Delaying?
 

Any one have some tips/advice on how to delay orgasms (for guys). Its not that I think its too short or anything, but id love to feel more in control of the situation. :)

slow down, do more foreplay..

How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice man...P R A C T I C E!! ;)

If you masturbate don't make it a race to orgasm. If you don't masturbate then start and don't make it a race to orgasm. Learn how to control the sensations.

When with a partner the female superior position will give you a greater ability to control your release. Also...breathing is very important. Make sure you practice regular, deep, and rythmic breathing...Google up "premature ejaculation". You should find some good help out there.

Practice...:thumbsup:

I'll tell you TFP's my secret, but keep it on the DL...

Well Obviously you could go buy a cock ring, but that's a little awkward and not very erotic to put on during foreplay ("Hang on baby... I need to rubberband my balls...."), but the cockring theory still applies to other things.

You shoot your load/get flacid cause all the blood leaves your dick right? So if you get in trouble, grab tightly around the base of your balls, making your hand into a makeshift cockring.

Of course, you can always use the old "Change positions" excuse if you need a 2 second breather.

My Last bit of advice is, have sex when you have to pee. Sounds weird, but it extends sex 3-4 times as long.

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Does having sex when you need to pee really extend your ability to hold it in? Are you serious? I thought it would do the opposite lol.

Shit i do. every time i can make myself cum so fast. But if a girls doing i basically just have to be really relaxed and focus on ths situation really hard for her to get me off or just pound away if i'm on top. Thats really easy.

you know holding your pee and holding your orgasms are the same muscle. when you pee if you practice starting and stoping your work that muscle and soon you'll be able to control your orgasm. CHeck it out its call your PC muscle.

It's all about the motion - more motion = less time. So slow it down and then speed it up and then slow it down. Do that 20 or 30 times and she'll finish (sooner or later). Then it's your turn.

Alternatively, you can go down on her until she's done and then take your turn. I can't say I've ever gotten an objection to that approach.

Yes, I also recommend going down on her quite often. It is a powerful tool that can really make everything else a breeze. If you learn how to make her cum, it suddenly doesn't matter what happens next.

Of course it's easier if you are monogamous, I wouldn't want to be doing that with random skanks.

And if she takes 45 mins to come?

She is drunk :p
jk I know all women are different like that.

I read an article once that said that if you flex the area between you penis and rectum that it will help in controlling you orgasm, it is almost like squeezing you but cheeks together, they said to do this ad hold it for as long as you can and that will help strengthen the muscles in the groin area, I myself never really did it so I am not sure of the outcome but give it a try and see couldnt hurt.

I watched the Ron Jeremy documentary yesterday and he said that he would think of the most disgusting things, i.e. dead dogs, ugly grandmothers and stuff of that sort.
Me personally would rather blow my load than think of things like that that will take away the fun part of it. Then again the Hedgehog was working....I'm sure no pleasure was taken....yeah right.

Its called Kegels and it works very well.

Yes that is the name I was looking for. Thanks

Yeah, slow down. Also, as scrooloose and lunchbox7 say, kegels will strengthen your muslces in that area and allow you to clamp down on an ejaculation, if you're not ready. I've done this 2-3 times.

And you know, if you put it all off too long and you get a little soft, and your girlfriend has been having a very good time, there's no shame in pulling out. Tell her why, tell her what you need, let her help you get hard again, and go back in. I mean, "Honey, I've lost it a little bit because I got too involved in giving you a lot of orgasms" is probably the best-received excuse you can ever give to a woman.

I saw that documentary about Ron Jeremy too. I was thinking that it would be a pretty good idea, but I'm afraid I'll either A.) Give myself nightmares, or B.) Somehow become attracted to said disgusting things. I found pinching my thighs helped distract me long enough to calm down a bit.

What I found even more interesting was that he claimed to be able to come on comand.

Think baseball. Just try to think about something to kill the moment. Then work you way up again.

I can maintain an erection long after "release", it just takes practice.

ejaculation doesn't have to mean your performance is done.

I find it gets really sensitive after I release, to the point where it's not really enjoyable anymore. How would you practice for something like that?

give yourself less and less time between sessions. Stay aroused! test your limits then start to push them.

Don't keep thrusting if it gets too sensitive, try staying hard and changing condoms. that break should be enough time to let the extra sensitivity subside.

Desensitizing creams work ok, though you should be sure to clean off any residue before beginning or else you can get it on her, then she may never get off that night. The creams sold at adult stores are a bit expensive, baby teething gel contains the same active ingredient, is available just about anywhere, and if you've had kids you probably already have some around and it won't tip anyone off if found =)

right, i've heard about kegels, and how to strengthen them, but how do you use them during sex? just before you're about to cum, flex the kegels for as long as you can?