bbrown4

Met this lovely young woman Friday night - had all the good fun, drinks, dancing, laughs, serious and not so serious conversation- she was simply lovely.

So I got the number, she has my number - so now we get to the silly part . . . . is it still safe to say that if she didn't want me to call- she wouldn't have given out the number- correct?

veruca

lol...yes she wants you to call...but wait about a day or 2...so u won't seem desperate

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lurkette

....kind of stands to reason. Why would you think she didn't want you to call?

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DEI37

Well, if she gave it to you Friday night...I'd say today's a good day to call. Giver her a holler, and see if she wants to do something.

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maleficent

This kind of mentality drives me crazy -- why play games with a person? That's a lousy start to begin a possible relationship.

Calling her five minutes after you got her number is desperate - but so what? It means you are interested in her...

Call her... unless she gave you the number for an exterminator (not that I have ever done that) she wants you to call otherwise she wouldn not have given the number...

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cj2112

now is a good time

*Nikki*

I know when I was dating I would not have minded if the guy called me the next day. It made me feel really good that I liked him and he was thinking about me enough to go ahead and call me.
Waiting is just a stupid game. If you like her, call her.

ShaniFaye

oh lord here we go again with the "desperate" stuff. Last time we talked about this and so many of ya'll said wait at least two days etc....I mentioned that thread to every one I know..males and females and told them what was said about the "waiting" rule.....not ONE person I presented it to agreed with that.

If a girl is interested enuff to give you her number...I see no reason whatsoever to wait a "few days" to call. She gave you her number because she WANTS you to call, why make her wait?

I cant for the life of me figure out how it makes a guy desperate if he calls her 4 hours after getting her number

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Trisk

lol actually...4 hours seems a little bit too soon. 2 days might not be a must but if you meet a girl one afternoon/night, you should probably at least wait until the next afternoon to call her. For some reason, same-day calls just don't sit well with me.

CoachAlan

It's not so much that you'll come across as desperate if you call to soon, it's that you'll come across as a stalker. The kind of guy who will cling to her as tightly as he can.

It'd probably be preferable to think that you have some other friends you can talk to after you get home, rather than wanting right away to call someone who is, in essence, a complete stranger.

It doesn't have to be two days, but you should at least wait until the next day.

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JumpinJesus

After my first date with a woman I liked very much, I called her when I got home. It was supposed to be a very short call. I told her I had a great time on our date and thanked her for the evening. The phone call turned into a 3 hour conversation. It must not have seemed too desperate because we got married 2 years after our first date.

There are no rules. You do what feels right and if it's right for both of you, then don't listen to what anyone else says. It felt right to call her after our first date so I did. When our wedding was getting close, she told me that I was the only guy to have ever done that and she told me that it made her feel good that I did.

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k1ng

Agree. I couldn't have said that better. I hate all those stupid games people play. It's so childish...

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Blonddie

I say call her whenever you want to. I met a guy on a Sat. night. talked to him Sunday and.... we're married now. So I say if you want to call her now, do it.

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animosity

Yep, call her b4 someone else does... Women do not hopelessly wait around for you to call. They go out again and meet someone else.

BooRadley

So you think a little anticipation is a bad thing? Dating isn't always about instant gratification.

They'll do that anyway. It's unavoidable --- the only way a woman could avoid meeting guys is solitary confinement in prison. Being memorable is key.

EK69

one of 2 things (i skipped reading above so i dunno if this was said already or not)

1- she gave u her # cuz she wants u to call

2- she didnt really like you, or wahtever, but she didnt wanna be a bitch, so she gave you some fake # instead.

only way to find out if its 1 or 2 is to call the #!

usually wait about a day or two (get out of the hangover period lol)

Mel

There's no such thing as desperate, if shes a lovely chick she will probably think you are sweet if you call her now. She wouldnt have given you her number if she didn't want to go further with you.

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bbrown4

The results are in. I left message.

She called back yesterday - good conversation.

This weekend is starting to look real good . . .

Much much thanks to all advisors - posted and otherwise.

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roboshark

Call her when you feel that you want to. Life's too fricking short. What do you wanna wait for? A bus to run you over?

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Bentley Little

I think everyone in this thread is has the right idea. If she didn't want you to call, she wouldn't have given out her number.

Just call her and stop worrying about what is going to happen. If she is going to be so petty as to rate you by when you call, then obviously she isn't the right one. Let some other schmoe have her and play her silly games.

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oblar

wow.. i wouldnt think i would be the minority on this, but it seems i am.. I don't care much for same day call backs. If i give out my number or get a number, I don't think I ever call back that same day unless there are special circumstances (night cut short by some problem, etc).

it isn't playing a waiting game so much as allow me time to think about what happened. however, i do agree waiting so you don't seem desperate is a bit silly either you are, or you aren't. When you call has no bearing on that.

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ShaniFaye

haha I said 4 hours because thats how long my guy waited to call me. He's the love of my life and we are now engaged to be married!

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