, 08:14 PM	#6 (permalink)
Johnny Rotten lost and found Location: Berkeley	Someday rainy night at 2:00AM, you'll want to see those pictures again. Someday, you'll need to remember. __________________ "The idea that money doesn't buy you happiness is a lie put about by the rich, to stop the poor from killing them." -- Michael Caine

08-09-2004, 07:26 PM	#3 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	Don't do anything other than keeping them for yourself or giving them back. Best thing to do is ask her.

08-09-2004, 08:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
Flyguy Banned Location: Swooping down on you from above....	keep 'em.

08-09-2004, 09:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
Dale Kemp Crazy Location: New Mexico	When you find yourself in some future relationship, maybe marriage, you won't want your SO to find those photos. So if you keep them, know where they are so you can destroy them one day. __________________ Trueheart

08-09-2004, 10:12 PM	#9 (permalink)
BooRadley Insane Location: Kentucky	POST THEM ON TEH INTARNET FOR ALL TO SEE!!1111one LOL! Just kidding. Like everyone else said, I would keep them if I had a method of securing them. It is your property, like all love letters, gifts, etc. exchanged during the relationship.

08-09-2004, 11:33 PM	#10 (permalink)
thalakos315 Tilted	hrmm.. i'd say keep them.. if only for the memories associated with them my ex girlfriend took some photos and gave them to me after we broke up.. i think she was a little disapointed when i didn't take them

08-09-2004, 11:49 PM	#11 (permalink)
KMA-628 ....is off his meds...you were warned. Location: The Wild Wild West	Coming from an "older" sort-of guy, keep them. But do not share them with any one else. They are your memories, once lost, never found again. Down the road, memories are all you will have sometimes... __________________ Before you criticize someone, you need to walk a mile in their shoes. That way, if they get angry at you.......you're a mile away.......and they're barefoot.

08-10-2004, 02:02 AM	#12 (permalink)
TurbineSlut Tilted Location: Netherlands	Keep 'em yeah. Make sure you keep them on an encrypted disk. Like you said, you don't want your parents or your friends to find them. I'm not sure what programs are available for Windows, but there are some like PGP Disk (but it is not freeware). Maybe others have suggestions, or search/ask in Tilted Computing.

08-10-2004, 06:10 AM	#13 (permalink)
repeater Crazy Location: Chicago	Alright then. I guess it's a pretty unanimous vote for keep them. They've already been useful in the past few weeks, you guys are right that they'll probably be the same in the future. __________________ When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. -Raoul Duke

08-10-2004, 07:30 AM	#14 (permalink)
Trisk Insane	Uh, I'll have to go against what most people have said and tell you to destroy them or give them back to her. You said you had broken up but were still in love with her. Looking at those pictures is not going to help you get over her.

08-10-2004, 07:59 AM	#15 (permalink)
THGL Psycho Location: Louisville, KY	I agree with Trisk. You don't want to end up pining for your old girlfriend. If the mood hits you, look at some other porn. I'd also suggest that you not mention them to your ex-. If she doesn't ask for them there's a good chance she's forgotten about them already. __________________ "The truth is merely an excuse for lack of imagination." - Garak

08-10-2004, 12:02 PM	#16 (permalink)
Kitenn Kaboodle Upright	I think it would be best to just ask her what she wants done with them, since they are pictures of her. She may trust you enough to keep them and she may not. Really depends on how you want to get along with her. I had an ex takes pictures from my digital camera that I had taken for DH before he was DH and now I will never know where those might show up. It mortifies me to this day to think that hubby might one day see them publicly. Kit

08-10-2004, 12:26 PM	#17 (permalink)
MageB420666 <Insert wise statement here> Location: Hell if I know	Id say destroy them, If you keep them it will make it much harder for you to get over the relationship, and there is the possibility that some one will find them or a hacker could get into your computer and steal them and I dont think the hacker would have any problems posting them on the internet. Oh yeah and if you do get back together you can always make more. __________________ Apathy: The best outlook this side of I don't give a damn.

08-10-2004, 02:22 PM	#18 (permalink)
fallenangel soaring Location: near the water	Don't intentionally not bring it up to your ex. Be adult enough to talk to her about it and ask her personal opinion on what to do with them. In my situation, pics are still on his computer, and i've got pics on my computer. It depends entirely on how much you still trust her. Don't ever post up something or show anyone else without their consent, it's a huge violation of trust and you should be gut shot if you mess that up Seriously though, there's going to come a day when you're going to want to see them again, keep it password protected (From guests to your computer) or burn to cd. __________________ all I wanna do is - give the best of me to you

08-10-2004, 04:13 PM	#19 (permalink)
RainbowBright Crazy	if they were old fashioned paper pics you'd keep them wouldn't you?