Getting head from my girlfriend and her best friend... questions - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

saut · 07-24-2004, 10:20 PM

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Gman · 07-24-2004, 10:24 PM

Whoa man...

Looks like you got someone's stash of good karma today.

JStrider · 07-24-2004, 10:56 PM

nice... wish i would get that lucky sometime...

the main thing prolly just make sure your ok with it beeing a one time thing and that you want her to be able to talk about it with you... communication is key...
if she isnt happy about what happend and just keeps it bottled up inside it will prolly come back 10x worse in the future...

saut · 07-24-2004, 11:02 PM

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maleficent · 07-24-2004, 11:30 PM

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Originally posted by saut
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But damn, her friend gave some good head...

not sure that's something you'd want to tell your girlfriend.

SecretMethod70 · 07-24-2004, 11:36 PM

lucky bastard, I wish my girlfriend had friends like that

So long as you're communicating with her - and it sounds like you are - things seem like they're fine.

saut · 07-24-2004, 11:43 PM

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Holo · 07-25-2004, 06:59 AM

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Originally posted by saut
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and we truly love each other. We've never even remotely contemplated anything but monogamy. Having more than the two of us involved in our sexual encounters never even entered my mind. Tonight was an absolute shock. First of all, these girls are both such goodie-twoshoes it's rediculous. "Slut" is not a word that even comes close to describing either one of these girls. I've known them for a long time, and something like this is totally out of left field for either one of them.

Maybe that's exactly why they did it. Sexually adventurous girls aren't sluts...girls who indiscriminately have sex with anyone to gain something are sluts, tho the definition is open to interpretation. Just feel damn lucky they decided to choose you as their adventure. She may never decide to do this again. I wouldn't bring it up at all except for saying "thanks for my present" or something like that. This does not need a serious discussion, especially if you want a repeat preformance. She's not doing this with other guys so don't fuck a gift horse in the mouth.

How the hell did this happen? Does it have something to do with the fortune cookie I got with lunch today that read, " People find it hard to resist your persuasive manner."

You forgot to add "in bed" to that fortune

It happened because your gf feels comfortable with you to show a more adventurous side of herself to you. She feels secure enough to share you with a friend in a normally vanilla life. She may wanna do more, it might be a one time thing. The biggest thing is to not make anything over it. Let her know you enjoyed it and leave it at that. If she wants a repeat or something more than that then she'll let you know. You're lucky in more ways than one...you have a gf that really trusts you sexually. Don't fuck it up.

How could this effect my relationship with my girlfriend? I love her to death, and she I. I'm talking to her online right now, and she seems totally cool with everything. The friend, however, is still there with her, so who really knows for sure until she leaves.

Read above, and read this: Don't read into it, don't think too much about it. Thinking is not good for adventure.

I'm really sort of confused right now, if you didn't already notice from my jumbled, rambling paragraphs. She can't be mad at me, can she? Like, how could I resist that? Any input on my situation would be really, really appreciated.

It sounds like she totally initiated everything with her friend a willing comrade. I mean you didn't ask or expect this. She totally did this of her own free will. If she's mad at you, it's kinda a stupid reason.

But you know, the worst part about this is that I can't tell my friends -- I don't want them to think the wrong things about my girlfriend, or her friend for that matter.

Good call. Take comfort in the fact that all the straight males on this board hate you for what you've done. Brag all you want online, you deserve it. But it's not necessary to tell anyone IRL about this. Plus you run the added risk of making your gf close off sexually as she won't trust you and think you immature for "kissing and telling", especially if she's as straightlaced as you say she is.

Another problem is that one of my best friends used to like this girl a LOT (my gf's friend). I feel really guilty talking to him now, ESPECIALLY when he talks about her. Not to mention that this girl is the younger sister of one of my best female friends.

Lose the guilt. They took advantage of you, and that's a Good Thing. The other girl was down with this from the start, so you should hold no guilt at all. These girls made a sexual choice, just like guys have been free to do forever. Women are free to make these hoices and be sexual, and we should do all possible to encourage it. Again, you're thinking about this too damn much.

TM875 · 07-25-2004, 07:06 AM

Breathe first, and then realize how great this was for you. Just don't expect it to ever happen again. If you keep bugging her for another night like this, your girlfriend might get pissed.

Wait for her to initiate it again.

saut · 07-25-2004, 07:08 AM

Thanks a million Holo. I guess I was reading too much into everything.

Pragma · 07-25-2004, 07:14 AM

I second (or third, etc.) the "I hate you" from all straight males here.

You're a very very lucky man, and be sure not to make a big production out of this, and you might get lucky in the future.

saut · 07-25-2004, 07:31 AM

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Originally posted by TM875
Breathe first, and then realize how great this was for you. Just don't expect it to ever happen again. If you keep bugging her for another night like this, your girlfriend might get pissed.

Wait for her to initiate it again.

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Originally posted by Pragma
I second (or third, etc.) the "I hate you" from all straight males here.

You're a very very lucky man, and be sure not to make a big production out of this, and you might get lucky in the future.

Yeah, I'm definitly not going to bring it up often, if at all. Can't let a girl like that get away over something that was possibly a one-time deal.

Seaver · 07-25-2004, 07:35 AM

Very good post Holo, you beat me to it hehe.

Arsenic7 · 07-25-2004, 08:44 AM

So....I think the question we all want to know is....

Who swallowed?

Toecutter · 07-25-2004, 09:23 AM

So, where's the problem?

Congrats!!!!

saut · 07-25-2004, 09:56 AM

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Boo · 07-25-2004, 10:16 AM

Congrats - now the hard part.

Never Kiss and Tell.

Craven Morehead · 07-25-2004, 10:21 AM

Call her up and the her you're really sorry and it'll never happen again.

Unless she want it to

lucky shit......

saut · 07-25-2004, 10:31 AM

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Originally posted by Boo
Congrats - now the hard part.

Never Kiss and Tell.

Yes, it's really hard to keep myself from telling everyone I know. I just went out to buy cigars with my friend and it was KILLING me not to be able to tell him.

CBlend · 07-25-2004, 10:33 AM

You are a very very lucky man!

It doesn't seem like there's a problem - just don't go telling anyone about it that knows either of the girls. (after reading your post, I think you're smart enough not to) Keep the happy memories to yourself

Jay Francis · 07-25-2004, 11:08 AM

Definitely keep it between the three of you and don't tell anyone. You have a long life ahead of you and many more surprising things will happen if you kee quiet.

saut · 07-25-2004, 11:15 AM

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Originally posted by Jay Francis
Definitely keep it between the three of you and don't tell anyone. You have a long life ahead of you and many more surprising things will happen if you kee quiet.

Oh lord, I hope so!

Kalnaur · 07-25-2004, 11:24 AM

I think that smilie says it all for me. Jesus man.

la petite moi · 07-25-2004, 11:59 AM

I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I think something is wrong with your girlfriend and her best friend. If your girlfriend really believes in monogamy, she would not let herself do that.

Flyguy · 07-25-2004, 12:06 PM

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Originally posted by saut
Well, tonight something fanstasies are made of happened. My girlfriend and her best friend gave me head at the same time. I'm still in a state of post-orgasmic shock. Anyway, this is how it happened:

Today is my girlfriend's birthday and there was a party of sorts at her house. A little later on when everyone except her and I had left, her best friend dropped by. The three of us were hanging out for a little, trying to make plans with other people for the night. The plans we made ended up falling through, so the three of us just decided to go mini-golfing and get ice cream and shit. Anyway, on the way home, we were playing padiddle (for those of you who are unfamiliar with this game, whenever you see a car with one headlight out, you call a "paddidle") and my girlfriend called one, then told me to take off my pants as a prize of sorts for her. I think she was mostly joking, but I took them off anyway. I was sitting at the back seat at the time (my gf was driving with her friend in shotgun) and they told me to come up front with them and sit in the middle (bench seats), so I did. For the rest of the ride home I made as many sexual innuendos as possible, sitting in between my girlfriend and her best friend, in my boxers.

So eventually we get back to my girlfriend's house, and I move back into the backseat, still making tons of innuendos. After a little while, I convinced them to get in the backseat with me. I really thought we were still joking around at this point, but it seems they had other ideas. After half an hour of my girlfriend and her friend saying "I'll do it if you do it"... "you first" etc, they took my boxers off. So here I sit, between two young, attractive girls (one of which is my girlfriend), naked from the waist down. My girlfriend decides that we should play "follow the leader".. and she begins fondling my penis. When she stops, her friend starts doing it. At this point, I'm thinking "aaaaaaaalrighttttttt." Anyway, push lead to shove and stroke lead to lick, and the next thing I know I'm getting head from one while the other jacks me off, switching duties occasionally. It was great.

When they were done, it was late so they left and went to my girlfriend's house to sleep, I came home. Now I'm wondering what kind of effects this is going to have on my relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and we truly love each other. We've never even remotely contemplated anything but monogamy. Having more than the two of us involved in our sexual encounters never even entered my mind. Tonight was an absolute shock. First of all, these girls are both such goodie-twoshoes it's rediculous. "Slut" is not a word that even comes close to describing either one of these girls. I've known them for a long time, and something like this is totally out of left field for either one of them.

How the hell did this happen? Does it have something to do with the fortune cookie I got with lunch today that read, " People find it hard to resist your persuasive manner."

How could this effect my relationship with my girlfriend? I love her to death, and she I. I'm talking to her online right now, and she seems totally cool with everything. The friend, however, is still there with her, so who really knows for sure until she leaves.

I'm really sort of confused right now, if you didn't already notice from my jumbled, rambling paragraphs. She can't be mad at me, can she? Like, how could I resist that? Any input on my situation would be really, really appreciated.

But you know, the worst part about this is that I can't tell my friends -- I don't want them to think the wrong things about my girlfriend, or her friend for that matter. Another problem is that one of my best friends used to like this girl a LOT (my gf's friend). I feel really guilty talking to him now, ESPECIALLY when he talks about her. Not to mention that this girl is the younger sister of one of my best female friends.

Damn, this seems like a longass post. Sorry.

First of all....

I WISH I was that lucky sometimes. Fuck it dude, don't worry about it. If she says it's cool then I wouldn't worry a bit. Now, if you or your GF aren't into 3 ways and she and her friend were was just drunk or something, then you might have a problem. But if you're both into it, fuck it go with the flow man.

And keep your damn mouth shut about it unless you never want this to happen again.

saut · 07-25-2004, 12:08 PM

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la petite moi · 07-25-2004, 12:12 PM

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Originally posted by saut
My thoughts exactly. I really love this girl, and last night made me question just how well I think I know her. Right now I definitly wonder what they do when they go out with guy friends... I know I probably shouldn't worry, but last night was so unexpected (in a good way, I guess) that I can't help but think that something bad and unexpected could happen just as easily.

It's amazing that you're not just gloating a ton, and actually THINKING about why she might have allowed herself/her friend to do that.

I wasn't trying to stress you out, but you may want to ask her. Of course, it may freak her out if you confront her about it, but you need to ask her why she randomly became so ...kinky. She might have just done it because she wanted to give you a surprise. Or maybe you just really don't know her.

Aladdin Sane · 07-25-2004, 12:27 PM

I hope you'll keep us posted about your relationship with your gf and her best friend.
I wonder if they planned for it to happen, or if they had every discussed doing something like it?

saut · 07-25-2004, 12:28 PM

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la petite moi · 07-25-2004, 12:31 PM

Well, you can not just blame her. (You did let her, you know.)

Girls are crazy- I should know; I am one. Try talking to her. Communication is the best thing ever. Another thing: since it was her birthday, maybe she was acting out one of her own secret fantasies!

saut · 07-25-2004, 12:31 PM

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Originally posted by Aladdin Sane
I hope you'll keep us posted about your relationship with your gf and her best friend.
I wonder if they planned for it to happen, or if they had every discussed doing something like it?

I'll be sure to keep the situation updated. I'll probably be going out with my girlfriend tonight so something is bound to be brought up in the conversation then.

saut · 07-25-2004, 12:36 PM

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Originally posted by la petite moi
Well, you can not just blame her. (You did let her, you know.)

Girls are crazy- I should know; I am one. Try talking to her. Communication is the best thing ever.

I know, I'm as much to blame as she/they are. I could have stopped them, but I didn't. I do wish I had right now, but at the time, all I was thinking was, "you're young, can't pass up an opportunity like this." I'd probably be kicking myself in 20 years if I hadn't, saying things like "if I knew then what I know now..." and the like.

I'll talk to her tonight. But in the meantime, this thread will keep me from going crazy.

Flyguy · 07-25-2004, 01:03 PM

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Originally posted by saut
I'd probably be kicking myself in 20 years if I hadn't, saying things like "if I knew then what I know now..." and the like.

I sure as hell would.......

Arsenic7 · 07-25-2004, 01:39 PM

I don't think you should worry about it too much. It was probably a fantasy of hers. I imagine her and her friend are pretty close?

saut · 07-25-2004, 02:02 PM

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Flyguy · 07-25-2004, 02:26 PM

Well....... do her already! she's obviously itching for it!

maleficent · 07-25-2004, 02:47 PM

You are overthinking this way too much, bub...

Just enjoy what happened, if it happens again, great, if it doesn't, well , you had that one time...

Maybe it was a birthday dare for herself, to see if she could go outside her normal personality. She obviously trusts you and her friend -- Just remember the moment - and stop reading into it.

Seaver · 07-25-2004, 02:56 PM

Yeah, dont overthink this. She's stated before she thought about this a couple times. Your intimacy isn't violated, think that this secret of yours will bring you closer together.

This, as stated above, was probably a gift to herself. She feels comfterble enough around you to let her hair down for the first time probably in her life. She's kinky and head over heals for you, you dont know how lucky you are.

saut · 07-25-2004, 02:59 PM

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Originally posted by maleficent
You are overthinking this way too much, bub...

Just enjoy what happened, if it happens again, great, if it doesn't, well , you had that one time...

Maybe it was a birthday dare for herself, to see if she could go outside her normal personality. She obviously trusts you and her friend -- Just remember the moment - and stop reading into it.

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Originally posted by Seaver
Yeah, dont overthink this. She's stated before she thought about this a couple times. Your intimacy isn't violated, think that this secret of yours will bring you closer together.

This, as stated above, was probably a gift to herself. She feels comfterble enough around you to let her hair down for the first time probably in her life. She's kinky and head over heals for you, you dont know how lucky you are.

Thanks guys, this is what I needed to hear. I always read into things way too much. Just the way I am, I guess.

wilbjammin · 07-25-2004, 04:52 PM

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I'd probably be kicking myself in 20 years if I hadn't, saying things like "if I knew then what I know now..." and the like.

I don't see why. I have turned down several "opportunities" in the past few years, and I have no regrets about it.

I don't know if this whole situation that you're describing means that much to you, your girlfriend, or her friend but I suggest that you do think about it. What I find curious is that there was a history leading up to this of her telling you that she wanted to have her best friend involved. Why did she want her best friend involved so much? Why did she agree?

What are you going to do if she wants to include her best friend again?

I'm of a small minority here that feels differently about what sex should be used for that you could figure out from my other posts. I certainly suggest that you consider the meaning of these actions and what you want sex to mean for you, as well as having a discussion about what you want sex to mean with your girlfriend.

07-24-2004, 10:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	Getting head from my girlfriend and her best friend... questions ...................... Last edited by saut; 09-04-2005 at 01:53 PM..

07-24-2004, 10:56 PM	#3 (permalink)
JStrider Poo-tee-weet? Location: The Woodlands, TX	nice... wish i would get that lucky sometime... the main thing prolly just make sure your ok with it beeing a one time thing and that you want her to be able to talk about it with you... communication is key... if she isnt happy about what happend and just keeps it bottled up inside it will prolly come back 10x worse in the future... __________________ -=JStrider=- ~Clatto Verata Nicto

07-24-2004, 11:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	.................. Last edited by saut; 09-04-2005 at 01:53 PM..

07-24-2004, 11:36 PM	#6 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	lucky bastard, I wish my girlfriend had friends like that So long as you're communicating with her - and it sounds like you are - things seem like they're fine. __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

07-24-2004, 11:43 PM	#7 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	...................... Last edited by saut; 09-04-2005 at 01:53 PM..

07-24-2004, 10:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
Gman Insane Location: Down South In Louisiana	Whoa man... Looks like you got someone's stash of good karma today.

07-25-2004, 07:06 AM	#9 (permalink)
TM875 Addict Location: Amish-land, PA	Breathe first, and then realize how great this was for you. Just don't expect it to ever happen again. If you keep bugging her for another night like this, your girlfriend might get pissed. Wait for her to initiate it again. __________________ "I've made only one mistake in my life. But I made it over and over and over. That was saying 'yes' when I meant 'no'. Forgive me."

07-25-2004, 07:08 AM	#10 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	Thanks a million Holo. I guess I was reading too much into everything.

07-25-2004, 07:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
Pragma I am Winter Born Location: Alexandria, VA	I second (or third, etc.) the "I hate you" from all straight males here. You're a very very lucky man, and be sure not to make a big production out of this, and you might get lucky in the future. __________________ Eat antimatter, Posleen-boy!

07-25-2004, 07:35 AM	#13 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	Very good post Holo, you beat me to it hehe. __________________ "Smite the rocks with the rod of knowledge, and fountains of unstinted wealth will gush forth." - Ashbel Smith as he laid the first cornerstone of the University of Texas

07-25-2004, 08:44 AM	#14 (permalink)
Arsenic7 Insane Location: Corvallis, OR.	So....I think the question we all want to know is.... Who swallowed? __________________ This is no sig.

07-25-2004, 09:23 AM	#15 (permalink)
Toecutter Tilted Location: Montana	So, where's the problem? Congrats!!!!

07-25-2004, 09:56 AM	#16 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	......................... Last edited by saut; 09-04-2005 at 01:54 PM..

07-25-2004, 10:16 AM	#17 (permalink)
Boo Leave me alone! Location: Alaska, USA	Congrats - now the hard part. Never Kiss and Tell. __________________ Back button again, I must be getting old.

07-25-2004, 10:21 AM	#18 (permalink)
Craven Morehead Custom User Title	Call her up and the her you're really sorry and it'll never happen again. Unless she want it to lucky shit......

07-25-2004, 10:33 AM	#20 (permalink)
CBlend Junkie Location: Classified	You are a very very lucky man! It doesn't seem like there's a problem - just don't go telling anyone about it that knows either of the girls. (after reading your post, I think you're smart enough not to) Keep the happy memories to yourself

07-25-2004, 11:08 AM	#21 (permalink)
Jay Francis Psycho Location: Houston, Texas	Definitely keep it between the three of you and don't tell anyone. You have a long life ahead of you and many more surprising things will happen if you kee quiet.

07-25-2004, 11:24 AM	#23 (permalink)
Kalnaur Psycho Location: Portland, Oregon	I think that smilie says it all for me. Jesus man. __________________ PC: Can you help me out here HK? HK-47: I'm 98% percent sure this miniature organic meatbag wants you to help find his fellow miniature organic meatbags. PC: And the other 2 percent? HK-47: The other 2 percent is that he is just looking for trouble and needs to be blasted, but that might be wishful thinking on my part.

07-25-2004, 11:59 AM	#24 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	I know I'm going to get flamed for this, but I think something is wrong with your girlfriend and her best friend. If your girlfriend really believes in monogamy, she would not let herself do that.

07-25-2004, 12:08 PM	#26 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	............... Last edited by saut; 09-04-2005 at 01:55 PM..

07-25-2004, 12:27 PM	#28 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	I hope you'll keep us posted about your relationship with your gf and her best friend. I wonder if they planned for it to happen, or if they had every discussed doing something like it? __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

07-25-2004, 12:28 PM	#29 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	............................. Last edited by saut; 09-04-2005 at 01:55 PM..

07-25-2004, 12:31 PM	#30 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Well, you can not just blame her. (You did let her, you know.) Girls are crazy- I should know; I am one. Try talking to her. Communication is the best thing ever. Another thing: since it was her birthday, maybe she was acting out one of her own secret fantasies!

07-25-2004, 01:39 PM	#34 (permalink)
Arsenic7 Insane Location: Corvallis, OR.	I don't think you should worry about it too much. It was probably a fantasy of hers. I imagine her and her friend are pretty close? __________________ This is no sig.

07-25-2004, 02:02 PM	#35 (permalink)
saut Registered User Location: Pittsburgh	...................... Last edited by saut; 09-04-2005 at 01:56 PM..

07-25-2004, 02:26 PM	#36 (permalink)
Flyguy Banned Location: Swooping down on you from above....	Well....... do her already! she's obviously itching for it!

07-25-2004, 02:47 PM	#37 (permalink)
maleficent Junkie Moderator Emeritus Location: Chicago	You are overthinking this way too much, bub... Just enjoy what happened, if it happens again, great, if it doesn't, well , you had that one time... Maybe it was a birthday dare for herself, to see if she could go outside her normal personality. She obviously trusts you and her friend -- Just remember the moment - and stop reading into it. __________________ Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.

07-25-2004, 02:56 PM	#38 (permalink)
Seaver Junkie Location: Fort Worth, TX	Yeah, dont overthink this. She's stated before she thought about this a couple times. Your intimacy isn't violated, think that this secret of yours will bring you closer together. This, as stated above, was probably a gift to herself. She feels comfterble enough around you to let her hair down for the first time probably in her life. She's kinky and head over heals for you, you dont know how lucky you are.