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thespian86 · 06-25-2004, 05:03 PM

Seriously, I'm acting like a five year old about this. I think I'm in love with an amazing woman who is moving away from me forever in 17 days and I can't tell her. She keeps asking to hang out with me but I make up excuses because I honestly won't let myself get heartbroken again.

I am one of those guys who lives his life through movies. I date, I love but all I really want is to make a break for it through airport security and catch the girl at the last moment and confess my love for her. So the question is, what the hell is wrong with me? Is this bad that I think like this.

Honestly, I'm naturally romantic, It's not just through movies or books or music but man... I'm having a hard time with this.

What should I do?

la petite moi · 06-25-2004, 05:45 PM

Man, you've gotta tell her. Even if she does move away, it may end up a fantastic long distance relationship.

Aladdin Sane · 06-25-2004, 06:37 PM

Ever heard the CLASH song, "What's my name?"

powerclown · 06-25-2004, 07:27 PM

Nothing's wrong with you.
One day, your going to make some person extremely happy.

analog · 06-25-2004, 08:09 PM

She's moving away no matter what.

The question is, do you feel as though it is absolutely imperative that you unburden your soul on her about this? How would you feel if someone told you something similar right before you were to go away? It's a bad bit of guilt you'd be placing on her... and if her feelings are somewhat mutual, there will also be a lot of pain.

Make a good choice, and don't look back. Us romantics have to live in the immediate and the future... living in the past (over sad things) will kill us.

Kazic · 06-25-2004, 08:43 PM

I have no idea how waiting to tell her at the last moment will do anything for you or her!
Personally I would tell her when I got the chance as this could be the last time to let things grow and at least you will have the days left.

phredgreen · 06-25-2004, 08:50 PM

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Originally posted by punkmusicfan21
all I really want is to make a break for it through airport security and catch the girl at the last moment and confess my love for her.

i say go for it.

DelayedReaction · 06-25-2004, 09:20 PM

I would suggest telling her BEFORE you hit airport security. The last thing we need is a new headline on FARK about a guy shutting down and airport because he thought he was in Hollywood.

Tell her. Now.

Kurant · 06-25-2004, 09:58 PM

Grow some nuts.

You can figure out for yourself what that means.

primal · 06-26-2004, 07:52 AM

You should have told her months ago. Tell her as soon as possible or you'll regret it for a long time. Try to make sure that she doesn't feel guilty about leaving. The longer you wait the worse it's going to be.

jbrooks544 · 06-26-2004, 04:23 PM

You say you "think" you are in love with her. Well, are you or aren't you? True love - once in a lifetime love - is an undeniable and un-questioned thing. If she is "the one" then there will be no doubt in your mind and not "think" about it. If you are, actually in love with her then tell her and do something about it. It is a bit late though. If you had a couple months to start and forge a relationship then maybe then you would definitely know whether you should or could chase after her. Now, with such short time-frame, I don't see how you could do much about it - unless you told her you loved her and she felt the same way. If she moves away and then 3 weeks later you realize that you can't live without her for the rest of your life, then tell her all about it and go move to her city, etc. etc. This is what I did, but it was after a two month relationship - so it didn't seem so sudden. If she doesn't feel the same, then you might just come off as obsessive, infatuated and a stalker. If it is right, then you will know it without questioning it. Whenever people ask me "how do you know when it is right?", I tell them "If you have to ask, then it might not be right, because you will know without questioning when it is."

AfterBurn · 06-27-2004, 09:09 PM

Do whatever you think is right. If I were you I'd definatly tell her how I feel..

BooRadley · 06-27-2004, 11:14 PM

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Originally posted by AfterBurn
Do whatever you think is right but remember, GIRLS ARE NOT A RARE THING, theres like 438943984398 girls that are single in your area alone and if you hang out at places where the kinds of girls that youd like would be then theres like 43894389 oppertunities there, so don't worry if things don't work out theres about 500 more situations where you'll meet really hot/your type girls

Good point, and an easy to forget one.

Skettios · 06-28-2004, 07:24 AM

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Originally posted by AfterBurn
Do whatever you think is right but remember, GIRLS ARE NOT A RARE THING, theres like 438943984398 girls that are single in your area alone and if you hang out at places where the kinds of girls that youd like would be then theres like 43894389 oppertunities there, so don't worry if things don't work out theres about 500 more situations where you'll meet really hot/your type girls

I don't think it's that easy. There are a lot of girls, but that doesn't mean you'll have anything in common with more than 3% of them.

Punk, I say go for it. No one is ever going to laugh at you or look down on you for telling someone you love that you're in love with them.

You're losing this girl anyway, so you may as well make a stand.

Do it for everyone on this board that has always wanted to make that grand romantic gesture, and never has.

AfterBurn · 06-28-2004, 07:30 AM

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Originally posted by Skettios
I don't think it's that easy. There are a lot of girls, but that doesn't mean you'll have anything in common with more than 3% of them.

If you're into intelligent women and you hang out at Harvard or whatever theres a good chance that the women there are intelligent. If you hang out at like punk rock concerts there's a good chance that girls there like punk rock etc

st33lr4t · 06-28-2004, 08:28 AM

just tell her. whats the worst that can happen? dont live life with regrets.

bbrown4 · 07-15-2004, 03:12 PM

st33lr4t is dead-on right - free yourself, let it out already.

RainbowBright · 07-15-2004, 06:21 PM

How long have you been feeling this way? It's amazing how feelings are tempered with miles between you. If you truly love her you'll go to her 6 months from now. If it's less then that you'll probably meet someone even better 6 months from now. I say give it some time and space and see what happens.

ruggerp11 · 07-16-2004, 09:59 AM

UPDATE!
GO for it, we all need you too lol.

water_boy1999 · 07-16-2004, 10:06 AM

What do you have to lose? You will think about this forever as something you were a pussy about. Do it, tell us what happens after you do. I owuld expect nothing less my friend.

I too am a hopeless romantic. I have always had this dream that I will stop a marraige from happening with my one true love.....I walk through the doors right before the pastor says, "You may kiss the bride". I walk up and profess my love for someone.....bah... who am I kidding!

StickODynomite · 07-16-2004, 03:24 PM

What are you waiting for? Tell her !

ManWithAPlan · 07-17-2004, 05:53 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by punkmusicfan21
Seriously, I'm acting like a five year old about this. I think I'm in love with an amazing woman who is moving away from me forever in 17 days and I can't tell her. She keeps asking to hang out with me but I make up excuses because I honestly won't let myself get heartbroken again.

I am one of those guys who lives his life through movies. I date, I love but all I really want is to make a break for it through airport security and catch the girl at the last moment and confess my love for her. So the question is, what the hell is wrong with me? Is this bad that I think like this.

Honestly, I'm naturally romantic, It's not just through movies or books or music but man... I'm having a hard time with this.

What should I do?

i didn't know this site hosted my autobiography..

well, the romantic part is, sadly i havn't found a solution for things like that... being romantic is torturous sometimes.

Generic: if you think she is possibly the one, then you have to tell her. if not, maybe you should spare yourself.. and her

06-25-2004, 05:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
thespian86 change is hard. Location: the green room.	WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?! Seriously, I'm acting like a five year old about this. I think I'm in love with an amazing woman who is moving away from me forever in 17 days and I can't tell her. She keeps asking to hang out with me but I make up excuses because I honestly won't let myself get heartbroken again. I am one of those guys who lives his life through movies. I date, I love but all I really want is to make a break for it through airport security and catch the girl at the last moment and confess my love for her. So the question is, what the hell is wrong with me? Is this bad that I think like this. Honestly, I'm naturally romantic, It's not just through movies or books or music but man... I'm having a hard time with this. What should I do? __________________ EX: Whats new? ME: I officially love coffee more then you now. EX: uh... ME: So, not much.

06-25-2004, 06:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
Aladdin Sane Degenerate Location: San Marvelous	Ever heard the CLASH song, "What's my name?" __________________ Ceterum censeo Carthaginem esse delendam.

06-25-2004, 08:43 PM	#6 (permalink)
Kazic Psycho Location: Fortress of Solitude	I have no idea how waiting to tell her at the last moment will do anything for you or her! Personally I would tell her when I got the chance as this could be the last time to let things grow and at least you will have the days left. __________________ "Computer games don't affect kids; I mean if Pac-Man affected us as kids,we'd all be running around in darkened rooms, munching magic pills and listening to repetitive electronic music." -Kristian Wilson, Nintendo, Inc, 1989

06-25-2004, 09:20 PM	#8 (permalink)
DelayedReaction BFG Builder Location: University of Maryland	I would suggest telling her BEFORE you hit airport security. The last thing we need is a new headline on FARK about a guy shutting down and airport because he thought he was in Hollywood. Tell her. Now. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, you must be having an orgasm.

06-26-2004, 07:52 AM	#10 (permalink)
primal Crazy Location: Oklahoma City	You should have told her months ago. Tell her as soon as possible or you'll regret it for a long time. Try to make sure that she doesn't feel guilty about leaving. The longer you wait the worse it's going to be. __________________ "Where the white women at?" -Sheriff Bart (Blazing Saddles)

06-25-2004, 05:45 PM	#2 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Man, you've gotta tell her. Even if she does move away, it may end up a fantastic long distance relationship.

06-25-2004, 07:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
powerclown Junkie Location: Detroit, MI	Nothing's wrong with you. One day, your going to make some person extremely happy.

06-25-2004, 08:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
analog Banned	She's moving away no matter what. The question is, do you feel as though it is absolutely imperative that you unburden your soul on her about this? How would you feel if someone told you something similar right before you were to go away? It's a bad bit of guilt you'd be placing on her... and if her feelings are somewhat mutual, there will also be a lot of pain. Make a good choice, and don't look back. Us romantics have to live in the immediate and the future... living in the past (over sad things) will kill us.

06-25-2004, 09:58 PM	#9 (permalink)
Kurant Junkie Location: Don't worry about it.	Grow some nuts. You can figure out for yourself what that means.

06-26-2004, 04:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
jbrooks544 Addict	You say you "think" you are in love with her. Well, are you or aren't you? True love - once in a lifetime love - is an undeniable and un-questioned thing. If she is "the one" then there will be no doubt in your mind and not "think" about it. If you are, actually in love with her then tell her and do something about it. It is a bit late though. If you had a couple months to start and forge a relationship then maybe then you would definitely know whether you should or could chase after her. Now, with such short time-frame, I don't see how you could do much about it - unless you told her you loved her and she felt the same way. If she moves away and then 3 weeks later you realize that you can't live without her for the rest of your life, then tell her all about it and go move to her city, etc. etc. This is what I did, but it was after a two month relationship - so it didn't seem so sudden. If she doesn't feel the same, then you might just come off as obsessive, infatuated and a stalker. If it is right, then you will know it without questioning it. Whenever people ask me "how do you know when it is right?", I tell them "If you have to ask, then it might not be right, because you will know without questioning when it is."

06-27-2004, 09:09 PM	#12 (permalink)
AfterBurn Psycho	Do whatever you think is right. If I were you I'd definatly tell her how I feel.. __________________ smoking weed everyday keeps the doctor away Last edited by AfterBurn; 06-28-2004 at 07:27 AM..

06-28-2004, 08:28 AM	#16 (permalink)
st33lr4t Psycho Location: Dallas, Tx	just tell her. whats the worst that can happen? dont live life with regrets.

07-15-2004, 03:12 PM	#17 (permalink)
bbrown4 Upright	st33lr4t is dead-on right - free yourself, let it out already.

07-15-2004, 06:21 PM	#18 (permalink)
RainbowBright Crazy	How long have you been feeling this way? It's amazing how feelings are tempered with miles between you. If you truly love her you'll go to her 6 months from now. If it's less then that you'll probably meet someone even better 6 months from now. I say give it some time and space and see what happens.

07-16-2004, 09:59 AM	#19 (permalink)
ruggerp11 Cautiously soaring Location: exploring my new home in SF	UPDATE! GO for it, we all need you too lol. __________________ Patriotism means being loyal to your country all the time and to its government when it deserves it. --Mark Twain Do What makes you happy --Me BUT! "Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness" - Chuang-Tzu

07-16-2004, 10:06 AM	#20 (permalink)
water_boy1999 Fly em straight! Location: Above and Beyond	What do you have to lose? You will think about this forever as something you were a pussy about. Do it, tell us what happens after you do. I owuld expect nothing less my friend. I too am a hopeless romantic. I have always had this dream that I will stop a marraige from happening with my one true love.....I walk through the doors right before the pastor says, "You may kiss the bride". I walk up and profess my love for someone.....bah... who am I kidding! __________________ Doh!!!! -Homer Simpson

07-16-2004, 03:24 PM	#21 (permalink)
StickODynomite Insane Location: Arizona :\|	What are you waiting for? Tell her ! __________________ "The human mind is like a parachute, it works best when open."