twice in a row
 

got a question, don't really know much about sex, so whatever.

so my gf and i often give eachother oral, but after we're both done she's ready to go again. I guess girls can have sex over and over again, maybe i'm not finishing her up or something, but i just can't go again right have orgasming. i dunno how long it takes me to recharge but she is ready to go again, which i don't mind, but i'm not and she tries but i don't really get hard. is this normal? any advice greatly appreciated.

How old are you? That has a lot to do with "recharge times."

hell im 21, dont have sex but maybe once or twice a month since my girlfriend is out of state and I need at least a 20 - 30 minute recharge :)

with the girl I want to be with. (long sordid story) I can go almost right away. And when I need "recharge" time I just go down on her. Its awesome.

It's perfectly normal. Most men have to have some downtime before they can get back up again. Entertain yourself with pleasing her or fooling around in other ways in the mean time.

listen to the man....

I had the same problem, until I realised that going down on my gf is a massive turn on for me. So I keep her happy, and just wait for my body to catch up.

thank you very much!

You should try getting off first, then working your magic on her, by the time she's done, you should be all ready to start back up (if she wants more).

maybe you should have her do a little "show" for you, a lap dance, or whatever else turns you on. Porn works also... If she wants you NOW, I have a feeling she is going to cooperate.

Do kegel exercises. They'll make your "recovery" time shorter.

word. kegels are great

In my experience, this is very normal. You're a good man for continuing to give her what she wants. She'll be happy to return the favor later.

I didnt know guys could do kegels, have I missed something?

Yeah, and enjoy the quick recharge while you have it. It can get worse with age and certain medical conditions.

Sounds like it. :) We have'em, but they don't do the same thing as you're used to. In guys, they can make the penis twitch, sorta.

sometimes if i can switch the rubber fast enough before it gets soft i can go another round without any downtime... sometimes even go for a 3rd without a downtime... its way hard to get the 3rd round... but when i do i can usually just go forever... and just not cum...

well damn...you're right...I looked it up....I learn something new every day...I swear I thought only women had them.

Molaga, first let me tell you that you may not know much about sex, but one thing is sure, you'll never learn any younger!

Now then, you say that your partner is ready to go again almost immediately? Since she probably doesn't know much more than you do, you need to have a little talk with her, about the way men, and women work. As you have read up to now, most men need a little time to re-fuel if you will, whereas if she is wet, she is probably ready. It's fine for her to want to start back immediately, but anything she can do to assist you will only benefit her. Perhaps it's her stroking you, talking sexy to you, working on you with her mouth, anything that she knows turns you on.

I assume that you spend some time in foreplay, getting her ready for sex, then she needs to spend a little time in afterplay, getting you ready this time.