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Rlyss

It is pretty normal for her to be sore after trying penetration. If you think about it, it's pretty logical. That area's never had anything like a penis in there before, suddenly it's gotta be stretched to accomodate one, so it makes sense to be a little sore.

So that answers that.

If she's up for receiving oral then go for it. If you can't find her clit then it's time to swallow your pride and ask her If the roles were reversed I'm sure you'd rather have your partner ask and then have the fun begin, rather than always fumbling around!

And yes it is possible that her clit just isn't as sensitive as others' clits. Everyone's different and although the clit is generally the most sensitive part in most women, it's possible that hers just isn't too responsive to the attention you've given it so far.

Congratulations for taking it very slowly, and make sure you let her know how good she was at giving you head. If she's unsure of herself, having not been far with a guy, that'll be a huge booster for her

Ask her lots of questions, without appearing too ignorant, and let her tell and show you what feels good

doncalypso

Clitorises come in all sizes... It's not that you're a fool or too rusty, but rather that hers is very small compared to other women you've been with.

Another explanation could be that her clitoris retracted due to high levels of arousal and stimulation because it is a known fact that a woman's clitoris will retract if she's already getting near to orgasm.

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ratbastid

Every vagina is different, and (despite what some knuckleheads might post) every vagina is beautiful. Part of what's great about the vagina is the total mystery that it is. Each woman likes slightly different things. You can never know in advance. There's no such thing as "good technique"--all there is is getting good at pleasing one woman.

Communication is the answer, here. Ask her what she likes. Ask her to masturbate for you, if she's willing. You'll learn a ton.

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SixEdxMia

*sigh*

I am pleased & embarrassed by you boys...

She is not relaxed!!

First.. don't assume that she isnt interested,she has yet to experience the hot and heavy stuff that keeps the rest of us coming back for more...

*IF* she is gets excited her clit will swell and you CANT miss it.Not all clits are the size of a grape.Maybe she doesnt want to be poked*and petted* in the same way as the OTHER girls did,and you cant expect her to,
You need to be careful,cautious,curious and attentive.
Worry less about penetration.
She deserves to cum a few times before you get yours.
You need to get down on some hardcore foreplay.

Hey body works the same as every other girls I am sure,but no two are alike.Lick it til she wiggles,and put a finger or two in there..The entire thing is sensitive,and you..Are rusty.

P.S.NEVER touch her DRY* spit or lube.Please.

Some guys are so blind to these things.

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Ratso

Heh. That's the kind of tough love I needed. Thanks.

Arsenic7

Also...you KNOW her clit is under the hood somewhere. You don't necessarily need direct contact. Some stimulation of the area abover her hood might be enough.

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sexymama

SixEdxMia is absolutely right! Another idea, squeeze her lips together around her hood and gently rub them back and forth with your fingers, this may stimulate her clit enough to "bring it out" of hiding.

She may only masturbate when bored; but still ask her to masturbate for you, so ask! (Let her know you will find it sexy as well as that it will enable you to learn more about her body.)

Whatever you do -- take your time, focus on her, relax and have fun!

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pig

Ratso, Quick question: how much are you focused on this issue with your girl, and how visibly are you demonstrating your desire to get her to orgasm? I've found that your young lady-friend can frequently sense if you're stressing about something in the bedroom, and get something of the performance anxiety that is usually associated with us males being on the short end of length or time. You say she's still tense, or that you sense some tension. I would suggest you consider backing off of the explicit physical sexual action, and play around a little bit with things that have nothing to do with getting in her pants.

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maleficent

Psssst -- let ya in on a secret -- All women are different -- big surprise huh? What would be the fun if we were all the same?

Relax a little, Pigglet's got the right idea, spend more time on foreplay and you will be seen as a god, and foreplay doesn't always have to result in the act itself.

Why the rush? Sex is supposed to be fun, enjoyable, not frustrating... Don't work so hard and it will happen. Let her guide your hands where she wants them-- and what feels good for her.

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dabossy2k

Hey just a reminder that some culturals get that bad boy (girl) cut off at a young age. Just a thought.

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Averett

She's just new to it. She's nervous. I was the exact same way. There isn't anything you can do but give her time and make her as comfortable as possible. If she want's to do things in the dark with you under the covers, then do that. Eventually she'll come out of her shell and become more confident and be able to tell you what she likes and what she wants.

Just let her know what you'll do what she needs to make her comfortable. Don't pressure her. Be easy with her.

There's nothing wrong with her at all, she just needs some time thats all

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SixEdxMia

I posted my comments before,but I came back to check on you.
I am sure she is very nervous,I had the image of you under the hood of a car adjusting the carb,and cursing.

I had an issue when I first started fooling around,I didn't let him get me off for over a year.We would have sex,he would tickle me,it would turn me on,but I would just .. finish up on my own later on,I didnt want him to see me getting off.I didnt understand that every one came in the same way,I didnt know that everyone looked pretty much the same,and I was too nervous to let myself enjoy himanmd it's kind of too bad because we could have had much more fun..Good thing you are not a psychologist,by the way,because when it comes to girls you are kind of clueless.She is allowed to be overly anxious,uncomfortable,worried,upset,and scared,You are after all expecting her to preform in a certain way,and she is no starlet yet.You aren't permitted to be frustrated if you are in it for more than pussy.She doesn't owe you anything,and I am sure that she feels immense pressure from you,even if you are gentle,she knows what you want,and she knows she has let you down.Now back off a bit.... Get her drunk,and do it under the covers. Good luck.

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agball

Perhaps a few cocktails before you get things going will help the 2 of you relax a bit. (Of course only if you are of legal drinking age!!)

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analog

She's very nervous about it still, the anxiety is tensing her up. You need more talking and/or set up a better atmosphere to solve this.

Nitrox

Have you ever seen her masturbate?

My wife had never really had an orgasm from sexual activity before and had always masturbated while by herself. When I met her, I got her to start touching herself while we were screwing around. I did it for two reasons, one to watch what she did to see what type of rhythym she liked and to also get her to drop the veil that this activity was only done alone.

Much, much, much more satisfying sex ensued.