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hobo · 07-24-2004, 11:06 PM

Okay, I've been dating with this girl for a short while. We've gone out a couple of times, but we're not officially "going out". At first I got the feeling that she didn't really like me, but now I get the feeling that she does, and wants to develop a real relationship. I would like this too, but I have been taking things really slow. I think this is because I am a bit afraid of the changes in my life that such a relationship could cause. I still think its worth pursuing though. She mentioned to a mutual friend that she was unsure where I wanted to go with this. I'm not really sure what she's looking for either. I'm thinking about talking to her about this, probably on a walk at the park, or in a cafe or something. I just want to figure things out before its too late.

Any input on my situation would be appreciated.

saut · 07-24-2004, 11:08 PM

It seems like she's interested in a real relationship to me. Just ask her. Your plan for a walk in the park/coffee/whatever sounds like a good time to bring it up.

maleficent · 07-24-2004, 11:28 PM

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Originally posted by hobo
. I would like this too, but I have been taking things really slow. I think this is because I am a bit afraid of the changes in my life that such a relationship could cause. .

Nothing wrong at all with going slow... and change doesn't have to be bad or scarey, changes could be a positive thing for you.

It seems you both are interested in the same thing, and are both taking the same approach to the relationship. Talking to each other about what you both want out of the relationship, rather than the neutral third party, is the first step to building a relationship.

Keep the conversation casual. No pressure on either of you, becuase to be honest, she may not exactly know what she wants from you -- maybe start with telling her what you want with her...

Meier_Link · 07-26-2004, 08:54 PM

It's probably a good idea to talk to her openly about it and see where each of you want to go with it... I mean it's easy to date or fool around for so long that eventually you end up in a relationship, which could be good or bad. If its where both of you wanted to be and you're happy with it it's good, however it is much worse than calling it off now if you end up in a relationship that one of you really doesn't want to be in.

07-24-2004, 11:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
hobo Archangel of Change	Relationship situation - requesting advice Okay, I've been dating with this girl for a short while. We've gone out a couple of times, but we're not officially "going out". At first I got the feeling that she didn't really like me, but now I get the feeling that she does, and wants to develop a real relationship. I would like this too, but I have been taking things really slow. I think this is because I am a bit afraid of the changes in my life that such a relationship could cause. I still think its worth pursuing though. She mentioned to a mutual friend that she was unsure where I wanted to go with this. I'm not really sure what she's looking for either. I'm thinking about talking to her about this, probably on a walk at the park, or in a cafe or something. I just want to figure things out before its too late. Any input on my situation would be appreciated.

07-26-2004, 08:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
Meier_Link Psycho Location: in a state of confusion	It's probably a good idea to talk to her openly about it and see where each of you want to go with it... I mean it's easy to date or fool around for so long that eventually you end up in a relationship, which could be good or bad. If its where both of you wanted to be and you're happy with it it's good, however it is much worse than calling it off now if you end up in a relationship that one of you really doesn't want to be in. __________________ life is a sexually transmitted disease

07-24-2004, 11:08 PM	#2 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	It seems like she's interested in a real relationship to me. Just ask her. Your plan for a walk in the park/coffee/whatever sounds like a good time to bring it up.