HurleyBoy

well I figure I could use some advice or tips on this so bare with me all .

I just move to a new town not too long ago (couple months if you really wanna know) so im new where I live, trying to get to know my way around, make friends, make a new life for myself.

Well theres this girl that moved in the same neighborhood as mine 2 houses down from me.I always thought she was really cute when I saw her and she lives with her mom, I have talked to her mom a couple times and her mom is really nice and seems to like me. Shes also a year younger than me. Well I never really talk to her (the girl) till today when she was walking her dogs and I was outside getting a piece of gum from out of my truck.

Well I started talking to her and we had a pretty good convo for the first time since we never spoke before since she and I moved in this neighborhood, well I found out she has a bf still from where she used to live (which is like a hour or 2 from were she lives now) but I still asked her if she would want to hangout sometime. She said sure when shes not busy and told me to "keep in touch".

Now my sister always told me to talk to her everytime I saw her and she was around cause she knew I liked her, so I told her that I finally talked to her and also mentioned she said she had a bf which did bummed me out a little but not much. She said don't get so worked out over it if she is still willing to want to hangout with you, cause you never know since you live here and he (the bf) lives there.

Anyways long story short, I wanna know....Should I hope that this friendship that is devoloping here could and might become something more or just know we will always be just friends? I don't wanna get myself excited over what my sister said so im asking you, the people of TFP to help me on this.

So don't feel bad if what you say is not what I want to hear cause I want all of your honest opinions on this, thanks for your time for reading this and I can't wait to hear all of your guys and gals replies .

Great_White

Well i mean even if it could be more than friends you dont want to get too excited.

Just play it by ear, make it clear your interested. After that its in her court whether she wants to return the interest or just shrug it off.
Shes not gonna dislike you for being interested, so just go with it.

HurleyBoy

thanks for your comment Great_White, I'll keep that in mind and play it by ear like you said .

Key

i don't see a critical junction coming anytime soon. you barely know the girl. just have fun with her, get to know her.

generally when you're pursuing a girl for romantic reasons, you want to make it obvious from the start, otherwise you end up in the friend zone. but in this case, she's already got a bf. hitting on her would just be plain tacky.

as far as the terms of their relationship, you don't know what it's like. maybe it's a loose bf she never really went out with long term, maybe they've been sweethearts since birth. regardless, you'll learn in time. so stop worrying about it and just have some good times until then.

who knows, maybe she knows some hotter friends

Prince

How about you just focus on becoming friends with her for now, and getting to know her. You seem a bit like you want to jump her pants, while you don't really know her at all.

Also, I don't understand why you have to know at this second whether you guys will be "just friends", or whether there might be more there somewhere. If you two ended up as just friends, would that really be so awful?

Don't wander into another man's territory, is what I'm saying. Unless you wouldn't mind the same thing happening to you someday.

By the way, as a general observation, why is it that the majority of people that post new threads asking for advice seem to be rookies?

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slimshaydee

He obviously wants more than that, so if they just become friends she's only gonna see him as a friend and nothing more.

Slauncha Man

I think it's way too soon to start jumping to conclusions. What if she wants to get married to her boyfriend, or what if he's abusive? What if she has genital herpes? You never know what kind of stipulations there are going to be until you get to know her better. But if you find out that she's a great girl and her relationship with her boyfriend is rapidly deteriorating, then you might have something. Until then, don't jump the gun, be patient, and good things may come.

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Prince

Maybe so, maybe no. My wife and I started out as just best of friends. You never know. The point I was trying to make was, there's no rush, you can head on down the road without knowing for certain where it leads.

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pinkie

The best relationships come from ones based on friendship. How could you spend your life with someone who wasn't?

War316

Look at it this way, right now you at the very least have someone pretty cool to hang out with. Moving to a new place and to say you have at least 1 friend is a damn good thing in my book.

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Kazic

Don't discount that she has a b/f obviously if it came up in the first convo whether he lives in town or not she has someone in her life atm.

As for you, I would try to "keep in touch" but don't push it as you could end up the " creepy guy who dosen't get the hint" or if she is really interested you could just let it develop on its own.

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