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Kazic · 08-01-2004, 09:09 PM

Not really with the girl that I have trust issues with. I want to be more than anything.
I am taken with her and can't help how I feel about her.
She on the other hand wants to work things out but when something pretty much anything happens she gets annoyed and its over again.

I can't for some reason let go of her. And for some unknown reason, which I don't care about anymore. I gave her my heart and I would give everything else I have to her aswell.

Anyway last night I went out with some friends and even though nothing happened when I went to a club a girl came up to me outside and said we should all go in and have a good time. there were 4 including her and me and my 2 friends.We pretty much all just got waived through. When inside I was bit liquored already before we even could order a drink I noticed my friends weren't inside. I went out side and they couldn't come in as one friend had a hat on. So instead of going back in we left.

One of the girl I want to be with, friends saw me and told her that she thought I was with my g/f because I had my arm around her.

She got mad at me tonight and said that we are not going to work things out. I can't help but feel completely destroyed right now. We ended things off and of course I feel like there is no hope. Again though I can't think of being with anyone else.

She doesn't trust me right now (another long story but for another time) And with out the time to grow and nurture it. I know it can't just be given. I have no way of getting through to her that we just need time to get through this. unfortunately I just can't seem to get.

No matter what I say to her she finds another reason to shoot me down. I know I should stop fighting her and just let her go. I just can't seem to do it.

forkies · 08-01-2004, 10:07 PM

sounds like codependency

maybe you can work things out, but perhaps it would be best to just end things cold turkey

Mantus · 08-01-2004, 10:58 PM

Oh Kazic, I've been there.

The relationship lasted six years, four years longer then it should have.

It took allot of willpower in the end. It's like a drug; it's really fucked up.

jay-g · 08-02-2004, 01:11 AM

If the roles were switched, i am sure you would stay with her, and works things out. I dont know all the details in between, but it sounds like she bailed on you fast. Life is short, try not to let it bring you down for too long.

Jaca · 08-02-2004, 02:09 AM

Nothing heals trust issues but time. If she's not willing to give it the time it's going to take, heed the advice already given here, and find some strength to move on with your life, and put this relationship aside. Best o' luck to ya.

Kazic · 08-02-2004, 03:27 PM

Thanks for the support you guys. I really appreciate it.

william · 08-04-2004, 08:19 AM

Trust - that's a big issue. And not only for the ladies. How would you feel if you heard your lady left the club w/her arm around another guy?
You want to put the twist on her - trust starts w/in. If you don't do anything wrong, why think anything done was wrong? If you (or her) keeps an honest life, you have nothing to question.

Carno · 08-04-2004, 09:47 AM

Yeah, if you want your gf to trust you, don't put your arm around strange women...

Kazic · 08-04-2004, 05:03 PM

True enough. I did apologize. I just didn't think it was a big deal.

I did think about it the other way around and your right it wasn't the best feeling.

08-01-2004, 09:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	Trust issues. Not really with the girl that I have trust issues with. I want to be more than anything. I am taken with her and can't help how I feel about her. She on the other hand wants to work things out but when something pretty much anything happens she gets annoyed and its over again. I can't for some reason let go of her. And for some unknown reason, which I don't care about anymore. I gave her my heart and I would give everything else I have to her aswell. Anyway last night I went out with some friends and even though nothing happened when I went to a club a girl came up to me outside and said we should all go in and have a good time. there were 4 including her and me and my 2 friends.We pretty much all just got waived through. When inside I was bit liquored already before we even could order a drink I noticed my friends weren't inside. I went out side and they couldn't come in as one friend had a hat on. So instead of going back in we left. One of the girl I want to be with, friends saw me and told her that she thought I was with my g/f because I had my arm around her. She got mad at me tonight and said that we are not going to work things out. I can't help but feel completely destroyed right now. We ended things off and of course I feel like there is no hope. Again though I can't think of being with anyone else. She doesn't trust me right now (another long story but for another time) And with out the time to grow and nurture it. I know it can't just be given. I have no way of getting through to her that we just need time to get through this. unfortunately I just can't seem to get. No matter what I say to her she finds another reason to shoot me down. I know I should stop fighting her and just let her go. I just can't seem to do it. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989 Last edited by Kazic; 08-01-2004 at 09:14 PM..

08-02-2004, 03:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	Thanks for the support you guys. I really appreciate it. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

08-04-2004, 09:47 AM	#8 (permalink)
Carno Junkie	Yeah, if you want your gf to trust you, don't put your arm around strange women... __________________ http://how-to-spell-ridiculous.com/

08-04-2004, 05:03 PM	#9 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	True enough. I did apologize. I just didn't think it was a big deal. I did think about it the other way around and your right it wasn't the best feeling. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

08-01-2004, 10:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
forkies Tilted	sounds like codependency maybe you can work things out, but perhaps it would be best to just end things cold turkey

08-01-2004, 10:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
Mantus lascivious	Oh Kazic, I've been there. The relationship lasted six years, four years longer then it should have. It took allot of willpower in the end. It's like a drug; it's really fucked up.

08-02-2004, 01:11 AM	#4 (permalink)
jay-g Addict	If the roles were switched, i am sure you would stay with her, and works things out. I dont know all the details in between, but it sounds like she bailed on you fast. Life is short, try not to let it bring you down for too long.

08-02-2004, 02:09 AM	#5 (permalink)
Jaca Upright	Nothing heals trust issues but time. If she's not willing to give it the time it's going to take, heed the advice already given here, and find some strength to move on with your life, and put this relationship aside. Best o' luck to ya.

08-04-2004, 08:19 AM	#7 (permalink)
william Psycho	Trust - that's a big issue. And not only for the ladies. How would you feel if you heard your lady left the club w/her arm around another guy? You want to put the twist on her - trust starts w/in. If you don't do anything wrong, why think anything done was wrong? If you (or her) keeps an honest life, you have nothing to question.