Xsas

For the past couple of months, I have been adamantly against asking girls out on dates, because I believe that dates are for girls you're already hooking up with. (It's not like I can't get dates, it's just I don't want to ask someone out. re: too much effort.) To me, dates are just too cliché

Discuss.

(I'm not asking HOW to ask a girl out)

Nancy

hehe wouldn't know about that, we don't date in Denmark

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Xsas

You have all that kinky European sex right?

Nancy

something like that

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I think my mask of sanity is about to slip.

ratbastid

So you're saying it should go:

1) Casual Acquaintance
2) Hot Monkey Sex
3) Dating

Things may have changed since my time... okay, things definitely have changed since my time... but it still feels like you've got the cart before the horse there, so to speak.

Nisses

No, he's saying that as far as he is concerned, actual dating should be with somebody where there is already mutual interest. Not blindly asking people out on dates and afterwards figuring out if there is a connection at all.

And no dating here either. It's not something you just do for the heck of it around here.

So I would agree with you there, dating should come a little later.

Unless you wanna label any and all time you spend with people as dating.

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ruggerp11

What do you guys do then? If not dating do you just go to the club and get some action, and if it's good enough seek them out again?

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Averett

Straight to fucking?

Romance is dead.

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Wolph

How do you know if you have a conection with a random stranger if you don't go out with them?
If I see a women on the street I would ask her to go do something lowkey say get coffee or something then we would find out if we where compatible. How do you know if you don't spend time with them?

Bill O'Rights

Nah. Don't you believe it, for a second. There're still a lot of us "old school" guys out there.

The problem that I do see is too many guys are getting their inter-gender relationship skills from sitcoms and porno's.

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ratbastid

So maybe the definition of the phrase "hooking up with" has changed since my time?

Xsas

Yah, I agree with spending time, maybe cofee with strangers, but not full fledged dates, especially not with people you've talked with before.